There have been a lot of questions flying around about when the best times to text a fuck buddy after you’ve slept together for the first time are. The answer really does depend solely on what you’re doing in the rest of your life and when you want to meet up with your ‘friend’ to get a little of those ‘benefits’.
Morning Vs Evening texts
There is and always will be a massive debate in the dating world over when is the best time to contact a potential date/lover/girlfriend/boyfriend after you’ve slept together. The simple answer is this; there is no set time.
Everyone is different so it will always depend on what kind of relationship you have formed with your new man/woman. In an f-buddy situation a simplified answer would be ‘text whenever one of you feels up for it!’ Whilst that is true, it can backfire spectacularly in your face. Let’s look at some examples to illustrate;
Morning texts
Jill gets a text from Simon the guy she slept with two nights before telling her how horny he is and if she was up for a bit of morning action. Jill is at work when she received this text and is busy trying to finish an important project. Simon’s texts whilst flattering, are distracting her from her work.
She doesn’t respond.
Simon texts again because she hasn’t responded. Jill gets stressed and fed up and says she can’t talk right now.
Simon’s Problem
Simon has actually done the right thing: texted his new f-buddy to let her know he wants to see her again. However the mistake Simon made is sending a follow up text when he didn’t receive a response to the first during the day. People are busy, and whilst it is always great to receive a message from someone telling you how much you want them, you shouldn’t get worried just because they haven’t responded right away.
So the rule for morning texts:
Text once, but if you don’t get a response, don’t follow up until later in the evening when the person is more likely to be out of work and in the mood for some social interaction.
Evening Texts
Evening texts can be great. They can also get out of control if you don’t get the right balance of teasing and text foreplay right.
Harry gets a text from Sarah at about 10 in the evening asking if he fancies popping over for some late night action. Harry is out with his friends but replies saying that he’ll text her later when he’s free and if she’s still free then sure why not!
Sarah texts back teasing Harry, telling him about what she’s wearing and what she’s doing to herself. Harry sees a few and smiles but is out with his friends so doesn’t respond. Eventually Sarah bombards him with a new message every minute to the point where Harry just ignores his phone.
Sarah’s Problem
Sarah has done the right thing by clearly indicating her desire to have sex with Harry asap. The teasing is fine too and serves to make Harry even more aroused. However sending a new text every 30 seconds or so just serves to make Harry get fed up and ignore her.
So the rule for evening texts:
Tease by all means. But control your text level. Sending a few messages to indicate what you want is fine. Jamming someone’s mailbox with constant texts not only serves to kill the mood, it also makes you come across as a bit desperate.
Text your way to sexess
There are no absolutes in this. After you’ve slept with someone the stupid rules of ‘when should I text them?’ tend to evaporate fairly quickly. However when you do text, you still need to observe basic decency and remember that everyone has a life outside of you and commitments away from the bedroom. Tease, don’t taunt. Play don’t bully.
Happy sexting!
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