It's not about how big you are, it's about finding the right fit

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 17:08:03 +0000

22 Jun 2018 - 18:08 | Tags: size does not matter, how to be the perfect fuck buddy, find sex in Australia

There is an ongoing lasting attitude in the west that big is better. When we go to restaurants we look at the portion size and judge the establishment based on that. When we go to clubs, the bigger the club the better it is deemed to be. The reason that people hire stretched limo’s for special occasions is all about the size – they are an unreasonably large car! The same application is made when we are judging people as a sexual partner, we still look to size.

With women, the size of their boobs is what is being judged, and for me it is their penis. In the case of both, the bigger the better… or so the general attitude goes. I am here to challenge this. In this article, I will argue that it is not about being a certain size objectively, but actually that this is a subjective test depending on who you are with. It is not about being big, it is about being the right fit, which means you can be too “small” but you can also be too “big” just as easily. We will discuss this with a focus on penis size.

If you have an unreasonably large dick, if you are extremely well hung, then yes women will sleep with you simply to experience this, as it is unusual. However, they may not stick around for more. The vagina is a pretty stretchable and elastic part of the body. It can stretch to accommodate almost any size… but this can be painful, and whilst the pain can be enjoyable in the moment, on a more regular basis this can get too much. It can cause the person to be unable to have sex regularly, as they need recovery time in between. Over time this can also lead to tearing, and that really does require healing time!

It is about finding the right fit. You want to be with someone that is the right size for you. As a woman, as long as the man is big enough to push into her, then this will be pretty much the same as if he was anything up to 25% bigger. She needs to feel the stretch, but she does not need to for it to be painfully damaging to her! Similarly the man needs a vagina that Is tight enough that he can really feel her gripping him whilst having sex, but it does not have to be much more than this. If it is tighter, then all that will happen is that she will stretch to accommodate him till, once again, it is the perfect fit.

Let go of this obsession with size. There may be times when it does make a difference, times when sexual compatibility is off because there is too large a gap between your physical features… but this is not as usual as you might think. We are designed to fit each other. Allow nature to take her course, she will handle everything for you.

It's not the size of the boat, it is the motion of the ocean

EdBennett — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 15:53:01 +0000

20 Jun 2018 - 16:53 | Tags: sex technique, how to have better sex, size does not matter

We are obsessed with size in many areas of our life. We all want to have climbed the biggest mountain, the tallest tower. We want to have partied for the longest night, danced the hardest, visited the biggest mega club. We want to have drunk the most alcohol, to have been the most smashed that one could be. We want to have had the most explosive orgasm, the most uncontrollable crazy night of sex ever. All of these are valid desires, and I am in no criticising or undermining the value or validity in them. In many ways I would encourage them, for these are rooted in the desire to live life, to embrace what life has to offer by going out and trying to experience the very best that life has to offer us.

Where I would try and correct the approach is the focus on the size and not the experience, and this is especially true when it comes to sex. We really are obsessed with size, and this cannot be better demonstrated than by our obsession with the size of a man’s penis. The bigger the dick, the better as far as everyone is concerned. Once again, there are strong advantages in having a large dick, and I would never deny these advantages… how ever there is more to it than just size. A bigger factor in a good night of sex is technique.

If you won the genetic lottery and have a big dick, then that is great news for you, congratulations. Whether you are the person or you are not, you must pay attention to technique as well. It is not enough to simply have the equipment, it is what you do with it that counts. Are you building up the sex with good foreplay? Are you making sure you tease and tantilise her as you building up to the sex? Are you using language, either through words and story, or through silence at the right time as sometimes saying nothing is one of the most powerful things you can do? Unless you are one of the few unfortunate people that has real trouble coming yourself (which also thus means you can also keep going for hours without loosing your hard on), you want to be good with your hands in order to be able to play with her before starting the sex. Are you doing this, are you listening to her body and being sensitive to what she enjoys and does not enjoy?

It really is all about these things much more than simple size. So whether you are born with a huge dick or not, it does not matter. Keep your focus on your technique, on being in the moment and improving what you are doing, for it really is not the size of the boat, it is the motion of the ocean.

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It's not about how big you are, it's about finding the right fit

It's not the size of the boat, it is the motion of the ocean