It is possible to maintain a fuck buddy relationship longer then than the standard 3-6 months? Most people say no; a fuck buddy is generally a casual arrangement. Yet I know several people who maintain these causal arrangements for a lot longer then 6 months. One of my best friends has actually told me that she has been seeing a regular fuck buddy for over 2 years. They aren’t exclusive and they both see other people every now and then. They aren’t a couple and she actually said to me “I could never date him…he’s actually quite boring” but when it comes to sex, he pushes her buttons.
So how does she do it?
THE RULES
1. Don’t fall for you fuck buddy
My friend did think initially that her fuck buddy might be potential boyfriend material…until her told her that he didn’t think they’d work as a couple. Turns out he was right. She was upset at first, but soon got over that and basically just uses him for sex when she needs it. He has no complaints and neither does she.
2. Keep it Simple
You’re not dating so there’s no point in obsessing over what the other person is doing when they’re not with you. You live your life, they live theirs. You just occasionally meet for sex.
3. Keep them separate
The one thing my friend never does is invite her fuck buddy out with her friends or work colleagues. “He’s just for sex. Why would I want to introduce him to my friends?” Keep your sex pals separate from the rest of your life.
4. Don’t ask and Don’t tell
It’s not an exclusive relationship. That said to keep the flames alive you don’t want to know about each other’s escapades. So don’t ask, and they won’t tell. This keeps the passion fresh.
5. Your house, your rules
My friend generally goes over to her fuck buddy’s house, but she rarely stays the night. It’s just for sex and even though he has invited her to stay over, she finds it easier to just get done and get gone.
6. Double Talk
Phoning someone up saying “I want to have sex” is devoid of excitement. Inviting someone over ‘for a drink’ or a ‘bite to eat’ has the sexual undertone which keeps the excitement and makes it more endearing.
7. Be amazing in bed
No point in having sex with a fuck buddy if the sex isn’t great. As sex is the key element to having a fuck buddy, you better make sure you’re both damn amazing in the sack.
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