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How to have better sex with your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 06 Nov 2022 09:43:49 +0000

6 Nov 2022 - 09:43 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Having a fuck buddy is, frankly, just the best. You have sex on tap, you don’t have any of the usual strings attached that comes with it, and you have the freedom to carry out the rest of your life without the sex part interfering with it. Finding a fuck buddy can really be a game changer. One other benefit about sleeping with a “friend with benefits” rather than sleeping with someone in a more standard relationship is that you both pay attention to the sex. As that is the primary focus, you can go on a journey together to make sure that the sex that you are having is the best sex that you can possibly be having. Want to start that journey now? Or perhaps you are already on it and want some extra tips to help you on the way? Well, if you do, read on my friend!

Think about what you like during sex, recognise what you have been told you should like during sex

We have been programmed from birth. Social conditioning is a key element of human learning and, as a result, we have a whole bunch of views that are not our own. They were given to us. The dangerous part here, in particular, is that we may not recognise what we have been “given” and what is truly our own. This is especially true in the bedroom. There are certain things that you think you ought to like, that you have been told you must like to be having good sex. This is a nonsense. We are all different and we should celebrate that. So with that in mind, try and separate out what you have been told you ought to like, and what you actually like. If you can recognise that, you can then do more of it!

Discuss it with your fuck buddy

Have a frank and open conversation with your fuck buddy about what you do and don’t like. This is one of the powers of adult dating, you can have these conversations, and no one minds. There is no judgement. By talking to the person you are hooking up with, you will both have a better time in the bedroom. You will get what turns you on and they get the pleasure of become (your) god in bed!

So think about these steps and take it to the next level.

Cold read your partner in bed to appear like a sexual monster

EdBennett — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 18:12:45 +0000

22 Feb 2022 - 18:12 | Tags: sexy mindset, how to have better sex, be a sex god

We all want to be great in bed. We want to have a good time and we want our fuck buddy or whomever we have hooked up with to have a good time as well. The thing we definitely want is for our fuck buddy to think that we are amazing in bed. As humans, from a young age, we have been taught to seek approval. Most of us wanted our parents to be proud of us. As kids we were taught that our teachers were the ones that gave us grades, marks and generally made judgements about our worth, so we became seekers of their approval. Even at work, most of us have bosses that give us appraisals or decide if we are going to get pay rises or promotions, again all of which mean we continue to seek approval from others. The same is true in bed.

We cannot help but want the person that we are sleeping with to want more of the same, to want us again and again (and again!). We seek that approval (and we seek it often without evening being aware that we crave it so). So how can we really be sure that we are going to get it, that we are going to rock the world of the person that we are with? There are many steps that can be taken, but one is to learn to cold read your fuck buddy.

Cold reading is the art of reading someone’s body language to know what they are thinking or what action they are about to take without them saying words to that effect. It is most commonly known in poker, where you try and “read” your opponent to know when they are telling the truth or when they are lying. In this case, it is about reading your fuck buddy so that you know what they like and what they don’t like. It is really quite simple as well!

Sometimes your fuck buddy will use their words and just tell you what feels good. When they do that, listen and do more of whatever it is you are doing. Other times they don’t and this is when you really pay attention. When you stoke them somewhere, do they pull away (indicating they don’t like it) or do they lean in? Does their body shiver with pleasure or stiffen in stress? If you can be sensitive to this, you can adjust your approach accordingly.

Listen to their breath as well. As they breathe faster, shallower breaths they are getting more and more excited. When that changes, be mindful of what you are doing so you can quickly learn what it is that is turning them on and off.

By simply listening in this way, you will find your fuck buddy will keep coming back again and again as they have the best time in bed with you.

How to have better sex this 2021

EdBennett — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 21:16:48 +0000

31 Aug 2021 - 22:16 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Welcome to the fuck buddy website in August, a great month to meet someone to have no strings attached sex with. August generally sees a good amount of new members join the website, and despite (or perhaps because of!) recent global events pursuant to the coronavirus pandemic, this month has seen a really good amount of joiners. If you are looking for a fuck buddy, you have come to the right place. Once you have your fuck buddy you might want to start thinking about having better sex. To assist with that, here are my top tips on how to have better sex this August.

Communication

Telling your fuck buddy what you do, and do not, like in bed is key to great sex. No one is a mind reader, so simply telling them is the best way to get the most out of them in bed. The nice thing about having a fuck buddy and adult dating in general is that you are both there for the sex, which means that you can be really honest about it and no one minds. I would urge you to take advantage of that!

Mix things up

IF you have been having sex with the same partner for a while, mix things up! Even small changes can make big differences. Do more foreplay, change your positions, if you are usually on top go on bottom. Any change will refresh the sex as it differentiates it from previous sessions. You can never be too creative, so go for it. For the more adventurous, we always suggest putting a safe word in place, just in case.

Consider lubricant

If you have never used lubricant, or you are not using it now, consider using it! Yes of course the body naturally produces lubricant, but we humans are a clever bunch, constantly finding ways to improve the body’s natural way of working. Lubricant is a great addition to any sex session, and is good for both men and women. Note that a water based lubricant is best if you are using condoms. Silicone based lubricants are also great, especially for annal sex, but should be used in light of the protection that you are currently using.

Have more sex

It is a self-fulfilling prophecy this. The more sex you have with any particular fuck buddy, the better the sex will become. Learning to pleasure someone is like learning to play an instrument, practice makes perfect! So have lots of it!

How to be better in bed

EdBennett — Wed, 22 May 2019 16:50:42 +0000

22 May 2019 - 17:50 | Tags: how to have better sex, sex advice

Welcome to the fuck buddy website. If you are reading this it is because you have already found your fuck buddy through us and are now using our top tips, or because you are looking for a fuck buddy and noticed this article whilst you were here. Whether you have one or not, if you are making an effort to get a fuck buddy victory is inevitable! It can be a numbers game, so the more you do, the closer you get to finding that friends with benefits relationship that you are looking for.

Whether you have your fuck buddy or you are going to find one, being better in bed was always a good thing! It encourages women to come back to you, and you have a lot more fun when sex is going great! So to help you out, here are some of my top tips on how to be better in bed!

Mix it up

If you are having sex with the same person multiple times, then the sex can become a little routine. You can find yourself not being in the moment as much, not enjoying it as much, just not being as into it as much. Sure it is fun, but it seems to lack the same intensity that it used to have. Well there is an easy fix for this. Mix it up. Changing even small things can be enough to jolt you out of the mental routine that is reducing how in the moment you are, and thus how good you are in bed. Try changing the sexual position that you use, or your sex habits. Introduce a new toy or new clothing. Even changing the location or even just the music or soundtrack that you have sex to can help to alter things. Mix it up!

Changing locations

This is such a big topic that it needs an entire article, but take your fuck buddy somewhere else to have sex. This could still be in the house, it could be as simple as having sex on the floor rather than on the bed, or it could be much more adventurous like having sex in a lift, outside, or at work! This extra boost can make you better in bed as the environmental changes makes the sex better for both of you.

Make love not war

There are times when you fuck someone. With a fuck buddy this is especially common. Sometimes though, you can make love instead. You do not have to be 100% in love with the person, it is about tapping into how you feel about them and focusing on why you like them. Let this drive the sex and the sex will have a whole new flavour and feel. Give it a try!

Found a fuck buddy? Top tips to have better sex

EdBennett — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 14:10:22 +0000

1 Apr 2019 - 15:10 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Sex is amazing and we should all be having more of it! I honestly think that the secret to world peace may lie in the everyone getting laid more. If we all were having more sex, everyone would be happier, we would be less aggressive and less easy to anger, we would be able to take troubles and failures in other parts of our lives more easily as we were winning in our sex lives. A healthy, and regular, sex life is really important to a healthy and happy relationship. A good way to ensure that is to have a fuck buddy.

The nice thing about a no strings attached relationship is that it is all the benefits of the sex without any of the stress and hassles that come with the relationship part. This means that you can have all the joy and happiness from the sex, and you have taken out all the arguments and conflict that can bring you right back down to being unhappy again. A no strings attached relationship can be a wonderful thing. When you finding a fuck buddy you are giving that gift to them as much as to yourself, so it is something that is well worth doing!

Once you have found your fuck buddy, you are then having lots of sex. You have the quantity sorted out, now it is time to look at quality. How can you make your sex life better? Think about utilising these top tips for a better sex life.

Give compliments

There is nothing that makes someone feel more desired than having someone tell you that they desire you. It works for men, it works for women. They have to believe you for this to work, so the best compliments are the real ones, where you can honestly say that something turns you on. So if there is something that does turn you on, say it! If nothing springs to mind, a good go to is to compliment how someone looks… but root it in truth for maximum effect.

Use available technology to turn them on before the sex

We all now carry phones, laptops and tablets… which means you have access to easy communication. Those compliments I was just talking about? Send them in advance. Tell the person why you like them, what makes them sexy, and what you plan on doing about it later on in the day. You can even use scheduled text messages to set the whole thing up in advance and the messages will send throughout the day automatically!

Abstain, not a lot, but a little

It has been proven than not having sex for a while can help to build up to a greater explosion of pleasure. So consider abstaining a little. Not loads, just a little is enough.

Go forth, grab your fuck buddy and have amazing sex! You both deserve it!

Have better sex, tonight!

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Jun 2018 15:19:31 +0000

28 Jun 2018 - 16:19 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

So you have done all the right things, and you are about to have sex, tonight! You logged on to the website, spent a little effort on your profile, messaged a bunch of people, chatted a little to the ones that came back to decide who you wanted to meet up, and tonight you are getting laid!
Congratulations for being proactive and taking action. It does not take a lot of effort to have sex, but it is surprising the number of people that don’t use the modern day tools that are offered to them to help them find that fuck buddy they have been looking for. This is clearly not you however, you’ve been smart about it. So now you are getting laid, you are probably thinking about having sex tonight. Well we are here and on hand to help you learn how to have better sex, tonight!

Talk about what you want in the bedroom

One of the refreshing things about having a fuck buddy, is that you can be really honest about what you do and don’t want in the bedroom. By being honest with them, they can be honest with you, leading you both to a place where the sex gets better. Try it and remember to go first. Being honest is the best way to invite the other person to also be honest.

Talk dirty

The sexual experience can start from the moment that you first meet them. By talking dirty before you even get close to where ever you are going to have sex, you start to turn them on. There is nothing more powerful than a slow build to the sex, and a little dirty talk can go a long way. Tell them what you want to do to them, whisper promises of what the evening yet has to offer them and what is to come. Remind them of where the evening is going to end if they play their cards right, and not only will you be building the tension, but they’ll also be buying the drinks in an effort to woo you!

Practice edging

This is something that takes practice but is well worth it. Practice coming to the edge of where you are about to come, then bring yourself back by stopping whatever you are doing. After a while, you will be able to recognise when you are about to come, and then choose to either pull back a little or even control it much better, allowing yourself to have fun for much longer in the sack.

…and the most important tip – have fun!

It's not the size of the boat, it is the motion of the ocean

EdBennett — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 15:53:01 +0000

20 Jun 2018 - 16:53 | Tags: sex technique, how to have better sex, size does not matter

We are obsessed with size in many areas of our life. We all want to have climbed the biggest mountain, the tallest tower. We want to have partied for the longest night, danced the hardest, visited the biggest mega club. We want to have drunk the most alcohol, to have been the most smashed that one could be. We want to have had the most explosive orgasm, the most uncontrollable crazy night of sex ever. All of these are valid desires, and I am in no criticising or undermining the value or validity in them. In many ways I would encourage them, for these are rooted in the desire to live life, to embrace what life has to offer by going out and trying to experience the very best that life has to offer us.

Where I would try and correct the approach is the focus on the size and not the experience, and this is especially true when it comes to sex. We really are obsessed with size, and this cannot be better demonstrated than by our obsession with the size of a man’s penis. The bigger the dick, the better as far as everyone is concerned. Once again, there are strong advantages in having a large dick, and I would never deny these advantages… how ever there is more to it than just size. A bigger factor in a good night of sex is technique.

If you won the genetic lottery and have a big dick, then that is great news for you, congratulations. Whether you are the person or you are not, you must pay attention to technique as well. It is not enough to simply have the equipment, it is what you do with it that counts. Are you building up the sex with good foreplay? Are you making sure you tease and tantilise her as you building up to the sex? Are you using language, either through words and story, or through silence at the right time as sometimes saying nothing is one of the most powerful things you can do? Unless you are one of the few unfortunate people that has real trouble coming yourself (which also thus means you can also keep going for hours without loosing your hard on), you want to be good with your hands in order to be able to play with her before starting the sex. Are you doing this, are you listening to her body and being sensitive to what she enjoys and does not enjoy?

It really is all about these things much more than simple size. So whether you are born with a huge dick or not, it does not matter. Keep your focus on your technique, on being in the moment and improving what you are doing, for it really is not the size of the boat, it is the motion of the ocean.

Why hotel sex is extra hot – and how to do it at home

EdBennett — Tue, 19 Sep 2017 18:30:59 +0000

19 Sep 2017 - 19:30 | Tags: hotel sex, sex outdoors, how to have better sex

There are certain situations, times of your life and places that can make sex that extra bit hotter than usual. There are certain things that can drive you wild, and each of us will have certain things that do this to us. Some people want the lights on, whilst other people will only have sex in the dark. For some people the ability to look someone in the eye as they come makes missionary position excellent, whilst for other people due to the angle of entry it is their worst way of having sex. We are all different. One thing that most of us share in common however, is a love for feeling special.

When you have sex in your house/flat/usual place of sexy time, the location rarely adds much to the experience. There is nothing wrong with it, it does not take anything away from what could be the best fuck of the month (especially with a fuck buddy – who is incentivised to be good at sex), but the location does not add anything. It is normal, usual, and mundane. Which is why mixing things up with a hotel room can spice things up.

Why hotels are sexy

When you go to a hotel to have sex, it brings with it a whole host of associations that can make the sex even hotter. Hotels are where people go to have affairs with someone that they can’t keep their hands off. It is where someone might take a girl because they have gotten so turned on by them, they cannot wait till they get home so they rent a hotel room there and then so they can fuck. Hotels are used on regular occasions by hook ups, one night stands and by people wanting no strings attached relationships. Most importantly, when you take someone to a hotel room to have sex, you are going there explicitly for the opportunity to have sex with them. The intention is so clear, that the other person knows that you really want them. You want them so much, you have put money down on a room, and sectioned off an evening of your life where nothing can disturb the two (or more) of you. That is why sex in a hotel can be a better fuck.

How to do it at home

Go to your bedroom and neutralise it. Remove all photos, clear and tidy everything from all surfaces till there is nothing on there, take away any pictures or images from the walls. Leave the room as bear as you can. Then place a towel on the end of the bed with a hotel style folding technique and BAM you have your own specially prepared room. It is not the same as a hotel, but it comes close enough to have a similar effect.

So grab your fuck buddy and go have some fun!