Casual sex is different to dating. Or is it? In the US cities all over the country including San Diego, Miami and Portland have a vibrant and forward thinking attitude when it come to casual sex. In fact 9 out of 10 women in the US consider it okay to date several men at the same time and 7 out of 10 women believe it fine to sleep with more then one man at the same time. Keeping your options open is prided highly. But is there a difference in a fuck buddy relationship as opposed to a dating relationship? And should you do dinner before you jump your f-buddy or should you just get down and dirty right away?
The Dating Game
Dating has long been thought of as a game and when you study it closely it’s easy to spot certain rules that men and women abide to subconsciously. Men are often expected to make the first move at the initial encounter in a bar or club. Women are expected to wait for the man to call first. Men are expected to fight for the woman’s attention in the initial encounter or social situation. Women are expected to tease the men vying for her attention deciding on which one she should go for based on their skill in conversation and ability to withstand other challengers.
It all sounds like something out of the 1950s or even something out of prehistoric times. In our view the dating game has changed significantly and the lines between dating and casual sex have blurred.
Casual Sex and Dating
If you’re dating lots of people at the same time it’s entirely possible you might sleep with more then 1 person whilst dating other people. That’s fine and according to the stats in the US it’s definitely fine. Yet there is still a difference between dating and casual sex and it comes down to what your initial goal is.
1. If you’re agreed to meet up with a guy/girl and your sole intent is to have sex with them then it’s not really a date. It’s a hook up and you shouldn’t really bother with dinner.
2. If you’ve agreed to meet up with a guy/girl but the intent is to go out for a drink or a coffee etc, and the intent is to see what happens, then dinner could very well be a pre-sex option.
The lines are blurred so 9 times out of 10 you have to trust your own judgement and take it from there. One thing is for certain however; dating casual or otherwise will lead to sex. The question you need to ask yourself is whether it’s just sex or something more.
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