When you in the throes of dating people, when you have hit your stride, the whole thing seems easy! You are focused on having fun and enjoying the ride and so you do enjoy the ride. It is sometimes hard to remember what it was like when you were first re-entering the sexual marketplace, and how nervous and unsure you were at times. If you are reading this and you are in that place of just trying to get back on the horse and get back to dating, take heart. Soon you will be that person who wonders why people think it is difficult, because for you, it will have become simple fun!
So you have been out of it for a while. Perhaps you were in a long term relationship and that recently ended. Or maybe you were out of the country. There is always the possibility that you were just working really hard, and that left you little to no time to think about spending time with someone else - even if they were drop dead gorgeous. In many ways, the reasons here do not matter. If you have been out of the game for a while, it can be really hard to get back in the game. The whole thing feels intimidating, difficult to enter, and a lot of hard work! In fact, the effort required can sometimes seem so huge, that it feels like it is not worth the effort in comparison to the gain of finding someone to sleep with! As crazy as that sounds to anyone reading this who already has a fuck buddy on the go, or has someone nicely set up in a no strings attached relationship, it remains true. Those of you reading this who have been out of the system for a while know exactly what I am talking about here. So what is the key to getting back in the game?
Just do it!
I could give you tips and techniques, and there are other articles on this website that will do this, but the overriding thing here is action. Take action – any action – to sleep with someone. You don’t even have to be successful to begin with, you just have to do it. That is the main thing. Take massive action.
Start now
Do something right now. Make it small, make it easy, make it simple. Doing something now will help you build momentum so that you can then keep doing things. My top suggestion is send one person a message on this website right now. That will get you going.
Keep doing it – and you will find yourself sleeping with someone.
It really is as simple as that. So what are you waiting for?
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