Condoms are possibly one of the best inventions humanity has ever come up with. Not only do they serve as a useful form of contraception but more importantly provide increased protection from sexually transmitted diseases and infections (STDs & STIs). Despite this, we often get asked the same two questions: How effective are condoms and why should I be using them?
AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) has killed nearly 25 million people worldwide since it was first officially diagnosed in the early 1980s. Thanks to the successful global application and usage of condoms the rates of infection have dropped particularly in the western hemisphere. Whilst there is still a lot of work to be done in educating the less developed nations, the fact remains that condoms provide an effective screen of protection against STDs like HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus – the precursor to AIDS) and many STIs like Gonorrhoea and Chlamydia. The latex prevents genital secretions that contain many STDs and STIs from coming into content with the other person’s genitals and skin.
But sex just doesn’t feel the same with a condom. If we trust each other can’t we just get rid of it?
Sure you can. But ask yourself a few questions first; how well do you really know your fuck buddy? How many other partners do you see on a regular basis? How many other partners do they see on a regular basis? When you sleep with someone without a condom, unless you’ve known them for a long time and 100% trust them, then remember that not only are you sleeping with them; you’re also sleeping with every other person they’ve slept with.
But having a fuck buddy is casual so why the need for condoms?
2 reasons plain and simple: Protection and trust.
As a guy, wearing a condom shows your partner that you are to be trusted. The sex is more likely to be great as a result. As a woman insisting the guy wear a condom before you have sex shows you’re not willing to risk either party. Again the sex is more likely to be enjoyed by both.
In order to enjoy sex to its maximum potential both parties need to be comfortable and feel safe and able to trust each other in and out of the bedroom. Using condoms ensures this level of trust.
But condoms desensitise things and sex just doesn’t feel the same.
Wake up and smell the 21st Century! Leaving aside the fact that there are now many types of condoms available to increase sensitivity for both parties (check out the ‘ultra fine’ condom from Durex and anything from the Skyn brand) don’t forget that you also have fingers, hands, a tongue…face it, an entire body to play with. We are highly sensual creatures and can be aroused and pleasured for hours without the need for penetrative sex.
And even when you do want to fuck each other’s brains out, using a condom means you can have penetrative sex and really let yourself go without worrying.
Lubricate and Celebrate!
There are so many sex products available to buy these days to help make sex an even more enjoyable experience and up the ante as well. A condom is not a barrier to sex; it is increased protection against things that can ruin your enjoyment of sex.
Have fun and remember; sheaf up!