Why having sex for the first time was never good, no matter what people protest!

EdBennett — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 15:51:07 +0000

7 Sep 2018 - 16:51 | Tags: first time sex rules, first time

We all like to talk about the first time that we had sex. It was a big turning point in our lives, the moment that we opened the door to a world of pleasure and ecstasy never before tasted. The first time that we had sex was a milestone in our journey to adulthood. It is something that we will usually remember fondly, and whilst we may not remember the specifics too closely, we are very likey to remember in detail the person, the situation, how old we were… all the factual details around it. We also are likely to look bac on in it and think we had a really good time the first time that we had sex. The reason for this is that after you had sex your friends would have asked you what it was like, and you would have said it was good. You may not remember what it was actually like, but you will remember what you said. Here is the surprising thing, the first time you had sex, it probably was not that good. You were lying to your friends and you are lying to yourself right now by saying that it was good. Let us examine the evidence.

The first time you have sex, you are nervous. It is new, you don’t know what is going to happen or how it is going to happen, so you are extremely unsure. The key to a superb orgasim is to relax, and stress is a pleasure inhibitor. If you are stressed out you are not going to have a good time. The first time, whether you like it or not, you were stressed out! This means you probably did not have a great time.

It takes time to get to know your own body and what you need to orgasm deeply, and without that you do not. Unless you masturbated a lot before having sex, you probably were not familiar enough with your own body in order to have a full orgasm.

You had nothing to compare it to – it was your first time! This means that you both did not know the best way to have sex, and when you said afterwards that you had a good time, you have no context to make that claim! You might have had the worst time ever, but you have no way of really knowing at all!

Your first time was probably not all that great… so now is the time to mak

The Sex Just gets better

EdBennett — Thu, 22 Sep 2016 10:27:00 +0000

22 Sep 2016 - 11:27 | Tags: first time sex rules, first time, sex is healthy

Do you remember your first orgasm – the first time you came? Maybe you do... and if you do it is likely that it was whilst you are alone. You were probably lying in bed having a wet dream and in a delightful explosion of sperm / fluid, you came. When you woke you weren’t quite sure what had happened, but you liked it. The other likely way was you had your first masturbation session. What you used whether picture, erotic fiction or likely just pure imagination doesn’t matter. You learned that you could make yourself feel a certain way, and it was pretty good! The one exception to this is if you are a girl and you rode horses through puberty... in which case you had your first orgasm whilst riding a horse, it was amazing, and at the least through your teenage years you loved horses to a near obsession level and wanted to do nothing but ride horses for your whole life.

Do you remember the first kiss you had? It was exciting, and scary and definitely a little weird. I mean the act and feeling was weird. The kudos you got from your friends from doing it was brilliant, but the actual kiss itself was a bit rubbish. I mean how could it be good? You were new to it, and you had no idea what you were doing... so you rode it out and as time when on it got better. YOU got better at it, because you were just doing it. That’s how you get good at anything.

Do you remember your first lay? The first time you actually had sex with someone? First times are rarely great. I know a few people who said it was “good” - but that is rare and I think that many of those people are exaggerating... heavily exaggerating! The first time was like the first kiss – but magnified by one hundred. Increased by a thousand. It was scary, you were super nervous, you had no idea at all what you were doing despite having talked about it loads with your friends and probably researched it and read about it. You probably had even seem pictures of it... but in the moment none of that helped. You again got applauded afterwards by your friends for making it happen, but the actual act itself wasn’t the mind blowing thing you had been led to believe that it was. It was... alright.

...but then it got better. A LOT better. I mean it became amazing! It just took some time and practice. It took you learning what you really like and what you don’t like. It took finding out how to make the other person come, and how to help them make you come, and when it all came together is a glorious explosion of, well, come it was all worth it.

The Sex just keeps getting better – as infact everything (overall) in terms of YOU keeps getting better over time. So keep doing it, living it and experiencing it, and your life can only be more joyful. Now go get laid.

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Why having sex for the first time was never good, no matter what people protest!

The Sex Just gets better