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The most sexy body shape

EdBennett — Wed, 11 Dec 2019 22:56:16 +0000

11 Dec 2019 - 22:56 | Tags: being sexy, how to be sexy

One of the wonderful things about members of the opposite sex is that they come in all shapes and sizes… and all of them are sexy to different people! There are tall ones, short ones, fat ones, thin ones, stiff ones, bendy ones… and they come in all colours to boot! Everyone has their type and preferences which is perfect. It means that there is a fuck buddy out there for everyone, no matter what you or they are like, so everyone has the ability to have a no strings attached relationship. There are certain types of shapes that, statistically, are considered “more” attractive because they appeal to more people. In this article we ae going to talk about what the most sexy body looks like based on the metric of the body type that appeals to the largest number of people… but I want to start with a caveat. Life is about variation and difference. We all look different, and it is those differences that make us unique and interesting. We all have people out there that are going to like us for what we are, so there is never a need to conform to an externally set body type, even if this way of measurement considers it sexier than your body type.

For men that are attracted to women, the driver behind things according to Psychology Today is procreation. Men are hard wired to be attracted to women based on their fertility. This is often reflected in youth (age) and the appearance and health of their skin, hair and other visible body parts. The waist to hip ratio is a really big thing. During puberty fat is built up in the hips, bum and breasts. This creates a lowered waist to hip ratio, which gives men a good indicator of their fertility, hence it being important.

For women interested in men, it is about having a “V” shape. Greater muscles on the upper body with a narrow pelvis is associated with high testosterone levels. Again, this is all about fertility. Women also tend to like older men because this is connected to the building up and gathering of resources which can then be used to look after them and any future offspring that may be created by the coupling. The final main thing is that women like taller men. I struggled to find any scientific studies that really back up why taller men are more attractive to a potential fuck buddy, but I also am certain in its current truth, so I have included it here.

So those are the body types that make the sexiest bodies for both men and women. You can choose to use this information by changing and moving towards one of these body types… but I think that a good choice is also to just find someone that likes you as you are, so don’t get too hung up on this.

Temperature and sex – how to use hot and cold to your advantage

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Jan 2018 09:08:36 +0000

20 Jan 2018 - 09:08 | Tags: casual sex tips, being sexy, staying hard

There are many things that will affect your ability to have sex, and your enjoyment of the sex. This is always different for different people, so I am going to highlight the usual and often seen fluctuations – but remember that everyone is wonderfully different, so you may find yourself on very different ends of the scale!

Timing

Sometimes the time of day can make a really big difference. Some people are morning people, most people due to lifestyle are used to having sex in the evening. The one thing that I know can screw you over (and not screw in the positive sense) is if you leave it too late. The body gets tired, and as it gets tired it’s ability to have and enjoy sex diminishes. Different people have different stamina levels, so for some people they can have sex a lot later and it still be well within the window of a good time, but this effects everyone universally. So watch out.

What you eat

Being hungry or underfed puts the body out of its optimal performance. This affects your ability to think, perform physical tasks, and have sex. There are certain foods that enhance the sex drive that can actively help, but at the least make sure that you have eaten enough food. You need your strength, big boy!

Temperature

This is a really big one. In short it can have a massive affect on your ability to perform and enjoy sex, so this is really one to watch. I am going to split it into hot and cold.

Too Cold

If it is “too cold” your body will spend more time and energy keeping itself warm, and will have less energy to have sex. Remember, “too” cold is relative to the person. For some people, it has to be really cold before it affects them, but ultimately there is a tipping point. For me particularly, if you are cold your body tries to keep warm by keeping everything close in – this means getting and maintaining an erection is really hard, so watch out.

Too hot

Now, this is much harder to hit! It is easier to have sex when it is too hot than when it is too cold. Too much heat can cause lethargy and a lack of motivation to do, well, anything. This includes sex. It is easier to have sex in the heat, but the heat may reduce your enjoyment of it.

So watch out for these elements, optimisation of them can really help keep your sex life “hot”.

Size matters: losing weight will make you sexier, to a point

EdBennett — Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:02:16 +0000

20 Apr 2017 - 17:02 | Tags: weight loss for sex, being sexy

When most people want to get laid more, the go to thing to look at tends to be how we look. It stands to reason, if you are looking to have sex with someone, then since the act of sex is a physical one that happens with the body, the first thing that is judged in terms of sexual attractiveness is of course how we look.

What women do

If you are woman and you wanted to have more sex, get hit on more or are in search of a fuck buddy, then you probably went on a diet. Losing weight is a quick and sure fire way to look more sexy as a woman. There is a reason that the exercise and diet industry is a multi billion dollar industry. It is huge for a reason – because the bottom line is that it works. There is a question of course, does it work because we intrinsically like smaller women, or is it because of the industry propagating the idea that thin women are hotter that we find thinner woman more sexy as men? I personally think that it may be the latter, stands to reason to me that a long time ago when food was scarce that a larger woman displays that she is healthier with better access to food and resources – and thus more likely to be able to bear children fruitfully. I think that it is more modern times that we find ourselves in a society where we revere “thinness”. That however is the world we are currently in, and what I have to work with.

Don’t over do it

If you are a woman and you are on the “get thinner” diet, then let me just give you one piece of advice. Be realistic with your goals. Certain people are built a certain size, and dropping beneath that size makes you look unhealthy – which in of itself is unattractive. Try to avoid this. Loosing fat will without a doubt get you into someone’s bed faster than if you are overweight, but becoming so thin we see bone, ribs or the skin sags so badly because it has nothing to cling to is not going to get you anywhere. In addition to this remember your boobs are going to get smaller when you lose weight. If you drop to a healthy size this will all be in proportion and it is not an issue at all, but if you go too small, you will counter balance the gain you make from the weight loss due to the drop in cup size.

So losing weight will help your sex life – just be careful and don’t overdo it.

Sports are sexy – so do it for better sex

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Jan 2017 21:30:07 +0000

12 Jan 2017 - 21:30 | Tags: being sexy, being attractive, better sex guide

We all want to be having amazing sex. We want to meet someone with whom we have mind blowing, reality altering world shattering sex. We want for it to be so good, that it becomes all consuming, that everything in the world fades in comparison to the extasy that it seems to bring to our minds and bodies. So how do we make sure that we can have such an amazing experience each time we get laid? Well it starts with the body.

The body is the major tool and the medium

The body is the main tool for sex. We have sex with our bodies, using our physical form. If you are a workman and you are cutting something using a bad tool, a blunt instrument, it doesn’t matter how skilled you are, that bad tool will mean the outcome is poor. The same is true for sex, if your body is in bad condition, it doesn’t matter how great your sexual kung fu is, you are going to be week – and the sex will never be amazing. So you need to get your body into shape. What is a great way to do that? Play sports.

Sports make you physically amazing in bed

Regular playing of sports brings the heart rate up, engages all of the muscles in the upper and lower torsos, and it burns a ton of calories. It is a brilliant way to make sure that your body, the medium with which you experience sex, is in great shape and ready to rock someone’s world. If that was all it did, it would be worth doing... but the best thing about sports for sex, is that it goes further.

Sports make you appear sexier to the opposite sex

That’s right – sports aren’t just going to make you better at sex, it is going to help you get more sex in the first place! You remember all those high school films where the hunky guy that sleeps with all the girls is the football player? Well it came from somewhere you know – it is based in fact! Playing sports makes you more attractive – and you know why I think that is? It tells people that you are in great shape – that you are ready to have great sex, which is what they want!

So get yourself out of the house, and go do some sports. Pick a sport you enjoy doing, you’ll get sexier whilst having fun. It is a no brainer!

Look after your body for great sex

EdBennett — Mon, 28 Nov 2016 20:35:23 +0000

28 Nov 2016 - 20:35 | Tags: being sexy, how to be sexy, coming

When it comes to having sex we all want to have the best sex life that is possible. We all want to come hard and be making the other person come even harder. We want to share a scream of agonised pleasure with the other person, for that sweet sweet moment when it is just you and them, and everything else fades away but the sensations of skin and sweat and ecstasy. We have built our civilisation around it, and most of what we do is in some way related to our desire for sex. It is why we get jobs, earn money, buy nice clothes or flashy cars, why we want to have enough money for fancy meals out, it is often why we want to be rich! Most of us believe in our core than having huge wealth means having power, and power equals sex, lots and lots of sex.

Despite all of that effort that we make in other areas, somehow we forget to look after the foundation of our ability to both get sex and to have great sex. Our bodies.

Your body is the medium with which you fuck

When you have sex with someone, you are using your body to do it. You are not only using it, you are reliant on your body to send back the sensations that trigger emotion and feeling. It is the sensor array that gives you the data for your brain to interpret into pleasure. Without a body you could not have sex!

A crap body can equal crap sex

Think about it for a moment. If you had a clapped out car, with a dodgy motor and worn out tires, that car is not going to go very far or very fast. If it is running at 20% efficiency, that is the bottle neck of your journey. The same is true for your body. If your body is tired, badly treated or not looked after, then it will be running at a lower efficiency. It will not function as well – your sex will be worse. If it is running at 20% efficiency, you will only get 20% of the pleasure, 20% of the drive, 20% of the come and the rush.

The answer is simple – look after yourself

Just do it. Look after yourself and you will have better sex. Take care of your body, treat it as your gateway to pleasure, and as long as you do, that gateway will remain open to you.

Make decisions – its sexy

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Nov 2016 12:25:47 +0000

12 Nov 2016 - 12:25 | Tags: being sexy, how to be hot, being alpha

As a man – and yes I am specifically talking to all the gentlemen out there who are reading this blog – to stay sexy it is important to be make decisions. It doesn’t even matter if those decisions are good or bad for the most part, most decisions you make in life actually really don’t matter in the bigger picture. The important thing to do is to make them. Allow me to explain.

Why Make Decisions

Making decisions is sexy. That is the main reason. You want to maintain a level of attraction between you and your partner? Of course you do. You want her to want to jump your bones 24/7. You want her to think you are the bees knees, for her to go weak at the knees at the sight of you, to want you body and soul... because when someone wants you that badly, everything else can be over come. No amount of distance, financial difference, and environmental issues – nothing can mess up your relationship. Also – the sex is amazing, I mean really amazing. One of the easy ways of remaining sexy? Make decisions.

Why making decisions is sexy

When you make a decision, you are effectively taking responsibility for the outcome. You accept that what happens next is down to you and you alone, because you made the decision. It takes a level of strength and confidence to do this, it requires good self esteem and a willingness to put yourself out there. In short – it takes strength, and so every time a decision is made it shows strength, which is sexy as hell.

Does it have to be a big decision?

This is the best part – no! Any decision shows strength. Choosing what you are going to eat of the menu shows strength, what to order at the bar, where to sit down. It all shows confidence and strength. The funny thing is, that most of these decisions also make no difference to the outcome! Whether you sit on one seat or another doesn’t change the conversation or the company. Whether you decide to have the chocolate brownie or the ice cream for desert – you will never know what the other one tastes like anyway so you can’t actually regret it. MOST of the decisions you make are small ones – so make them!

So start making decisions – you will be seen to be sexier for it. Don’t take my word for it! Try it and find out for yourself.