How to take charge in the bedroom – and why you should do it

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Nov 2018 10:22:55 +0000

29 Nov 2018 - 10:22 | Tags: dominate, learn through sex

When it comes to having sex, at any given point someone is leading the action. This is not to say that both people don’t want to have sex, not at all! In point of fact, the reason that most people would say yes to having a fuck buddy when offered is that most people want to have sex. This is regardless of gender, colour, age (if you are a legal adult of course!). Everyone wants to have a hook up, but for the hook up to happen, someone has to make it happen. There are times when two people meet, and things are so electric that the hormone driven lust takes care of everything… but even then, someone has to make a “move”, someone has to ask the other to come over for coffee, or take them by the hand and lead them to an empty bedroom at the party.

Who is leading the sex?

At the point of absolute sexual ecstasy, often there is no “leader”. You are moving as one, or as Shakespeare put it, you have become the beast with two backs. Till this point however, someone is leading. This can change and flip back and forth. Perhaps you are in charge when undressing your fuck buddy, then they are in charge when stripping clothes of their soon to be friends with benefits. For most of it, and someone is leading. So why should you step up and be the one to take charge in the bedroom?

Why you should be the one to lead

The biggest reason – to make sure it happens! If someone does not lead things, it is likely that you will not have sex. Sure, your fuck buddy might take charge, but if they do not there will be no sex if you don’t either, so better to be sure and step up! Do the other person a favour and help make it happen.
The other reason is that it is sexy! When you are leading things, you give the other person the chance to sit back and enjoy themselves. Since one of things that prevents orgasm is any level of stress, by leading it, you take away any feeling of stress or worry from the other person about little choices that make no actual difference. It allows your fuck buddy to relax and enjoy the experience more. The better the time they have, the better the time that you will have in the moment, and the more likely they are to come back for more if you want them to.

So take the lead a little, you will be doing you both a favour!

The best way to learn anything - is through sex

EdBennett — Mon, 13 Aug 2018 15:24:08 +0000

13 Aug 2018 - 16:24 | Tags: learn through sex, sex teacher

When most of us try and learn a new skill, the traditional route to do so is to study it. This could be done by sitting in a classroom and being taught it by a teacher. It could also be through learning on the job, by doing the thing that you are trying to learn until you get good at it. Some things are better learned the second way than the former, sex being a great example of this, you learn and get better the more you do it!

The best way to learn any new thing, is through sex. Whilst this is an unconventional approach, hear me out. I will take the example of learning a new language, let’s say… Japanese.

Motivation

Motivation is a big part of how quickly we learn. How motivated are you? How much do you really want to learn it? Even if you have a highly motivated bigger picture goal in mind, you really need motivation to do the little tasks at hand that are the stepping stones. If there is sex involved, this solves this entirely. We are more motivated by sex than anything else. The addition of a fuck buddy to your life can make a huge difference to your overall motivation levels. Say you are hooking up with someone who speaks Japanese, suddenly you have all the motivation you need! Think of all the dirty talk and naughty things you are going to be able to do once you master the language. Now that is motivation.

The brain learns better when it is in “love”

There are scientific studies that show that the brain learns better when we are in a “love” state. This state is a chemical state that the brain and body enters, and it is as much about having sex as it is being in “love”. If you are having sex with someone, you are in this state, and you will learn more easily. It is scientifically proven!

It is fun

If we enjoy something, we are more likely to do it regularly. Having sex and linking our learning to sex means that we are doing something fun, thus we will drive forward without lessons more. We will push to spend more time with the fuck buddy that is teaching us because, well, we also get to fuck!

So if you want to learn something, find a fuck buddy that can teach it to you. You will learn it faster, and I guarantee you will have more fun on the way!