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Fuck buddies and self-esteem

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 22:51:15 +0000

29 Jul 2021 - 23:51 | Tags: bedroom confidence, the game, improving your sex life

Having a high sense of self-esteem has proven to be something that is key not just to happiness, but to our success in the world that we live in. People with high self-esteem get better jobs, earn more money, and are able to pursue the things that are going to make them happy (which leaves them happier). They are able to do this because they have a higher sense of belief in themselves and their ability. Often it is not because they think that they are any better at something, they just think that everyone can do it including them. This is not about having a big ego, I am not saying that overweening pride is a good thing (because it really is not at all), I am saying that having a good sense of self-esteem is important to living the life you want to lead. So how can you increase your self-esteem?

What everyone tells you that works, that has limited use

There are a lot of books, guides and people that tell you one way to increase your self-esteem is to just tell yourself that you are better. An example is being told to stare in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are a strong, independent person with love, life and value to offer the world and that the world loves you. Now, I am not saying that this does not have some positive effect, because it does. Mantras or repeating positive things about yourself to yourself can help you trick yourself into believing them. What I am saying is that it is a tick, you know it is a trick, and therefore it is quite hard to make it stick. Doing this has some beneficial effect, but that effect is limited. You have to do a lot to make headway. There is a more effective way.

External validation

As much as being internally validated is the ideal state to be in, the easiest way to get there is to be externally validated first. If you have people around you telling you that you are great, that is so much easier to believe that you doing it to yourself. You know that when you tell yourself, you are trying to fake it till you make it, but when someone else tells you, then you can take that at face value. So how do you get someone to do it in the most effective way? Sex of course.

Get a fuck buddy to help you build your self-esteem.

When you fuck someone hard, and I mean really pleasure them, they are in a state that is created by you. Their compliments, pleasure and joy in you is real and irrefutable. So if you want to build your esteem, consider getting a fuck buddy, showing them a good time, then making sure you bed in that their happiness was caused by you. You were the centre of their universe for those moments, and you have real value in the world. This is a fast track. Once it is bedded in, you internalise it and you are then internally validated for life.

Go get ‘em tiger!

Using technology to enhance your value as a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Wed, 30 Jun 2021 22:54:34 +0000

30 Jun 2021 - 23:54 | Tags: sex technique, improving your sex life

When it comes to having sex, we could all do with having more of it. There are two ways of making this happen. You can either find more people to have sex with, or you can try and have more sex with the people that you are already sleeping with. Both are valid options, though you can’t do the latter unless you already have the former in place to a degree! If you aren’t sleeping with anyone at the moment your first step is to find a fuck buddy. There are other articles on this site that will help you do that and I would urge you to go and read those first. Do not despair. Remember, when you have sex with someone, they also get to have sex with you, which means they are getting laid as well. This has always been one of the best things about having a fuck buddy, it is a win-win on both sides. For those of you that already have a fuck buddy, if you want to be having more sex, the best way of doing this is to increase your value as a fuck buddy. There are lots of ways of doing this, health, fitness, looks, skill in the bedroom, access to certain places or events. In this article we are focusing on one thing, using technology to enhance your value as a fuck buddy. Enter Kindu.

Kindu is an app that allows you to look at sexual fantasy cards and swipe yes or no to whether you are interested in them or not. You link the account to your fuck buddy who sees the same or similar cards and does the same thing. At the end, the app will tell you where you have matched. So why is this useful? Well many people are shy to talk about their fantasies. Here, if you swipe yes to something and the other person isn’t into it, then they will never know. You only know about the fantasies that you both have said yes to. This takes the pressure off and allows you to be totally honest.

The other bonus is that then when you do it, because you haven’t spoken about it, it can still have an element of spontaneity to it. Say you both would love to have sex in a lift, once you both know, you can both be on the look out for an opportunity without ever having discussed it directly.
Give it a try, it has worked for fuck buddies in the past, no reason it can’t work for you too.

Sex tips to spice things up for you and your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Wed, 01 Jul 2020 00:00:11 +0000

1 Jul 2020 - 01:00 | Tags: top sex tips, hooking up tips, improving your sex life

If you have a fuck buddy sorted already, you may be looking to take things up a notch. Sex is great, but there are always things you can do to make it better for both you and your fuck buddy. Making an effort to improve things in the bedroom is the best way to achieve exactly that! It will be good for both your fuck buddy, the more fun you are having, the more fun they will be having. If you really like your fuck buddy, keeping things fluid by trying different things and mixing it up is a great way to make it feel like things are changing for the both of you. This makes it much more likely that they will come back again and again, extending the length of your fuck buddy relationship. So without any further ado, here are some top tips to help you spice things up for both you and your fuck buddy.

Focus on intimacy

You may think that you are already doing it, given that you have a purely physical relationship with whomever you are hooking up with. However, cutting away the traditional relationship does not mean that you have increased the time that you spend being intimate. Before having sex, spend time exploring each other’s bodies. Really get to know each other physically and spend time together naked or near naked without having sex. Taking your intimacy up a notch will make the sex all the better, for both of you.

Your orgasm is your responsibility

Taking responsibility for you own orgasm is really important. Whether you are a man or a woman, make sure that you have spent time bringing yourself to climax, really getting to know your own body. If you cannot come alone, it is going to be all the harder after you have hooked up.

Make time for sex

With everything that is going on, with the busy lives that we all inevitably lead, make sex a priority. Make sure that you ringfence time to have it. That could be by booking in dates where you know the likely end will involve clothes that do not belong to you on your bedroom floor. If it is, I applaud you!

Play sex games

Sex games are a lot of fun! They can be simple and easy, using a set of sex dice to randomise what you are going to do to each other is a great entry game to play. You can get as imaginative as you like with this, so be bold and brave here.

Spicing up your sex life is the best way to have a fuck buddy keep coming back for more. It will also make your sex life better, since you are the one living it! Remember the golden rule, make sure you are having fun!

Why reading, not watching, erotica with your fuck buddy is better.

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Feb 2019 15:55:34 +0000

22 Feb 2019 - 15:55 | Tags: porn in casual sex, erotic literature, improving your sex life

Most people who have a fuck buddy are also enlightened enough to be able to enjoy porn without the associated feelings of guilt or irrational negativity that can sometimes be associated with it. We live in a more modern and open time where we recognise that sex is a healthy and normal thing, something that makes us all that little bit happier. Finding a fuck buddy means making both you and them benefit from the no strings attached relationship that you have just set up. It really is a win-win on both sides. Watching porn is something that, in today's world, is now much more acceptable.

Watching porn with your fuck buddy is great

Watching porn alone is fine, watching porn with a fuck buddy can be great. You can get turned on by it together, you can act out what is happening on the screen, or imagine you are there and part of it, or just be voyeurs and watch it. Having sex with porn on in the background can be even better, as the sounds and distant images in the background wash over you both as you are having sex, bringing a sense of being part of an orgy in your own home. Watching porn can be great. I am here to tell you why reading porn can be even better.

Reading porn with your fuck buddy is even better

When you read porn, also known as erotica, the whole thing takes place in your imagination. This brings with it a number of advantages over video porn. Firstly you manifest the images so everyone really is your perfect fantasy. Don’t like someone with blonde hair? No problem now she has brown hair. Are there certain gestures or motions that really turn you on, like a girl brushing her hair back behind her ear, or subconsciously adjusting her glasses with the knuckles of her hand? Now she does all of that. Don’t like tattoos? You no longer have to try and ignore that anchor embossed on her thigh. Having the porn take place in your imagination means that it is bespoke to what you want.

Reading porn together means you can have that take place in your collective imagination. Between the two of you, you can share the story, twist it to your needs and desires. When you read it, perhaps one of them is actually you and other your fuck buddy. You can even start improvising and curtailing the story till it follows your fantasy exactly as you would like it to. As you share the story and get more and more turned on you can start to pleasure each other physically to match the imagined sexual encounter, and before you know it in your mind you experience it with an intensity that is as real as if it had been you.

Reading porn and erotica is awesome. If you have never done it, you should suggest it to your fuck buddy. If neither of you have done it before, you are both in for a real treat.

Get your sex life on track

EdBennett — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 20:21:05 +0000

20 Dec 2017 - 20:21 | Tags: sex choices, improving your sex life

No matter where we are at, we are rarely where we want to be. The work life balance doesn’t exist, not really. If you are doing great at work, it is because you are neglecting your social life. If you have a rocking social life which is filled with fun, family and friends? Then your career is probably on hold or non-existent. Are you making loads of money at the moment? Than you are unlikely to have the time to spend that money in a leisurely fashion. You may have the money to travel for months, but you are never going to get the time off work to be able to do it. You get to make a decision about what you prioritise, if you don’t make the decision it will be made for you, so you may as well decide on what you want! So with that in mind, it is time to get your sex life on track for the coming year.

First evaluate where you are at

We have to first know where we are currently. How is your sex life? If it is great, then stop reading right now and go get laid! If it is not, where are you at? Do you have any friends with benefits? When was the last time you hooked up or had sex? Are you having the kind of se you want or is it unsatisfactory?

Second decide where you want to be

You cannot travel to somewhere if you do not know where it is. The only way to get something, is to first know what it is that you actually want. So what is it that you want? Do you want to be having more sex? Do you want a different kind of sex? Do you just want more partners? Perhaps you have always wanted a threesome or another type of experience. Decide it now.

Third – what do you have to do to get it

Now you know what you want, how do you get there? Most people can get what they want, but most are not willing to pay the price, and there is always a cost. So what do you need to do? Do you need to send more messages to more women? Do you need to change something about yourself such as to get a little fitter, or alter your work so you have more money? Do you need to quit your job and go traveling?

Pay the costs

Whatever it is, all you have to do now is pay the cost, and the desire is yours for the taking. It really is as simple as that.