Being honest with your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 21:48:57 +0000

31 Jan 2020 - 21:48 | Tags: being honest with your fuck buddy, how to keep your woman

Having a fuck buddy is fantastic. Getting sex on tap is one of the most self-evident advantages, but there are much more. You can be open and honest with a fuck buddy about what you want and what you like in the bedroom. That honesty is partly fuelled due to the lowered stakes that are created without the expectations that are attached to a more traditional relationship.

When you are in a monogamous, long term relationship where you are merging your lives outside of the bedroom, there is much more pressure to be and act in a certain way. There are also much higher stakes if the relationship does not work out. To give you a more developed example, were you in a relationship with a shared property, kids, shared items and assets then the failing of that relationship can cause a huge amount of turmoil. You have to separate your assets, possible sell or move out of your home, your whole life has to change. This means there are high stakes to keep the relationship going, and those stakes can cause you to be less honest. If you are concerned or worried that your partner may not like something you think, want or have done, you may be inclined to not say anything. This leads to you being dishonest to your authentic self, and that is not something that is okay. Furthermore, being dishonest to your authentic self degrades your confidence and commitment to being you, thus diluting you ability to be who you are in the world. This ultimately makes you less attractive, as you are no longer the person that your partner chose to be with. Being honest is really important, but it is much harder to be honest in that long term relationship.

With a fuck buddy, being honest is easier. This comes from a few places. Being sexually honest is often easier because fuck buddies tend to be more open to suggestion and trying new things. This is not always the case, but it is often true. Being honest about sex is also easier because it is seen as the primary purpose that you are there, so you ought to talk about it. The big reason remains the lowered stakes. In a worst-case scenario where you decide to part company, there is no splitting of assets, you are not moving out of your home, there is no collapse of your way of life as you know it. Yes, you may be saddened by the ending of the relationship and may find that you miss the sex, but ultimately you are fine and you know you are going to be fine. This means you can be honest. If that honesty causes your fuck buddy to leave, then whilst it may be disappointing, it is not the end of the world.

So be honest with your fuck buddy. It is one of the great things about having one, so you should take advantage.

Over investing can cause you to lose your woman

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Dec 2016 18:07:32 +0000

12 Dec 2016 - 18:07 | Tags: how to keep your woman, maintaining a fuck buddy, being alpha

You meet

One day you meet someone. Perhaps you meet them through work, maybe you meet them whilst on a train or a bus. Lots of people are meeting people online, through dating sites or more progressive websites like f-buddy. It doesn’t matter how you find someone, but let’s say you find a woman.

Things Progress

Things move along nicely. At a speed that is comfortable to you, you hug, then kiss, then you are fucking her. The sex starts off as okay (as it usually does with a new person) but then this quickly progress’s along to being good, then before you know it you are having great sex. There are other surprising elements to this woman as well. She is nice to you. Not only does she want you to flip her on her front, grab her by the hips and fuck her hard from behind, but afterwards she is nice to you. She talks, she listens, and you end up doing things outside of the bedroom together. Food, the occasional film. She really likes you, and despite your usual aloof “don’t give a fuck” attitude with women when you know that it is really just a fuck buddy, you start to really like her back.

You over invest

You start to do things for her. You think about things she might need from the shops and pick them up. You start to spend your money on her in ways that are other than buying condoms and lubricant. You start to change your plans for her, and choose to spend time with her over other people. In short, you start to really invest in her.

She senses it – and pulls back

She can sense that you are starting to like her a lot. She can see your actions, and to begin with she likes it... but then she starts to question your value as a man. As long as you were aloof, she saw you as better than her, your withheld attitude made her feel like you were above her league and so she fancied you more for it. Now that you are at a level, she starts to withdraw a little.

You react to this by investing even more

You see her liking you less, so to make her like you more you start to do even more for her. You buy her dinner, presents, even flowers. You push hard to make yourself nice to her.

The more you push the more she retreats

The more you push hard, the more you actually push her away. She fancied you because she was investing more in you than you in her. Now that this is the other way around her attraction to you fades then is gone completely.

She leaves and you are wrong about the reasons

You think she leaves because you didn’t buy her flowers early enough, because you didn’t do more to make her feel good. No. You are wrong. She left exactly because you did those things in the first place. You were a chode, and that is not who she wanted to be with.

Learn from this. If you over invest, if you put mush more in that the other person, you are guaranteeing that this coupling will end. Fact.

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Being honest with your fuck buddy

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