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Things not to do with a fuck buddy if you want to keep them

EdBennett — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 18:45:38 +0000

18 Sep 2019 - 19:45 | Tags: keeping your fuck buddy, how to keep your sex life alive, when not to have sex

What is a fuck buddy? A fuck buddy is someone that you have and enjoy sex with, but there is no emotional or relationship attachment outside of the sex. It is someone you are focused on having sex with. You have a clear agreement that it is, what is known as, a no-strings attached relationship. If it is a friend, then they are also often known as friends with benefits. This can be a life-changing thing for both of you, bringing a lot of fun, happiness and well-being to all involved. There are ways to fuck it up however. With that in mind, here are my top tips for things not to do with a fuck buddy if you want to keep having sex with them without starting to develop unwanted attachments.

Do not cuddle

The intimacy brought on by cuddling develops attachments and feels far more than having sex. Do not do it. If you are someone who loves spooning try and repress that desire, or accept that perhaps you want something more than a fuck buddy.

Do not expect the moon on a stick

Courtship rituals will break the fuck buddy status that you are both enjoying so much. Do not do it, do not expect it either. That includes, but is not limited to: flowers, fancy dinners and expensive gifts or jewellery of any kind.

Do not become overly demanding, clingy or hard work

This is a “friends” with benefits relationship. It is not a relationship. Remember that. Doing anything that suggests that you are demanding or territorial is a real no-no. Do not start leaving a tooth brush in the holder around their house. Be careful about leaving clothes behind. Men like to mark their territory with socks, women often use underwear. Avoid this. If they cancel on you, be relaxed about it.

Do not introduce them to your parents

I mention this only because I know that it has happened in the past. Traditionally you introduce the person that you are marrying to your parents. Do not introduce your fuck buddy to them, unless you are looking for a quick way to end that partnership!

Do not hate on them for chatting to other potential partners

They are your fuck buddy. This is a non-monogamous relationship here. They are allowed to talk to other people with the intention of sleeping with them, just as you are. If they are on tinder, are Facebook friending potential sex partners, or even going on dates with other people, that is acceptable within your agreement. If you are not okay with it, talk to your f-buddy about it. This may mean ending things, but better that than you turn into crazy stalker person. We’ve all met that person and you know you do not want to be that person.

Life is too short to not have a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 18:52:39 +0000

26 Feb 2019 - 18:52 | Tags: find a fuck buddy, fuck buddy relationships, how to keep your sex life alive

As a race, we are a strange set of creatures. On one hand, we are incredibly smart. We invented machines and processes to do much of our work for us. We created methods of mass farming that means that we have enough food to feed everyone in the world and that starvation should be a thing of the past. We worked out how to put a man on the moon, how to take a man to the deepest depths of the oceans, and we used all the information to both take resources like oil and gas from the earth and to put satellites into the sky so we can communicate over long distances. We are eradicating diseases and suffering, and we are starting to explore what it is to be human, learning more about our emotions and makeup till one day we may hope to fully understand what it is to be part of this race that we were born into. In the next generation, we are also likely to see the first invention of real artificial intelligence as we make leaps and bounds into the working of AI through enhanced machine learning techniques. The one thing that we seem to never be able to face though, is our own mortality and what that means.

There are things that we want in life that we put off. We all want sex. Even when we are in a sexually quiet period of our lives we still want to be having sex, and if offered it in a no strings attached way the only thing that holds us back is our own fears and insecurities about that being a genuine offer. Finding a fuck buddy is one of the best things that you can do for yourself, and for the person that you are going to have sex with! It is good on both sides. So why do we not do it, what holds us back?

Fear. Fear is what stops us from having the sexually fulfilling lives that we could be having. It doesn’t take much to overcome it, but overcome it we must. One of the best ways is to recognise that our lives are short and fragile. To the universe, our lives are but a blink of the eye, over before we have had time to even register and have an impact on the world. Yet we ignore this. Our lives can be so short, yet we deny ourselves the core happiness that comes from having sex for the strangest of reasons.

Life is too short to not have a fuck buddy. So if you do not have one, I would urge you to get one. Live, whilst you still can.

Take risks - sexy risks

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Jan 2018 09:11:13 +0000

28 Jan 2018 - 09:11 | Tags: sexy risk taking, how to keep your sex life alive, be brave

We are all naturally risk averse in life. Why? It is a survival mechanism! In the “wild” taking risks usually ended in death. So for a long time unnecessary curiosity was weeded out by evolution. The curious people did not live long enough to procreate, and their death from curiosity stood as an example to all the other people around them that “curiosity killed the cat”. Taking risks was not a good thing!

Modern day sex

Taking risks in the modern day is an entirely different thing. By taking a risk, you are not going to die. Death is not the result of curiosity, infact in the modern day curiosity and risk taking is what gets you places! We need to set aside the old ingrained habits from hundreds of years of survival, and embrace the new age where testing, trying, and experimenting is the only way to really progress your life.

Risk taking rule 1- always approach

If you see someone you fancy, always approach them! Always go and say, see who they are, have a shat and see if there is vibe. If there is vibe, ask them “are you single”. If the answer is yes, ask them out. Simples. Remember, this is not going to result in death, so do it!

Risk taking rule 2 – have sex with passion

When you are in the beWhatevert rip. Do not hold back. What ever you feel, what ever you want, what ever urges take you sexually in regards to the other person, go for it. Don’t hold back, don’t filter, don’t limit your passions. The other person will respond, value and fucking love your sexual honesty. There is a caviate here – which is consent. I am not telling you to do anything that the other person does not want to do. If they are not on board with it, you must reign it in and stop. However you may find yourself surprised by what the other person wants to do!

Risk taking rule 3 – find out your partners passions and do theirs to

Discuss your sexual fantasies, talk about what you do and don’t like in the bedroom. Try out things that you think you *might* like, and if it doesn’t work for you no big deal, it is all in the spirit of fun!

Be you, your unedited, un-neutered self. That’s who they most want to have sex with, and that’s who you want to be when having sex.