It's not about how big you are, it's about finding the right fit

There is an ongoing lasting attitude in the west that big is better. When we go to restaurants we look at the portion size and judge the establishment based on that. When we go to clubs, the bigger the club the better it is deemed to be. The reason that people hire stretched limo’s for special occasions is all about the size – they are an unreasonably large car! The same application is made when we are judging people as a sexual partner, we still look to size.

With women, the size of their boobs is what is being judged, and for me it is their penis. In the case of both, the bigger the better… or so the general attitude goes. I am here to challenge this. In this article, I will argue that it is not about being a certain size objectively, but actually that this is a subjective test depending on who you are with. It is not about being big, it is about being the right fit, which means you can be too “small” but you can also be too “big” just as easily. We will discuss this with a focus on penis size.

If you have an unreasonably large dick, if you are extremely well hung, then yes women will sleep with you simply to experience this, as it is unusual. However, they may not stick around for more. The vagina is a pretty stretchable and elastic part of the body. It can stretch to accommodate almost any size… but this can be painful, and whilst the pain can be enjoyable in the moment, on a more regular basis this can get too much. It can cause the person to be unable to have sex regularly, as they need recovery time in between. Over time this can also lead to tearing, and that really does require healing time!

It is about finding the right fit. You want to be with someone that is the right size for you. As a woman, as long as the man is big enough to push into her, then this will be pretty much the same as if he was anything up to 25% bigger. She needs to feel the stretch, but she does not need to for it to be painfully damaging to her! Similarly the man needs a vagina that Is tight enough that he can really feel her gripping him whilst having sex, but it does not have to be much more than this. If it is tighter, then all that will happen is that she will stretch to accommodate him till, once again, it is the perfect fit.

Let go of this obsession with size. There may be times when it does make a difference, times when sexual compatibility is off because there is too large a gap between your physical features… but this is not as usual as you might think. We are designed to fit each other. Allow nature to take her course, she will handle everything for you.

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