Cold read your partner in bed to appear like a sexual monster

EdBennett — Tue, 22 Feb 2022 18:12:45 +0000

22 Feb 2022 - 18:12 | Tags: sexy mindset, how to have better sex, be a sex god

We all want to be great in bed. We want to have a good time and we want our fuck buddy or whomever we have hooked up with to have a good time as well. The thing we definitely want is for our fuck buddy to think that we are amazing in bed. As humans, from a young age, we have been taught to seek approval. Most of us wanted our parents to be proud of us. As kids we were taught that our teachers were the ones that gave us grades, marks and generally made judgements about our worth, so we became seekers of their approval. Even at work, most of us have bosses that give us appraisals or decide if we are going to get pay rises or promotions, again all of which mean we continue to seek approval from others. The same is true in bed.

We cannot help but want the person that we are sleeping with to want more of the same, to want us again and again (and again!). We seek that approval (and we seek it often without evening being aware that we crave it so). So how can we really be sure that we are going to get it, that we are going to rock the world of the person that we are with? There are many steps that can be taken, but one is to learn to cold read your fuck buddy.

Cold reading is the art of reading someone’s body language to know what they are thinking or what action they are about to take without them saying words to that effect. It is most commonly known in poker, where you try and “read” your opponent to know when they are telling the truth or when they are lying. In this case, it is about reading your fuck buddy so that you know what they like and what they don’t like. It is really quite simple as well!

Sometimes your fuck buddy will use their words and just tell you what feels good. When they do that, listen and do more of whatever it is you are doing. Other times they don’t and this is when you really pay attention. When you stoke them somewhere, do they pull away (indicating they don’t like it) or do they lean in? Does their body shiver with pleasure or stiffen in stress? If you can be sensitive to this, you can adjust your approach accordingly.

Listen to their breath as well. As they breathe faster, shallower breaths they are getting more and more excited. When that changes, be mindful of what you are doing so you can quickly learn what it is that is turning them on and off.

By simply listening in this way, you will find your fuck buddy will keep coming back again and again as they have the best time in bed with you.

The best sex is the sex that you are having right now

EdBennett — Sat, 09 Jul 2016 18:31:47 +0000

9 Jul 2016 - 19:31 | Tags: Aussie sex, sex is great, sexy mindset

Every fuck buddy has a sexual history. It is impossible to meet an f-buddy that does not! You see if you are looking for a fuck buddy it is because you really want sex, and if you want sex it is because you have had it before and you liked it. No one will go out of their way to try and get, say a deeper than ever pie unless they have already tasted a deeper than ever pie. They might desire to eat one, in the same way that before you had sex you knew already that you wanted to have sex, but until you have had sex you are highly unlikely to have the confidence and surety to find a fuck buddy.

Since every f-buddy has had sex before, everyone you will sleep with has a sexual history. This is normal, in fact it would be weird if they didn’t have a sexual history! This is a good thing – it is a great thing infact! No one can make someone come unless they already know how to come. By know, they don’t have to know it logically, they need to at least know it in their body, in their neither regions. If they have a sexual history, they likely know how to come, you don’t have to be the one to take them through that potentially difficult journey to learning about themselves. Great! You can get straight down to fucking! That’s fucking great!

However, there is a danger about become insecure. I have seen it many times, and that is not only in men or woman who have actual sexual issues. I have seen it in the greatest lovers, the mightiest men and the hottest women. I even once spoke to someone working in the adult film industry (yes they were a porn star) who had grown insecure about whether they were the best sex their partner had had. There is a cure to this, a permanent truth that protects you from the unhappiness and havoc that this idea can cause.

The best sex is the sex you are having right now. I will type that again to drum it in. The best sex, is the sex that you are having *right now*. The past is gone, it no longer exists as a reality. It is a mirage. The future does not exist and no one really knows what it will bring. The sex you are having now is real, present, it exists. No matter the lovers that your f-buddy had in the past, I don’t care if they say that they slept with the Olympic sex champion of the world – the best sex they are having is the sex they are having now, and if that if you then you are their current greatest lay, their most potent lover.

So put down your insecurities, set aside any doubts that you might have. You are the greatest lover that they have ever had. Know this to be a fact, because it is a fact.

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Cold read your partner in bed to appear like a sexual monster

The best sex is the sex that you are having right now