For men – focus on your photos

This article is aimed primarily at men. When looking for an f-buddy, you come here, you log on and you message some people. Since 95% of the meet ups that occur have been initiated by the guy messaging the girl, men often forget that sometimes the girl is the one looking for the guy! Whilst his happens rarely in terms of the online interaction process, what will happen is that when you message a girl the first thing that a girl will look at is your photos.

As a man you will have spent time sorting out all the parts of your life. Your job, your home set up, your social groups. We are defined by so much more than simply what we look like. However, when you message a girl and she clicks on your profile, the gateway to her meeting you remains the profile pic. She will look at the main photo, and make an instant and shallow judgement on whether she might fancy you or not. If it is a yes she will click through. If it is a maybe then depending on how busy she is and how many other messages she has she may or may not click through. If it is a no, she will click away. You could be a brain surgeon that saves people’s lives on a daily basis and lives in a mansion, but unless that picture looks good she will simply never find out any of this. She will already have moved on to someone else who has made sure that their photo isn’t a badly taken blur of a person in a dark room.

So what are the top three tips for photos?

• Ensure that the photos are not blurry. A blurred photo is an instant turn off.
• Ensure that it is good quality. Most camera phones can take outstanding photos these days, so there is no excuse for the blurry low resolution mess that I see sometimes. That is going to get you nowhere.
• Ensure that it is obvious who you are in the photo. A group photo can be great; it shows you have friends and displays social proof. However, if they do not know which one you are they will move on. For your profile picture a photo of just you on your own is best.

No one can make you look different to what you actually look like, however a decent photo will make all the difference to getting a face to face meeting with a girl.