Men fake it too

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 10:33:47 +0000

12 Jul 2016 - 11:33 | Tags: faking orgasms, coming

It has long been known that women can and will sometimes fake an orgasm. I think that it is terrible practice; it sends all the wrong messages and gives false feedback that can cause the two sexual partners to becomes stuck in a loop of bad sex. Example:

Couple are having sex, they are about to come
Man thinks that biting girl’s ear is a huge turn on
Girl finds it a huge turn off – she goes from being on the verge of coming to turned right off.
Girl can’t come because of this – so fakes it to end the sex session
Man learns that biting ear equals orgasm, and starts doing it every time she is about to come
Cycle of bad sex and the girl faking it forever begins.

This is a really bad cycle to hit, and the best way to avoid it is to never fake it. Admitting you faked it afterwards is a really hard thing to do, so the best thing is do not put yourself in that position in the first place. Just don’t do it. Never fake it ladies. NEVER.

It is easy for girls to fake it, as sometimes it is really hard to tell. If the girl has gotten really super wet in the lead up, and is warm and inviting, unless she is one of the super rare squirters that exist in the world, her coming is more in the body that in the juices. When she starts to moan, writhe and wriggle with orgasm it feels the same to the man if it is real verses if it is fake. It is really hard to tell, but with a man it is easy to tell, right? Or is it?

What people don’t realise is that there is coming and that there is orgasm, and that they are two very different things. When a man comes he shoots his load, and that is really clear and obvious. Usually this means that he has also had an orgasm... however this is not a guarantee. A man can come without orgasm, he can shoot his load but not actually hit the mind numbing pleasure that is the orgasm that you want to come with it. When this happens, it is even easier for the man to fake it. The visible signs are there, he is in the act of having sex and the woman is distracted by the penetration, it is all too easy to just make an appropriate noise and let the woman think that you hit your ecstasy when you didn’t.

Men – don’t do it. Don’t fake it any more than you would want the ladies to do it. You risk hitting the bad sex cycle, and you don’t want to be there.

Don’t fake an orgasm – but do be nice to the other person when you don’t come

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 19:34:56 +0000

20 Jun 2016 - 20:34 | Tags: faking orgasms, female orgasm, finding orgasms

We all want to please and be pleased. We all want that thing where we come really hard, have our minds blown and have the peace and calm that comes with post sex awesomeness. We also want the other person to have the same reaction. I am not sure why this is, is it just pure ego? Regardless of the why, we want the other person to feel amazing by what ever we have done with them. We want them to have come hard, to have been pleasured fully, and to want nothing more than to do it again (and again) with you because it was that amazing.

In an effort to maintain a good relationship, many people have been taught that they should fake it once in a while. I am mostly talking about women here, but men also do get this a little. They think that the occasional faking of an orgasm when it is not actually taking place is no harm, and that next time they are sure it will be better. They don’t want to set the other person up with a mental block about not being able to make them come, and I do get that. In many ways I admire the generosity – however it is not helpful and that generous approach can be better used in another way. Allow me to explain.

When you fake it, you are giving false feedback. You are telling the other person that what they are doing is great, that whatever they did made you come, made you orgasm. As humans one of the reasons that we have done so well as a race is that we are great at learning. We excel at the obsorbing of what works and does not work on a subconscious level, and then replicating the things that have brought us success. What this means is if you give false feedback, the other person learns that what they did worked. When they do it again in the future expecting you to come, and you don’t, this will be very confusing. More likely is that when they do it again, you will fake it again, confirming that whatever they did made you come. This re enforces the cycle.

What this leaves is a situation where you aren’t having an orgasm, and the other person falsely believes that you are and that everything is great. Don’t do it. Just DON’T. It is bad for everyone involved.

On that note, please go forth and have lots of sex!

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Men fake it too

Don’t fake an orgasm – but do be nice to the other person when you don’t come