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Death and Sex – a Halloween special

EdBennett — Sun, 31 Oct 2021 23:13:04 +0000

31 Oct 2021 - 23:13 | Tags: halloween sex, sex and death

For a lot of people, the festival of Halloween is a fun, family affair. Everyone gets dressed up as ghosts and ghouls. You then all go out trick or treating, gathering your sweets and sugary goodies by going door to door to see what you can scavenge. Eventually, with your stash of sweets, you head home for a night of sugar fuelled pandemonium. It was great fun to do this as a kid… but as an adult, this is not something that you can do anymore. So instead, how can Halloween make your life a better place? Why by helping you to have sex of course! The question you might pose, and reasonably so, is how the festival of Halloween can do this. Allow me to explain. It all comes down to the relationship between sex and death, and this is what is going to increase your ability to find a fuck buddy on Halloween night.

Scientific studies have proven the connection that lies between sex and death. Following the bereavement of a loved one (or someone you were having sex with), studies have shown that the body misses the intimacy and the feeling of sex, as well as the partnership that has now gone. The vacuum that is created by the missing person needs to be filled. Taking this further, however, studies have also shown that the contemplation of death can increase sex drive and the desire for sex. In one study, a woman stopped passing men to ask them a series of questions that were ostensibly about a boring subject but were actually designed to measure how attracted to her they were. She first did this on a safe street, she then did it on a slightly unstable bridge with a drop in sight. Where there was a potential danger of the drop, there was a statistically significant increase in the number of intensity of the men’s attractiveness level towards her. Why is this useful in helping you find a fuck buddy?

On Halloween, a festival based on a belief that the barrier between the living and the dead is thinner and thus spectres and spooks walk the Earth, everyone gets dressed up as the undead. There is a lot of blood as makeup, zombies, spirits… all of this reminds us that we are going to die. It is a visual, unignorable reminder that we are mortal and will one day join the spirits of the dead. This, in turn, means that people are more open to someone offering them sex. For all the aforementioned reasons, they are likely to have a higher sex drive with a greater attractiveness level towards you.

So if you are looking for a fuck buddy, Halloween is a great day to reach out and make some offers.

Why death is an aphrodisiac

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Nov 2019 22:10:15 +0000

29 Nov 2019 - 22:10 | Tags: sex and death, things that turn you on, sex turn offs for guys

When it comes to having sex, we are nearly always driven by factors outside of our control. We have the ability to decide not to have sex, to chose to control and repress our desires so that we do not fuck someone’s brains out. So we can supress the desire, but we have very little control over the appearance of that desire. So much of it is out of our control. Some of it comes from the time of year, we are more horny in spring tham we are in winter. Some of it comes from when we last had sex. If we just spotted seeing a regular fuck buddy you are more driven to have sex than if you have not had sex for 6months or more, by which time you have become accustomed to it. Where you are also affects this. If you are in a club surrounded by scantily clad people of the gender that you are attracted to, you are going to want to hook up with one of them much more than if it is 8am on a Sunday morning and you tired waiting for a bus to take you back from an over night flight. The events around us can also affect this. Weddings are a good one for encouraging people to hook up.. but the other one that people do not think about are funerals.

There is something about death that is a natural aphrodisiac. The presence of it makes you want to hook up, it drives you to find a fuck buddy harder than many other things. From my understanding, the reason that death is such an aphrodisiac comes back to when we were a lot less evolved.

When you are facing death, there is a drive to procreate, to leave something behind. When we have kids, in some small way we transcend death by leaving someone of us behind in that child. Their genetic seed comes from us so they are a mini version of us and the person that we had sex with to create the child. If we raise them, we can also encourage them to have the same values and standards like us. This really can mean you leave behind a legacy in the form of someone that is the next “version” of us. When we have death around us, we are at a funeral or we have been involved in a road traffic accident, our brains and body have the possibility of our mortal coil ending placed at the very forefront of their considerations. Thus, our bodies and brains conspire to try and help us have kids whilst we still can. The best way of doing that? It releases hormones that make us horny, it makes us want to have sex. This means that not only are we more driven, if we do have sex, that sex seems deeper, stronger and better!

There are many ways that you can use this information, but I will leave you to interpret that. Understanding that death is a strong aphrodisiac is a an important part of your sexual education. If I have helped increase that, I have put you one step closer to living a life of sexual abundance where you are never without a fuck buddy.

Why death and danger are a sexual turn on

EdBennett — Mon, 29 Jul 2019 20:06:49 +0000

29 Jul 2019 - 21:06 | Tags: sex and death, sex and danger, how to turn each other on using words

There are many things that can increase our sex drive and desire for sex. Food is a really well-known example. People spend all sorts of money on expensive oysters or strange and exotic foods in order to increase the desire for sex and enhance their fuck buddy’s sexual experience. Chocolate, champagne, certain types of squid, these are all purported to increase the desire for sex and enhance libido. One of the scientifically studied areas is danger and death. In this article, I would like to talk about the connection between danger, death and sex, and how you might use this information to either increase the chances of hooking up with someone, or having an amazing sexual time with either your fuck buddy, friend with benefits, or one night stand.

Danger equals death

The first thing to establish is that the threat of danger, to the brain, brings the possibility of death. So for the purposes of this discussion, danger equals death. The higher the danger levels, the greater the chance of death, the stronger the effect.

It does not have to real

To the brain, the perception of danger is the same as the danger being real. If your brain *thinks* that you are in danger the same chemical reactions happen as if you are in that danger. Horror films, and fairground rides are great examples. All the danger has been removed, but your brain does not understand this so you go through the same thing.

When you have the perception of a threat of danger (which the brain interprets as death)

So we have a very strong survival mechanism inbuilt into us. We want to live. So in the moment itself you just want to live. This manifests as one of five reactions: fight, flight, freeze, flop, friend. After the perceived danger is over, in the immediate aftermath, your brain perceives that you nearly died. The larger the perceived danger, the stronger the experience. Procreation being a key survival act for the species, your body is drive to procreate there and then. You have to have sex and pass on your genetic seed. What if you die before you can have kids? So you are suddenly sexually more awake. The higher the danger, the more turned on you are going to be after. If there was fear involved, and there usually is, the sex also provides a really good escape as well, as you move out of your brain and into your body instead.

How this can be “used”

When you are next meeting a potential or actual fuck buddy or looking for a hook up, consider going to somewhere there is a brain perceived danger. A science experiment involving a woman asking men questions first on a bridge across a chasm and then on a safe pavement showed that the people were much more attracted to her for being somewhere there was some perceived danger. So do that. Go see a horror film, take him/her to a fairground. A really nice one is to go to a roof top bar really high up and then have drinks near to the edge. You are completely safe, but the gentle reminder of impending doom from the drop will drive you and your fuck buddy to want each other more.

Good luck, and more importantly, have fun!

Fuck like you are going to die tomorrow

EdBennett — Fri, 30 Jun 2017 08:30:31 +0000

30 Jun 2017 - 09:30 | Tags: keeping sex hot, sex and death, fucking fun

In modern times we all live quite measured and careful lives. We get up, have a morning routine that we rarely break from. We go to our regular jobs, do a similar thing all day long, eat lunch in the same place, talk to the same people, before heading out at the end of the day. We then perhaps go and grab a drink in our regular place, before going home to watch the same TV show and have our usual meal. In amongst this somewhere, we have sex. It doesn’t matter where in your routine you do this, the thing that always happens is that the sex becomes regular. It becomes routine, and routine is the death of exciting sex. As flight of the conchords put it so well in their spoof song “business time”- things just become regular. So what can you do about this?

Remember that you are going to die

This may sound like an odd thing to say, but bear with me. The thing that allows routine to set in, is our belief that we are going to live forever. We don’t have to do that today, we can do that tomorrow. We can allow ourselves to have ordinary days, ordinary weeks because we can be amazing next week, next month, or next year. We don’t have to have the courage to do something now, because we can always do that later. The most powerful antidote for all of this?

Accept that you are going to die. If you embrace this, the power that this brings can really set you free.
Understand that you have no idea when this is going to happen. Perhaps you will die tomorrow, or next week, or next year. No one can really tell you when your time will come to pass on.
Take action to do things that you want to do now. This becomes easier by far, because you come to realise that if you do not do it now, you don’t know when you are going to be able to do it.

Now psych yourself up to remembering your death before sex

If you do this, if you can work yourself up to a state where you know that this might be it, all “routine” goes out of the window. Suddennly this could be the last time you have sex – this really brings you into the moment and makes you super present. During sex if there is something spontaneous that you feel like doing, or there is boundary that you have always wanted to push – you will push it, because what have you go to lose. You will feel that urge to push someone against a wall with desire again, you will really in your gut want to take the person. You will, in short, fuck the person like it is your last time, and that will take you to a new level, possibly one that you have never been to before.

Try this, take yourself through this process and fuck your f-buddy like you are going to die tomorrow, and you will find yourself feeling like you did in the early days of sex again.