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How long do you wait before texting a fuck buddy?

EdBennett — Sun, 29 Jan 2023 00:27:06 +0000

29 Jan 2023 - 00:27 | Tags: texting, when not to have sex, getting laid

Finding a fuck buddy is a process. That process can sometimes be really quick. Maybe you are out for the night, you see someone you like, you go over and it is instant chemistry! Bam – you both head back together to yours/theirs and you have a great night together. The next day you roll over and you still like what you see, and they do as well, so you exchange numbers and before you know it you have a fuck buddy on speed dial! It can happen like that. For a lot of people though, it does not happen as easily as this. For most people there is a bit of a process that has to take place on the journey there. You usually have to speak to a number of people before you meet someone that you like where there is chemistry. You often don’t sleep with someone the very first time you meet them. There is usually a back and forth that happens between the first meeting and the sex during which time you have to step through a careful dance. The dance can be really good fun, and it can make the sex better when you get there for, as humans, we value more highly that which we have fought and laboured for. It remains a tricky dance at times and one with pitfalls.

So you meet someone, maybe at a bar where they are a complete stranger or maybe at a house party where there is a connection of sorts. You chat, you like each other so you exchange numbers… but now you have to make a decision. When do you text them? There are different options and this can have different effects, so here are the options and the choices to help you decide.

Texting the same night

This can be really powerful. If you built a lot of chemistry in the moment and you can text them the same night and cash in / continue that, it can be a great move. For some people who need reassurance and comfort, this can also be a comfort builder. Some warnings though, you want to keep it light and snappy. You also want them to read it the same night, so if you are still out till 5am and they are asleep by 2am, don’t text them at 3am! Finally, do not send a long over the top message. If it is same night, keep it light!

The next morning

You want to think about their state of mind when reading it. If they have been drinking don’t send it when they are hung over! Wait till they have had some recovery time then send it. If they are sober this can be a good call.

The next evening

If you are going to wait till the next day, this is better than the morning for the reasons stated above.
2-3 days later

This can be a power move IF they were really into you. If not then they might have forgotten who you are!

A week later

I think this is too much generally. They will likely have mentally moved on. Do not wait this long!

Good luck!

Summer is the easiest time to get laid

EdBennett — Sat, 21 Jul 2018 13:57:10 +0000

21 Jul 2018 - 14:57 | Tags: getting laid, how to get laid, advice to get laid

The sun is shining, the days are warm, summer is here! Summer brings with it a whole load of advantages with it. The days are longer so you can get a lot more done. The evenings bring time to relax with a cold drink and some good friends outside. Everyone wants to move that little bit slower, so everyone wants to relax and just enjoy themselves that little bit more. When it comes to sex, everything gets easier in the summer… including how difficult it is to get laid.

The heat reduces the amount of clothes that everyone is wearing. This has a twofold effect. Firstly, everyone is that little bit hornier. With everyone looking sexier, everyone generally is more turned on, and thus everyone wants to have sex more. This makes it easier to get laid overall, as everyone is more likely to be looking for the same thing, for you to take action and show them a good time!
The second thing that reduced clothing in the heat does, is that it makes it easier to have sex! It is easier for both parties, when they want to do it, to do it! Skirts were invented for sex, they are perfect both for the heat and to work around… you don’t even need to take them off it you don’t want to, just push them up!

The extra heat also makes it easier to have sex pretty much anywhere you want to. Usually, the extra cold caused by taking clothes off can kill the sex vibe, so you need to be somewhere that this does not happen. This usually means having to go back to theirs or taking them back to yours, or even getting a hotel or something. In this case, none of these are barriers to you having a good time, so you really can get up and involved without having to think about these things!

The summer is when our natural body clocks tell us that it is time to have sex. If you are not having sex in the winter your body does not mind as much. If you are not having sex in the summer the body is more likely to call out to you. It is the difference between not eating again after lunch, or not eating when you are really hungry. Your body drives one much more than the other.

It is so much easier to get laid in the summer, so if you are currently not getting laid and would like to be, now is the perfect time to have a hookup or meet a new fuck buddy. You’ll be surprised what falls into your lap!

Alter your job title to find a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Wed, 23 Aug 2017 06:57:45 +0000

23 Aug 2017 - 07:57 | Tags: getting laid, jobs that get girls, standing out in online dating

When we are first looking for a fuck buddy online, there are certain keys things that stick out and make you more or less likely to get contacted and screwed... and by screwed I mean in a good way not a bad one! The way that you look is the first thing that people will look at, and potentially the only thing that people will look at, especially if you are a girl. If you are a good looking girl with large boobs and an hour glass curvy figure, then it is quite likely that all you need to land a fuck buddy or a quick hook up, is to show that off in a couple of profile pics. The rest will do itself. If you have less to offer in terms of how you look, then the other things that you put on your profile will get looked at, and can play a role in your future midnight meetings. Your job title is a big one.

The job that you do and have displayed on your profile will be interpreted when the person is thinking about whether to message you or not. So what are the big hitters?

Barrister / Lawyer

If you are a barrister or a lawyer, then you are going to get more attention from the ladies. It suggests both power and money, things that are both powerful aspects in the dating arena. You are going to be presumed to have the cash to splash on good nights out and fancy sex toys, and you are going to be assumed to be dominating in the bedroom, so be prepared to take charge and lead!

Pro Tip: Not a Barrister but want to try this out? Put down barrister and when asked say that you are a barrister, as in someone who makes great coffee. Opps – did you spell that wrong on your profile? Oh well!

Doctor

There is no faking this if you are not a doctor, but if you are a doctor be prepared to be swimming in poon. I don’t know what it is that makes girls go week at the knees for someone who is a doctor, but it is true. Perhaps it is indepth knowledge of the body? Or again is it just the pay packet? Either way, grab your goggles and go swimming!

Banker

This is a love hate thing – like marmite. People will either be all over you for the money focused, self centred alpha male that you are, or they will hate you for it. Be prepared to have requests to get kinky in the bedroom though, they will presume that you are both kinky and dirty.

But what if I am none of these?

I wouldn’t advise anyone to lie on their profile, but I would say think about the words you use when you write up your job title. So for example, if you are a parking inspector, this is an almost universally hated job. No one likes parking tickets, so this will have a negative impact on your ability to find a hook up. So think about phrasing it differently. Say you work for the council or something. This is both true, but does not point out the reality that you go around making peoples days worse for a living.

So think about how you present your job, it may make the difference between a long term no strings attached relationship, and nights of loneliness.

Is being a student all about having sex?

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Jul 2017 17:54:23 +0000

28 Jul 2017 - 18:54 | Tags: student sex, having sex, getting laid

At the point that we finished with our main schooling, we have a choice of going on to do further education, higher education, or going out into the real world and getting a job. In modern life, if we are purely looking at the economics of the choice, and by that I mean the money, it makes no sense to go to university or college and makes total sense to go out there and get a job. The reason for this is losing a minimum of three years of income whilst paying out for those 3 years, really pays itself off in the following decade. Most students come into the real world with a minimum of £30,000 of debt full stop this is a huge amount of money to be owing before you even started earning! So why on earth do people do it? Why do people go to university? I think I have the answer. Sex.

You are geared up to get laid

As a student, you are geared up to getting laid. Don't believe me? Allow me to take you through a point by point the lifestyle of a sexy student.

You are surrounded by single people

This is the first big thing. Environment. You are single and surrounded by thousands of other single people of a similar age. Most of them want to have sex and are open to easy hook ups, becoming f*** buddies, or just the occasional no strings attached liaison with someone else for one night only. This makes getting sex in the first place incredibly easy. The best part is that there are so many people around you looking for it, that you can quickly work your way to multiple people without the difficulty of having to go out and try hard to meet lots of new people. This is one of the most powerful parts and being a student looking for sex.

Everyone has disposable time

When you meet someone you like in the working world, you have to arrange to meet up. After you have worked around peoples work schedule, live schedule, current meeting with friends and families, you may make one meeting a week to begin with. This is a ball ache. When you're a student none of this is an issue. You all have so much disposable time, that if you meet someone you like it's likely they can go out on a date with you there and then… and if it goes well come straight back to yours there and then.

There is a feeling of lack of consequence

If you sleep with someone that you work with, the likelihood is you going to have to look them in the face for the next 5 years. When you're a student this is not an issue. If you sleep with someone as a student to be honest you don't even have to look them in the face for the next five minutes! If you really wanted to you could just leave and probably never see them ever again. This makes people brave in the act of getting laid.

I sometimes wonder if this is the main thing that people miss about being an student, the loss of all that sexual opportunity. Regardless, there is no doubt that being a student is a wonderful time in most people's sex lives.

Being negative is unlikely to get you laid

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Jun 2017 10:37:52 +0000

12 Jun 2017 - 11:37 | Tags: getting laid, hooking up tips

Whether you are meeting someone for the first time because you bumped into them in a street, you are at a work thing, or you are meeting a new potential fuck buddy for a drink, everyone sexually evaluates each other all the time. We can’t help it, we are wired to check! If you meet someone and you think you would sleep with them based on how they look, you know it before the first word is spoken. You also know it if you would *not* ever sleep with them immediately! In fact, being physically ugly or repulsive in some way can really affect your life from how you are treated at bus stops through to how easily you get jobs. So staying attractive is an important skill whether you are looking for a hook up not. One of the things that plays into it is how positive you are.

We all want to be happy

We all want to be happy, we all want to have good lives, with happy times and god days. It is as simple as that. The people that are around us can play a really big part in whether we are happy or not, they really affect our happiness levels, so we are naturally more attracted to people who smile a lot, who appear to be happy because emotions are infectious. This means that if you have a bright and sunny personality you are more attractive. Most definitely this is especially true for girls. Women that smile a lot are far more sexy than women who don’t! Girls who are bright and sunny, who are naturally happy come across like they would have a great time in bed and would make for a great fuck. If you are a man, it can be slightly different in the sexual market place. If you are a man ad you are quiet or not naturally prone to smiling, then you can come across as strong or solid and that can be seen as sexy in itself, so this is more important for women than men. Negativity is universal however.

Being negative will kill the desire for others to want to fuck you

If you are negative all the time, this will act to convince people that they really don’t want to fuck you however. It will act to put people off, to filter you out of the possible sexual partner list whether you are a man or a woman. Simple.

So if you are someone who is naturally negative all the time, it may be worth addressing the reasons behind it. Not only will you be happy more often for fixing it, but you will also get laid more, and that will actively work to make you happier!

The art of moving on: Your ex girlfriend lied

EdBennett — Sat, 20 May 2017 15:00:16 +0000

20 May 2017 - 16:00 | Tags: getting laid, getting over an exgirlfriend, fuck

Whether we want to or not, eventually if we are sleeping with someone, we will become to have feelings for them and attachments. Having sex was traditionally called “being intimate” – and being intimate with someone develops exactly that, it grows intimacy. You begin to come together as people, and as that closeness grows there are many positive things that come from it. You begin to care about each other, you begin to make efforts to be nicer to each other, you get to know each other more and more – and from that everything gets better. The way you are with each other, the way you joke with each other, even the sex gets better as you learn each other’s bodies and what your preferences are.

Eventually often you end up “going out” and often that also ends. When you are no longer with your ex girlfriend, it can be really hard to move on. You can find yourself missing the intimacy, the closeness, the care that you shared. So how can you really move on?

Crush all hope

The hope that you may get back together is something that will hold you back. You want to be back together, and as much as you might logically know that it is not going to happen, it doesn’t stop you hoping, and it is the hope that will hope you back. Know that she is having sex with other people. Accept fully that she is fucking other guys (or girls) and that she is loving it. They are making her scream with delight and come as hard as she did with you, and in those moments she is not thinking of you, she is thinking of them. Let go of hope, and hope will let you move on.

Everything she said was a lie

She meant it in the moment, and giving her the benefit of the doubt for a moment she probably didn’t even know that she was lieing at the time, but she was. She is not staying faithful, she does not love you, and anything she promised is now off the cards. All bets are off. This is key.

Finally – accept that moving on does not undermine anything you promised / said

Many people have trouble moving on because it can feel like a betrayal of any promises that you made, anything that you said. Know that you meant them at the time, but now that things have changed you can let it go without betraying yourself. This is often the final step.

Get laid

The best way of getting over it fast? Get laid. Sleep with someone else, it is one of the most helpful things that you can do for yourself.

Using plausible deniability to ask her back to yours

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Apr 2017 16:06:40 +0000

28 Apr 2017 - 17:06 | Tags: getting her back, getting laid, sex on the first date

If a date is going well, both parties desire sex at the end of it. I want to be clear here, that is not to say that sex will definitely happen, only that it is what both people on the date actually want. So if you doubt that the person sitting opposite you wants to sleep with you, put all that doubt aside and know that it is the case. In many ways this is the only attitude that can serve you. If they don’t want to sleep with you then this is going nowhere anyway, if they do want to sleep with you then there is potential and it is possible that it is all good in the hood. If you act under the assumption that they don’t want to sleep with you then you will create the self fulfilling prophecy that leads you to finish the night alone in your bed. However, if you go with the take that they do want to sleep with you, if you are correct (and the odds are actually in your favour on this front) then you are much more likely to be able to manifest this into reality and be comfortably snuggled up with a warm and supple body next to you in the morning. All you need to do is ask them to come back to yours.

It is hard to ask

It has always been hard to ask this, because it will often time end in rejection. Well that is what your brain is telling you anyway. In reality the opposite is true but the only way you will ever believe that is by testing it and finding out for yourself. So it is hard because you don’t want the rejection, and they don’t want to feel like a slut for saying yes. The solution – don’t ask!

Ask a different question

You have to ask them to come back for sex without making it explicit that you are asking for sex, thus protecting your fragile ego and at the same time giving them the opportunity to say yes without feeling like a slut! How to do this? Here are some examples:

Come back and see my fish
Come ad meet my dog
Wanna come back for hot chocolate – it’s coffee for the 21st century!
You’ve never read XXX book? Crazy! Right we are going back to mine right now I am going to lend you my copy

It doesn’t matter how you ask it, the excuse is not important because really they know exactly what is going on, it just allows them to deny that they know what is going on, which is what they want to do!

So always ask them to come back to yours for sex, but do it in a way that allows them to ignore that you are talking about sex (even though they know exactly what is going on!).

Why the 3rd date sex is Prime time... and how to accelerate that to 1 date

EdBennett — Thu, 06 Apr 2017 18:52:28 +0000

6 Apr 2017 - 19:52 | Tags: getting laid, asking her back to yours, sex on the first date

Everyone knows that the third date is when you get it on. It has been a long enough time that you have had a chance to get to know each other a little, but not so long that there is going to be massive pressure on the sex, nor are you pot committed to the relationship so if you turn out to be sexually incompatible there is no bad feeling for never seeing each other again after that date is over. The third date is the perfect time for many people. It is socially acceptable so there is no chance of anyone feeling like a “slut” or getting any social backlash from anyone else around them as to the speed at which they decided to go for it. There has been a nice build up in the run up to it, and you generally feel like you know the person a little, he/she is not a stranger at the point where you have sex at the 3 date point.

The third date is perfect prime time sexy time. It is like the perfect combination of long enough for familiarity with the other person, but not too long that there is huge pressure on the sex or the relationship at the point where it happens. There is something about it, it is just right!

How to accelerate 3 dates into 1 date!

Say you don’t have time for three dates though. You are passing through the country and meet someone, or the person is about to leave the area, or you have cancer and are about to die, or you are just really impatient and love sex so much you want to do it immediately! It doesn’t matter the reason, there is one simple tried and tested way to accelerate the 3 date rule into sex on the first date. Here it is:

Do three venues

You go to the first bar and it feels like a date... but every time you move venues it makes you psychologically feel like it is a new day because it is a new experience. The brain interprets things differently, and so every new venue accelerates how quickly you can get to know someone, and how much you feel you know them. This means if you do three venues, you can make it feel like a third date and... BAM! Sex!

It really is as simple as this. Don’t believe me? Go out and try it – trust me, you are going to be so happy with the results!

Set sex goals to make them happen

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 19:27:48 +0000

20 Feb 2017 - 19:27 | Tags: getting laid, having more sex

We all have goals and drives in life – things that we want to do! Some of those things are childhood fancies that naturally get dropped with the passing of time, for example the classic “when I grow up I want to be an astronaut”. How many of us said that? Well the reality is that many of things that you would have loved to do, in practice it is impossible. “I want to be a ballet dancer” says the 13 year old girl in the sweetest voice – the reality is “sorry luv, you are way past it! Never going to make it now you are old!”. If you wanted to be a professional ballet dancer, you really needed to start training years earlier! However, not all dreams need to remain dreams, some of them you can manifest and realise – all you have to do is make them a fixed goal and they can happen!

The way goal setting works is that you decide what you actually want. It has to be tangible and specific, and you need a why. So the classic “I want more money” gets you nowhere. However lets re write that:

Specific: I want to make £100,000 a year
Why: So that I can buy my dream home in London and pay off the mortgage within 10 years.

The more specific you can be, the more likely it is to happen, the more you naturally look for opportunities to make it happen. So people do this for other parts of their life, why not do it for sex?

If you know what you want, and you can be specific about it, then you can achieve it. You just need to set it as a goal. So for example say you have always wanted to have a threesome secretly.... but you currently presume that this is something that is not possible, so you don’t even try and make it happen. You miss 100% of the shots that you do not take. Set it as a goal:

Specific: I would like to have a threesome with me and 2 other girls, at least one of whom should be a blonde
Why: It is my uppermost sexual fantasy – if I can do it when I die I will be able to die that little bit happier
If you set it as an actual goal, you have a chance of making it happen. In this case, there are girls out there who also want to have a threesome – all you have to do is find these girls and then it will happen.

So set some sex goals, and then make them happen.

Wearing great underwear ALL the time gets you laid more

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Jul 2016 15:24:46 +0000

28 Jul 2016 - 16:24 | Tags: getting laid, how to get sex, sex tips

It has always been well known that dressing a certain way is more likely to get you laid. It can make a quite sizable difference to the attention that you get from members of the opposite sex (or even same sex if that is your preference!). A super hot girl in an old baggy jumper 3 sizes too big and a pair of worn dirty jogging bottoms if not going to be as attractive as a mediocre girl wearing heals and a boob tube. How we choose to display our assets is as important as what we start with. It’s as much about how you choose to use what you have as what you actually have in the first place. No matter what cards you are dealt, you get to decide how to play those cards. Remember that.

You probably think a lot about clothing and choice of clothing when in the “dating” or “meeting” section of the seduction. Once you make it to the bedroom, it is all clothes off right? What you wear makes no difference, right? Wrong. Think about it , you already know this. If you are getting laid you are not going to wear hole ridden bad smelling y-fronts are you? Of course not, you are going to wear the nicest pare of sexy boxers you have. It makes a difference and you know this already. Want further proof? When you get a girl back to yours (or you to hers) and her clothes are coming off, the underwear she is wearing can make a huge difference to how turned on you are by her – right? There is a reason that the global lingerie market was estimated to be worth $110 billion in 2014. It is because having sexy underwear can make a really big difference to your sex life. Its more than just about how you look to the other person as well, it is also about how you feel,

Your choice of “invisible” clothing can really alter your confidence. I know for a fact that when I have been out with a girl that is wearing some serious sexy underwear, she has been more confident when out, more eager to get back to the bedroom, and more keen on having sex as she knows that her extra new sexy underwear is going to make me want her even more than usual. It changes her out look and her bearing.

The same is true for men. If you have on really good boxers, or even joke boxers on underneath, you know that if you end up getting naked that you are good to go! You are ready for it, and have nothing to be embossed about or anything that is going to trip you up. Again you know this.

So always wear good underwear at all times. It leaves you more confident, ready for action, and will have a subtle but important effect on your rate of success with women.