Outside of the adult dating forum in the more vanilla walk of life, there are so many pressures that mean people “settle”. They want kids, they want security, they are too scared to push harder for what they really want. They are happy with some aspects of the relationship so they settle on the rest. There are parts of the relationship that they would like to change or improve, but they are too scared of risking the whole thing to address it, so that element never gets addressed or fixed. I am here to give you one clear message in this article. When you are choosing a fuck buddy, aim high, because you can!
With a fuck buddy, you both know why you are there. You are there for the sex and you are not interested in the strings that usually get attached to long term relationships. There is also no expectation of it lasting any more than one night. That is not to say that it will not last more than one night. Many do, and the longer you are together the better the sex gets so it is worth doing if you are with someone you like having sex with, but there is no expectation of it. This brings the pressure right down, it means that there is less holding you back from being honest because you are not invested in the outcome. You can be in the moment and true to how you are feeling. So what does this mean? It means you can aim high!
If you are not having the best sex of your life right now, with a fuck buddy you can make that happen. You are both there for the sex, so it is easy and legitimate to have conversations with the other person about the sex. You can talk openly about what you like and don’t like. You can express your preferences and kinks. You can even talk about your fantasies and secret sexual desires… and you can do all of this because ultimately if they are not into it, it does not matter. The whole coupling was always temporary anyway so you lose nothing by taking the risk of trying to make things amazing. I think that is the best part about it, you really can take risks with your fuck buddy, the kind of risks that you might hesitate to take with a long term relationship.
So with your fuck buddy, aim high! You might well get there.