- Turned on by pregnant women?
- Aroused by feet?
- Constantly thinking about how you would tie up your partner and spank them until they scream?
If one of these fetishes sounds like you, call 0800 - … just kidding. If one of these fetishes sounds like you, don’t worry. Everyone has a kink whether they’ve discovered it or not. It might be as simple as enjoying sex more by an open fire. It might be as complicated as licking someone’s feet from under their desk whilst masturbating. Whatever your fetish may be, we’re here to help and to tell you that you shouldn’t be afraid. You are not alone. The trick is learning how to safely explore your fetish without it affecting the rest of your life.
How to explore your fetish safely
Talk to your partner
It sounds so simple when put like this, but you really do need to talk to your partner about what it is you want to do. If you don’t then you’re going to get frustrated and they’re going to be confused with your demeanour. It’s not fair on either party. Here are several ways you can approach it depending on your social status.
1. The Direct Approach
If you’re not good at working your way up to things and are a more ‘take it or leave it’ kind of person, then you should start with this approach. It will make you feel more comfortable in talking about your kink and this will translate into your body language. You will also come off as less passive-aggressive. It will also determine sooner rather than later as to whether or not your partner is on board.
2. Working your way up
A bit like extended foreplay this; working your way up to talking about it only works if you’re not a very direct person. Don’t wait too long to tell your partner as they may have already formed a completely different opinion of your sexuality. Be candid and honest and answer any questions they have to the best of your ability.
I do not recommend this at all, but it needs to be mentioned as some people don’t know how else to operate. If you can’t discuss your kink by either of the other two methods then you will most likely use the ‘if you really like me’ approach with your partner. Again I do not recommend it, but people are different and we must cater to all tastes. You’re much better off using either the direct or indirect approach.