Tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 19:01:02 +0000

26 Dec 2020 - 19:01 | Tags: keeping sex casual, maintaining a fuck buddy

When most people think about having a fuck buddy they generally think about fleeting hook ups that have no staying power. This may be true for many people, but many others have medium-term relationships with their fuck buddies. If you find yourself in this situation you may be wondering the best way to approach it. You want to do things with the other person, but you also don’t want to deviate from the fuck buddy agreement – that this is a no strings attached relationship. So what can you do? Here are my top tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy.

Be honest about the nature of the relationship

When you first hook up it is obvious to both parties that you are just hooking up. There is no expectation of anything more and that is how things stay for a while. As times change feelings can change and unless you manage this expectation it can take you both to a place that neither of you want to be. The best way to manage this is by being honest about it. Have a conversation about how you feel. Check in with your fuck buddy to reassure her/him that you still are treating this as a no strings relationship and that you continue to have no expectation of anything outside of that. This is the best way to keep things on track.

Focus on the sex

Remember why you got into the relationship in the first place, you did so for the sex and nothing more. By keeping that in mind it can keep you on track. Remember also that the other person agreed to this, so by sticking to it you are honouring the agreement. The best way to make sure that this is the case is to make sure that whenever you meet up you have sex. If you start meeting a lot and not having sex it sends the wrong message, so avoid this at all costs. I am not saying that you cannot do other things, but doing too many of those things sans sex will quickly alter the agreement between the two of you which can end in disaster.

Sleep with someone else

The ultimate way to ensure that things remain in the fuck buddy zone is to sleep with someone else. This is more likely to keep your fuck buddy interested as it shows that you are attractive to other people, and it also reminds you both that this is an open relationship. If they are not okay with you sleeping with someone else it means they have already moved outside of the agreement.

So those are my top three tips! Remember the golden rule: have fun!

Over investing can cause you to lose your woman

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Dec 2016 18:07:32 +0000

12 Dec 2016 - 18:07 | Tags: how to keep your woman, maintaining a fuck buddy, being alpha

You meet

One day you meet someone. Perhaps you meet them through work, maybe you meet them whilst on a train or a bus. Lots of people are meeting people online, through dating sites or more progressive websites like f-buddy. It doesn’t matter how you find someone, but let’s say you find a woman.

Things Progress

Things move along nicely. At a speed that is comfortable to you, you hug, then kiss, then you are fucking her. The sex starts off as okay (as it usually does with a new person) but then this quickly progress’s along to being good, then before you know it you are having great sex. There are other surprising elements to this woman as well. She is nice to you. Not only does she want you to flip her on her front, grab her by the hips and fuck her hard from behind, but afterwards she is nice to you. She talks, she listens, and you end up doing things outside of the bedroom together. Food, the occasional film. She really likes you, and despite your usual aloof “don’t give a fuck” attitude with women when you know that it is really just a fuck buddy, you start to really like her back.

You over invest

You start to do things for her. You think about things she might need from the shops and pick them up. You start to spend your money on her in ways that are other than buying condoms and lubricant. You start to change your plans for her, and choose to spend time with her over other people. In short, you start to really invest in her.

She senses it – and pulls back

She can sense that you are starting to like her a lot. She can see your actions, and to begin with she likes it... but then she starts to question your value as a man. As long as you were aloof, she saw you as better than her, your withheld attitude made her feel like you were above her league and so she fancied you more for it. Now that you are at a level, she starts to withdraw a little.

You react to this by investing even more

You see her liking you less, so to make her like you more you start to do even more for her. You buy her dinner, presents, even flowers. You push hard to make yourself nice to her.

The more you push the more she retreats

The more you push hard, the more you actually push her away. She fancied you because she was investing more in you than you in her. Now that this is the other way around her attraction to you fades then is gone completely.

She leaves and you are wrong about the reasons

You think she leaves because you didn’t buy her flowers early enough, because you didn’t do more to make her feel good. No. You are wrong. She left exactly because you did those things in the first place. You were a chode, and that is not who she wanted to be with.

Learn from this. If you over invest, if you put mush more in that the other person, you are guaranteeing that this coupling will end. Fact.

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Tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy

Be honest about the nature of the relationship

Focus on the sex

Sleep with someone else

Over investing can cause you to lose your woman