F-Buddy.com - being attractive

The face makes all the difference

EdBennett — Wed, 12 Jun 2019 17:36:06 +0000

12 Jun 2019 - 18:36 | Tags: being attractive, the science of attraction, looks matter

Being attractive is affected by many different elements. It is driven by your what you do. People who are bin men are naturally less attractive than people who are doctors or high-profile film actors. This is to do with the amount of money that you earn, but it is also about the status that comes with the job title. A doctor has a higher status than a bin man, thus the job title adds to how attractive that person is to the opposite (or same) sex.

Being attractive is also driven by what you wear. Dressing well, dressing smartly, makes you more attractive. Interestingly, some of this is for the same reasons as above. Your dress can say something about what you earn and your status. Women often say they “like a man in uniform” because that uniform goes to the root of what that person does for a living. What you wear can also just make you look sexier. Take the girls in the example picture I have posted. They are both wear short black dresses that accentuate the curvature of their breasts, particularly the one in the foreground who’s blue bra also brings out the smoothness and roundness of her boobs. What you wear can make a big difference.

Your general friendliness can make a huge difference. We want to be happy. Spending time around someone who it bright, upbeat and generally positive makes you a happier person. You almost feed off their happiness which fuels your own happiness. Thus how upbeat and happy someone is will change how attractive they are to the opposite sex.

Your body plays a huge part, especially when it comes to adult dating. If you are looking for a fuck buddy, you want them to have a smoking hot body. Again the girl in the foreground of the picture has a smoking hot body, if she messaged interested in being a fuck buddy I think most men would say yes.

The face can make all the difference. Look at the picture. Both girls are dressed in similar black dresses. Both have smoking hot bodies that compliment them. We know little about their background or demeanour, but based on the picture, the one in the foreground is super attractive, the one in the background less so. Why? The face. Sometimes the face makes all the difference. Background girl looks unhappy, a bit miserable. Perhaps this is her resting bitch face and underneath she is really nice, but we do not know that. All we know is the one in the front is hot and the one in the background less so. If she were to change her facial expression, that might be completely different.

So, remember to smile and try and cultivate a positive view of the world. You will have more sex if you do.

The difference between sexy and creepy comes down to attraction

EdBennett — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 18:30:08 +0000

29 Apr 2019 - 19:30 | Tags: the science of attraction, being attractive, how to be sexy

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find the no strings attached relationship that you are looking for. Everyone wants to both be and find someone sexy. They want to be the sexy, attractive and wanted human being in the room. They want other people to admire and desire them. They want people to want them. They also want to find someone that they feel is sexy, someone that they desire and are attracted to… and they want that person to make them feel sexy by coming on to them. Being hit on is the ultimate validation that you are sexy, but hitting on someone can be hard. It takes bravery and it takes guts, because there is always the possibility of being rejected, something that no one enjoys. Ultimately everyone wants to be sexy.

No one wants to be creepy

No one wants to be creepy. The creepy guy is the guy that is a bit too pervy, a bit too touchy-feely. He is the guy that is hitting on you, and the whole thing is unpleasant, you want him to be away from you as soon as possible. When the creepy guy puts a hand on your arm, shoulder or leg, it feels icky and disgusting. The whole thing feels very unpleasant, and you want it over as soon as possible. No one wants to have the creepy person hit on them, and no one wants to be that creepy guy.

The line between creepy and sexy is often attraction

There are obvious times where someone is sexy. There are clear and easy to identify times where someone is being creepy… hiding in a bush outside someone’s house and watching them with a pair of binoculars is an obvious example of being creepy. However, there is a grey area in the middle where something sexy could be creepy and something creepy could be sexy, and the defining factor is attraction. Let us take an example.

Two people are in a bar, they are chatting and the guy puts his hand on the girls leg. If there is an attraction between them then this is sexy. It is a bold move that takes courage, thus making him seem more sexy for his bravery which is an attractive trait. It also makes her feel sexy as she has a man making clear and obvious moves to say that he finds her attractive. They both win in this situation.

Now the same situation, but this time there is no attraction. The guy puts his hand on the girls leg. Now it is creepy. He has gone where he was not invited. She does not want to be touched so intimately and he is doing it anyway. She probably wants out but does not instantly know how to deal with it. Meanwhile the guy is loving the contact… which means, even though he does not necessarily know it he is taking pleasure at her discomfort. This is creepy.

The only difference here is the attraction levels. So what can you do about it? Well you can try and be more sensitive to the signs. Being bold is good, but if you make a move like putting a hand on someone’s leg and they do not like it, retract it and then give them a little space. You can even be honest and call it if you wanted to and apologise. There is no attraction so you are not going to end up as fuck buddies anyway so you lose nothing by saying sorry.

Best of luck finding your fuck buddy!

Why married men are more attractive

EdBennett — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 15:55:51 +0000

7 Sep 2018 - 16:55 | Tags: being attractive, the science of attraction

It is not a surprise the number of married people that have affairs. I can look at it and understand that after you have been with the same person for a decade that your sexual needs may differ. When you first get together, you are both humping like rabbits. Early couples, in reality, are fuck buddies. They have found someone that they want to have a lot of sex with, if that is not a fuck buddy I am not sure what is! They become a “couple” when that progresses in other areas of their lives, but the best couples remain fuck buddies for life. However, this is a rare thing. For most couples, this tends to die off after a while. The flames of passion are extinguished, and the two-people become nothing more than friends with benefits where the “benefits” are few and far between. At this point, is it any wonder that men go off and have affairs?

What does come as a surprise is the number of single women that have affairs with married men. It is completely understandable that married people go off and have affairs, and the obvious way to do that would be to sleep with other dissatisfied married people. However what actually happens is that married men end up sleeping with single unmarried women much more than you would expect. Given the number of these women that are looking for more than fuck buddy, this seems like an unexpected turn of events. In reality, it is not. Married men are more attractive than unmarried men, and here is why.

Married men are pre-validated. They must make good sexual partners, as someone has already chosen them as their only sexual partner!
Married men have high sexual value. This value is determined on the basis that they are married, which makes them seem valuable.
Married men are unattainable. As humans we all want we cannot have, a married man is, in theory, unattainable.
Married men are “safe” to flirt with. Over time that flirting and sexual tension can build and become more, but the women allow it to start in the first place because the man is married.
Married men with kids have proven themselves fertile. On some level we are attracted to people because they would make good mates and help bear children. A married man who has a child already has proven this beyond doubt, and is thus attractive for this reason.

Married men are more attractive for all these reasons, so as illogical as it may seem, you are more likely to hook up when you already have someone waiting to fuck your brains out at home.

Why we are attracted to people from different countries

EdBennett — Wed, 28 Feb 2018 12:07:45 +0000

28 Feb 2018 - 12:07 | Tags: foreign sex, being attractive, the science of attraction

When it comes to who we want to sleep with, there is a real tension between nature and nurture. Much of our sexual preferences come from how we grew up, the people we are surrounded with, and our early experiences. In other cases, we are driven by our hard coded genetics, the things that we are born with as humans that we have no control over. In this article, I am going to discuss the elements of nature that affect our hook up preferences, how our nature changes who we form no strings attached relationships with, with I will conclude with reasons why these play into our desire to have lots of sex with people from other countries.

Nature

In nature we are born with a desire to procreate. “Go forth and multiply” God said according to the bible. We are had coded to want to have sex. Those that do not have this element within their biology are bred out, they do not have kids and thus do not pass on the nature of not wanting sex. It is a key trait for survival and genetic prosperity.

Part of what comes with survival is a desire to get the best genetic mix in order for our kids to have the best survival traits. Sleeping with someone who looks remarkably different from ourselves ensures that these differences are in place. We are diven to find these differences, and that’s why genetically we want to have sex with people who are different to us, a prime example being that of someone who is from a different country. They sound completely different to us.

Nurture

This also plays an important role: how we are brought up, the people that we are surrounded by. The major factor, the thing that makes the biggest difference, is our early sexual expeiences. Our first big “love” can make a lasting and irrevocable impact on the people that we are going to find attractive. The people that surround us also set our “normal” – that which we are familiar with.

Nature and nurture coming together

Nature is pushing you to find a genetic mix, with the largest variation being the best. Nurture sets your normal, and normal is often boring and less interesting. This means that when you meet someone that is from a foreign country, they ping BOTH these aspects. They are interesting and different in that they are different from your personal “normal”, and then alongside this also ping your natural hard coded drive to find genetic variation.

So that’s why you may find yourself attracted to someone who is very different to yourself, and when you do, go for it!

Some of the sexiest moves are not sex

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Dec 2017 20:31:55 +0000

28 Dec 2017 - 20:31 | Tags: sexy moves, being attractive

Let me start by saying that this is a tribute article to all the sexy people that are out there in the world! Sex is great, and whenever you have sex, you are also giving the gift of getting laid to someone else at the same time. This means that you can legitimately say that you are “only have sex to help people” – and helping people is always a good thing, right?

Sex is wonderful. It brings a lot of happiness to the world, and to the people that are having it. I often wondered if world peace could be achieved by some kind of action that allowed everyone to have more sex. I mean, if everyone was getting laid, would we really have time and energy to also go around trying to kill and conquer the world? My thoughts are that we would be too busy, well, having sex!

In the run up to actually having sex, there are all sorts of ways that someone can turn us on. In many ways the little moves that people make outside of sex are more “sexy” that the ones that they make whilst having sex! During the actual act of having sex, you are too much “inside” it to be able to notice and really appreciate the little things that they do. Outside of sex however, that is where people can really shine. I am going to draw on direct experience, at the risk of this all getting really personal. Here are a list of some of the sexiest things that someone has done for me outside of the bedroom.

The Kiss – bite

There is nothing more sexy than a great kiss. Whether it is the soft, warm gentle kiss that is like a hug, or the hungry needy kiss that comes from desire, kisses are just great. So my favourite kiss move -the kiss bite. When they kiss you, then as they pull away they half bite down on your bottom lip, pulling it with them. It says, “I want to fuck you” like nothing else.

Dressed – just for you

If someone dresses just for you, makes all the effort just for you, there is nothing sexier than that. I once had a girl who painted her nail polish so that it was the same colour as her underwear. It matched none of her out clothes, but it looked great with her in just her bra and pants. This was amazing because it was all for me. It hit my ego spot like nothing else, and was damn sexy!

Effort, with your pleasure in mind, not theirs

On a birthday, a girl once did a ring around and threw me a surprise birthday party. It was all the effort and I got to turn up and enjoy it. There was nothing like it, made unbelievably happy at the time, and thus was super sexy. She got laid big time that night.

So there are my top three! What are yours?

Sports are sexy – so do it for better sex

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Jan 2017 21:30:07 +0000

12 Jan 2017 - 21:30 | Tags: being sexy, being attractive, better sex guide

We all want to be having amazing sex. We want to meet someone with whom we have mind blowing, reality altering world shattering sex. We want for it to be so good, that it becomes all consuming, that everything in the world fades in comparison to the extasy that it seems to bring to our minds and bodies. So how do we make sure that we can have such an amazing experience each time we get laid? Well it starts with the body.

The body is the major tool and the medium

The body is the main tool for sex. We have sex with our bodies, using our physical form. If you are a workman and you are cutting something using a bad tool, a blunt instrument, it doesn’t matter how skilled you are, that bad tool will mean the outcome is poor. The same is true for sex, if your body is in bad condition, it doesn’t matter how great your sexual kung fu is, you are going to be week – and the sex will never be amazing. So you need to get your body into shape. What is a great way to do that? Play sports.

Sports make you physically amazing in bed

Regular playing of sports brings the heart rate up, engages all of the muscles in the upper and lower torsos, and it burns a ton of calories. It is a brilliant way to make sure that your body, the medium with which you experience sex, is in great shape and ready to rock someone’s world. If that was all it did, it would be worth doing... but the best thing about sports for sex, is that it goes further.

Sports make you appear sexier to the opposite sex

That’s right – sports aren’t just going to make you better at sex, it is going to help you get more sex in the first place! You remember all those high school films where the hunky guy that sleeps with all the girls is the football player? Well it came from somewhere you know – it is based in fact! Playing sports makes you more attractive – and you know why I think that is? It tells people that you are in great shape – that you are ready to have great sex, which is what they want!

So get yourself out of the house, and go do some sports. Pick a sport you enjoy doing, you’ll get sexier whilst having fun. It is a no brainer!

Terrible sexual role models lead to stalkers and weirdoes

EdBennett — Wed, 21 Dec 2016 19:54:39 +0000

21 Dec 2016 - 19:54 | Tags: the best sexual role models, being attractive

As we grow up we develop our personalities and our behaviors based on a whole bunch of stuff. Things like what our families are like and how they act, what our friendship circle find acceptable we also find acceptable, what the people that we look up to choose to do also influences what we choose to think is “cool” or a “good” thing to be doing. There is a group influence that causes us to think in a certain way, to feel in a certain way about things, and to think that one way of acting is okay when another is either embarrassing or even plain rude.

Role Models play one of the biggest roles in this

The people that we look up to, that we revere as our chosen role models play a bigger part in this than anything else. A single person that we look up to strongly enough, can over ride behaviours that the rest of our upbringing and culture have imprinted on us over a lifetime. These role models hold huge sway over their followers, and their influence cannot be underestimated. It is for this reason that I am so angered and annoyed at some of the most terrible role models that I have ever seen being presented to young men, and specifically the messages that they send about sex and relationships. Let’s go straight to an example.

Twilight – Edward Cullen has a lot to answer for

Edward Cullen is a 100 year plus old vampire. He lives forever, can stalk the night, is super strong and has the additional wisdom that his 100 year old life lends him with which to navigate the world of both day to day life and the pitfalls and traps of relationships. This guys should be the daddy, the alpha male of boyfriends. Is he? Is he fuck, the guy is a complete pussy. He meets an extremely young girl, who would fall into his arms at the click of his fingers, and what does he do to win her over? He turns into obsessed controlling stalker guy. She wakes up and he is standing there at the foot of her bed looking down on her as she sleeps – without her permission. The worst part? She then likes this and falls for him... thus telling all the viewers that the way to get a hot girl is to be the weird stalker guy. If he had grabbed her vampire style and just taken her willing and nubile body back to his that would have been a far better message, but know he goes all controlling and stalker.

Spot it, recognise it, so you can ignore it

We are so easily influenced as humans, we can’t help it, it’s how we are made. So when you see things like this try and spot it and consciously recognise what you are looking at. That way you can reject the bad sexual message that they are sending, and get back to being the awesome guy that you are.

Don’t fear the invisible sword of being dumped, for you sharpen it

EdBennett — Fri, 12 Aug 2016 20:18:38 +0000

12 Aug 2016 - 21:18 | Tags: being alpha, breaking up, being attractive

Fear is part of life. We all fear things, and that is no bad things for fear can serve us well. It is the thing that keeps us alive, and stops us from doing something that gets us killed. When we are young it is the fear of being burned that keeps us safe from fire, the fear of the pain from falling that stops us jumping from the top of high things, the fear of getting lost that keeps us near our parents and stops us from, well, getting lost! It is a useful emotion, which is why we have it. However in modern day life when we no longer have survival as our primary problem, fear can get in the way big time. Let’s get straight to it and look at it from a relationship point of view.

Once you have someone, whether a fuck buddy or a long term relationship, there is the possibility of being dumped. This is quite a likely possibility as eventually most relationships end. If you are not that into them, or it is early days, this fear is small because the stakes are small. You really haven’t invested that much into the relationship, you have only had a sex a few times if at all, there is no great loss if it ends. As time goes on, the more you come to like the other person whether for their witty conversation or their tight body, the higher the stakes gets and the less you want to separate. This in turn starts to breed the fear of that loss. If you are breaking up with them that is a different thing, as it is on your terms, but the fear of them ending things with you grows proportionally to the amount that you like them. The problem is this is a self fulfilling prophesy.

The fear of the invisible sword hanging over your head that is ready to sever the ties between you changes how you act. The brain thinks that it is helping you – like the way it stopped you from getting burned or jumping off a cliff... but the opposite is true. You start to be conflict averse, because the argument could lead to a ending... which means you start caving on things that worsen the relationship. You start apologising about things that are not your fault, which leads to false feedback and your partner to continue to make fuck ups You stop making strong decisions in an effort to please her/him – which end in no one being happy. Ultimately you compromise on who you are, which leads to you ceasing to be the person that they fancied to begin with, which dooms the partnership.

Don’t fear the sword of break up, for it will condemn you to its use. Now if I could only fully embrace my own advice on this my life would be so much better! Good luck you crazy cats.