Masturbating saved my marriage

EdBennett — Sat, 08 Dec 2018 17:47:10 +0000

8 Dec 2018 - 17:47 | Tags: masturbation is healthy, finding your inner fuck buddy

When you are younger, there is this feeling that masturbation is something that everyone does, but no one talks about. Without talking about it, there is this feeling that it is naughty in some way. You are not sure how or why, but you have this understanding that it is something that you shouldn’t be doing, and you certainly don’t talk to your parents about it. You do it because you are driven to by an instinct that comes from the body. It is the same instinct that helps drive you to hook up with people, to pursue that fuck buddy till you find yourself in bed together. It is healthy. This is a story from someone, who will remain anonymous, about how masturbation saved his marriage.

The relationship

I was in a long-term married relationship. In the early days, things were amazing. We were all over each other, we could not keep our hands off each other. We were not in a formal relationship, it was more like a friends-with-benefits setup. We met and fucked… but we also talked and laughed a lot. It was really nice. What started as a lust driven hook up quickly became more, and 7 years later I found myself married in a relationship that was far from what it was when it started. We argued all the time, there was a lot of unhappiness, and we hardly ever had sex any more. I did not know how to fix it, what to do. I knew how good it could be, but I had no idea how to recapture the sexual energy that we had when we first started.

I came home early

One day I came home early from work, much earlier than I ever do. I was tired. I popped my laptop bag on the floor, dropped the coat, and made my way upstairs to the bathroom, thinking that the house was empty. As fate had it, my wife’s daytime had cancelled, and she was home. I could hear loud music playing from the bathroom, masking the sound of my approach. I walked into the bathroom to find her in the bath, bubbles going and a glass of wine on the side, masturbating. Her eyes were closed and I could see the pleasure on her face. I stood, just watching for a while. It felt like walking into a porn movie, but one where my lady was the porn star. I could feel myself getting hard from watching this woman who I had fucked countless times, once again in the run-up to orgasm like she once did under my hand.

I joined in

With the energy of this in the room, I walked over and kissed her. It was not the peck on the lips from a husband, nor the soft gentle kiss of a long time lover, but the hungry needy kiss of a fuck buddy, the kind of kiss I used to do back in the day. Her shock dissolved to pleasure, and before I knew it I was joining her in the bath.

Fuck buddy fucking again changed everything

It changed everything. We both remembered what it was like, how much we wanted each other, and in the throws of orgasm, we found once again our lust for each other. It is amazing how much easier it is not to argue, to find the compromised in life when you are sexually satisfied.

I will never underestimate the importance of a good sex life. You may think that your problems come from something else, and maybe they do, but a great sex life can help to abate everything else.

Masturbation is healthy if you are a woman

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 15:32:30 +0000

30 Sep 2018 - 16:32 | Tags: masturbation is healthy, playing with yourself

Now that we are in 2018 we fully understand that orgasming is good for you. If you doubt this in any way, feel free to take a look at this article on the top 10 health benefits of sex. Sex and orgasming has now been proven beyond reasonable doubt to be good for both the mind and the body. For the mind it provides a rush of happy hormones that encourage an enjoyment of one’s life, it acts to drain and relieve stress which is a major contributor to everything from muscle tension all the way through to mental health and heart attacks. For the body it is an excellent source of exercise. It is calorie burning, it raises the heart rate and it also engages the muscles across the entire body. The act of orgasm is a whole body experience, it engages with every muscle and part of you from your feet right up to firing neurons in your brain. It truly is the ultimate work out!

For a long time, masturbation was something that was generally discouraged. It was seen as something uncouth, something dirty and naughty, something that you shouldn’t do. For a long time many people suppressed their desires to explore their own bodies. They knew it was “wrong” so they didn’t do it, and when they did they found themselves carrying a great amount of guilt about having done so. This would train the body and the brain into feeling guilt when orgasming, and this would carry over into sex as well, reducing their ability to come, and when they did come tainting the enjoyment with the emotion of guilt. This was not a healthy place to be.

In more recent times we have come to realise that there is nothing wrong with masturbating, in fact it is especially healthy if you are a woman. As well as all the general benefits that both men and women get from orgasming, women tend to be more complicated than men. If your fuck buddy is a woman, making her come is a much more onerous task than if your fuck buddy or hook up was a man. Women need certain stimulation, it is different for each of them, and they have to go a lot further in order to achieve orgasm. By masturbating, they can learn to come and orgasm in a stress free non-threatening environment. Once they have mastered the art of achieving orgasm alone, it is much easier for them to do the same with a partner.

So if you want to masturbate, I would encourage you to do so. It really is good for you, so enjoy yourself.