I have dated women who at the time I thought were way out of my league. I’ve dated stereotypically hot eastern European women who all seem to look like they’ve walked off the cover of a bikini shoot. I’ve dated athletically good looking blonde former police officers. I even accidentally got drunk at a film premier party and ended up in bed with a very hot dancer the same night. I never thought I would ever come even close to dating let alone sleeping with women of this supposedly ‘high’ calibre. But I did.
What kind of person am I?
I would stereotypically be called a bit of a geek. I love science fiction and fantasy. I enjoy role playing. I love movies and I love reading. I’m not an athlete though I do go to the gym at least once a week to try and stay healthy and prevent middle age spread. I am not and never was the typical high school jock that had all the girls clamouring for his attention. It took me quite a few years to realise what my strengths were and how I could show them more in my personality. Eventually I realised the following about myself:
1. People think I’m funny and have a good sense of humour
2. I like meeting new people and chatting about no end of subjects
3. I’m intelligent
4. I have a full life with lots going on
Now when I look at that list now, I think “Wow! I actually sound like a pretty cool guy!” But I have never been able to think that about myself until the last few years. At school I got picked on, ignored and generally trodden on by students and staff alike. I never knew what my worth was because it had been engrained into my psyche that I had no worth beyond providing a few cheap laughs. Now I realise I had more worth than anyone else at school. It has helped me find myself and learn that I am a good person.
And that dear reader is the key to finding a hot date.
RECOGNISE YOUR AWESOMENESS - AKA - BE YOURSELF
Everyone is different and everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Some people are more naturally athletic, some are more naturally funny, some are more naturally intelligent, and some are more naturally good natured. Whatever your strength is, tap into it and share it on your profile as much as you can. There will be a hot date out there who likes you for you. Anything else is a waste.