We’ve discussed this topic before on the f-buddy blog, but we have to return to it repeatedly. I was surfing the internet just this morning and I stumbled across a site that shares people’s stories of casual sex and instant hook ups. They were all quite interesting, kinky and in one case laugh out loud funny. However a common thread ran through each of the stories and it sent a chill running down the back of my spine. None of the people sharing their stories used contraceptives or any kind of protection against STIs. The worst bit was that they were all quite open and honest about it, and about 60% of the people sharing their hook up stories were female.
Kind of puts paid to the myth that only women give a shit about safe sex doesn’t it?
BASIC CASUAL SEX RULES PEOPLE!
Here’s a question for you to ponder.
Would you want to eat food handled by someone you saw sneeze into it? No? Would you want to lick the dirt off your shoes? No?
Of course you wouldn’t! You’re a smart person (presumably) and wouldn’t want to risk getting ill.
So why would you willingly engage in unprotected sex with someone you’d just met?
Sex is great and we can all agree that it often feels so much better without using a condom. Yet condoms have saved millions of lives whilst allowing us to fuck like bunnies at the same time. This myth that condoms reduce the sensation is old news and untrue. You can get so many different varieties of condoms now including ones that are extra fine to increase sensation during intercourse. There really is no excuse not to be using them! Not only do they protect you from unwanted pregnancy but they also safeguard against any sexually transmitted infections or diseases.
Sex for the first time should always be safe
Don’t get us wrong! Once you’ve gotten to know someone and have developed a level of trust that is implicit (which usually comes from being in a monogamous relationship) feel free to have all the unprotected sex you want! But when you have unprotected sex with someone you don’t know that well, you are not only sleeping with them, you are also sleeping with all the other people they have slept with. Your new fuck buddy might be totally trustworthy, but who’s to say that everyone they previously slept with was?
When you are in the casual hook up scene and you’re having sex with someone new, don’t be a prick – put a Johnnie on your dick!
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