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How to have better sex with your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 06 Nov 2022 09:43:49 +0000

6 Nov 2022 - 09:43 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Having a fuck buddy is, frankly, just the best. You have sex on tap, you don’t have any of the usual strings attached that comes with it, and you have the freedom to carry out the rest of your life without the sex part interfering with it. Finding a fuck buddy can really be a game changer. One other benefit about sleeping with a “friend with benefits” rather than sleeping with someone in a more standard relationship is that you both pay attention to the sex. As that is the primary focus, you can go on a journey together to make sure that the sex that you are having is the best sex that you can possibly be having. Want to start that journey now? Or perhaps you are already on it and want some extra tips to help you on the way? Well, if you do, read on my friend!

Think about what you like during sex, recognise what you have been told you should like during sex

We have been programmed from birth. Social conditioning is a key element of human learning and, as a result, we have a whole bunch of views that are not our own. They were given to us. The dangerous part here, in particular, is that we may not recognise what we have been “given” and what is truly our own. This is especially true in the bedroom. There are certain things that you think you ought to like, that you have been told you must like to be having good sex. This is a nonsense. We are all different and we should celebrate that. So with that in mind, try and separate out what you have been told you ought to like, and what you actually like. If you can recognise that, you can then do more of it!

Discuss it with your fuck buddy

Have a frank and open conversation with your fuck buddy about what you do and don’t like. This is one of the powers of adult dating, you can have these conversations, and no one minds. There is no judgement. By talking to the person you are hooking up with, you will both have a better time in the bedroom. You will get what turns you on and they get the pleasure of become (your) god in bed!

So think about these steps and take it to the next level.

How to last longer in bed for men

EdBennett — Fri, 26 Nov 2021 18:02:42 +0000

26 Nov 2021 - 18:02 | Tags: erectile dysfunction, better fuck buddy, better sex guide

When it comes to sex, pretty much everyone would benefit from having more of it. Many people are raised thinking that men want sex more than women do. This is simply not the case. Men and women both desire sex just as equally, and in fact, I would argue that women actually have the capacity to develop a desire and drive for sex far more compelling than any men. Why you ask? Of all the men I have spoken to on the subject, I have never had a man tell me that they found themselves left uncontrollable shaking and moaning on the bed following sex, unable to think or understand where they are or what is going on. The same cannot be said for some of the women I know. I have the impression that whilst women are much harder to please and men have a much easier time orgasming, when a women does orgasm, it can be a deeper and stronger experience than any man has ever felt during sex. I live to be proved wrong on this of course, and I would be glad to be proved wrong given that I am a man!

When men do have sex, one of the things that can reduce the pleasure of the sex for both the man and the women is the length of time that the man “lasts”. Yes it shouldn’t matter and we live in a more inclusive world now, but ultimately, lasting for a longer time as a man before orgasming can give you more time to be into it and more time for the woman to come to her orgasm point as well. Many men think there is nothing that can be done other than take drugs. Yes, medication is an option, but here I would like to outline a few ways of lasting longer in bed without having to resort to taking Viagra or another performance enhancing drug.

Masturbate before sex

For men, following orgasm and ejaculation, there is something known as the refractory period. Think of it like a reset period. This means that if you masturbate before meeting up with your fuck buddy, when you get to having sex this will be the second time that evening you are having sex and you are much more likely to take longer to come. There is plenty of evidence behind this, so give it a go.

Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises are a great way to exercise and tone the “sex” muscles. A good set of muscles will allow you to better control your orgasm. So get to the sex gym and get working out, you will reap the rewards in bed!

Breath deeply

Orgasm is linked to excitement, and we can all calm ourselves down with deep breaths (which is why we are told to breathe deeply in stressful situations, it calms us). If you are having sex, consider changing your breathing to longer deeper breathes. This will calm you and slow your progress to orgasm.

So there are my top tips on how to last longer in bed. Have fun!

How to have better sex this 2021

EdBennett — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 21:16:48 +0000

31 Aug 2021 - 22:16 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Welcome to the fuck buddy website in August, a great month to meet someone to have no strings attached sex with. August generally sees a good amount of new members join the website, and despite (or perhaps because of!) recent global events pursuant to the coronavirus pandemic, this month has seen a really good amount of joiners. If you are looking for a fuck buddy, you have come to the right place. Once you have your fuck buddy you might want to start thinking about having better sex. To assist with that, here are my top tips on how to have better sex this August.

Communication

Telling your fuck buddy what you do, and do not, like in bed is key to great sex. No one is a mind reader, so simply telling them is the best way to get the most out of them in bed. The nice thing about having a fuck buddy and adult dating in general is that you are both there for the sex, which means that you can be really honest about it and no one minds. I would urge you to take advantage of that!

Mix things up

IF you have been having sex with the same partner for a while, mix things up! Even small changes can make big differences. Do more foreplay, change your positions, if you are usually on top go on bottom. Any change will refresh the sex as it differentiates it from previous sessions. You can never be too creative, so go for it. For the more adventurous, we always suggest putting a safe word in place, just in case.

Consider lubricant

If you have never used lubricant, or you are not using it now, consider using it! Yes of course the body naturally produces lubricant, but we humans are a clever bunch, constantly finding ways to improve the body’s natural way of working. Lubricant is a great addition to any sex session, and is good for both men and women. Note that a water based lubricant is best if you are using condoms. Silicone based lubricants are also great, especially for annal sex, but should be used in light of the protection that you are currently using.

Have more sex

It is a self-fulfilling prophecy this. The more sex you have with any particular fuck buddy, the better the sex will become. Learning to pleasure someone is like learning to play an instrument, practice makes perfect! So have lots of it!

Edging for both you and your fuck buddy

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Jan 2021 08:43:33 +0000

29 Jan 2021 - 08:43 | Tags: sex technique, better sex guide

Sex is amazing. We all know this. It is one of the reasons that having a fuck buddy is such a good thing. Having a life with sex in it, is a great way to just up your overall happiness game. Having a fuck buddy is a way to guarantee sex in your life without all the nonsense that comes with a formal relationship at a time in your life when you do not want it. What you want will change over time of course, but at this time, if you want the sex without the strings attached, then a fuck buddy is the way forward.

So you have your fuck buddy and the sex is good. Want to make it even better for both of you? Try edging.

What is edging?

Edging is where you extend the anticipation of the orgasm by coming close to it, but not going all the way the first time. It means taking yourself and your fuck buddy to the verge of the orgasm but not over the edge, like walking on a cliff edge.

Why edge?

We all deserve a well earned reward, after we have earned it, much more than if we just get handed it with no work or build up. Edging does this same thing. The extended anticipation increases blood flow around the pelvic area making everything more sensitive. This enhances your orgasm and the orgasm of your fuck buddy.

How do I edge?

This is simple. When you are with your fuck buddy or the person you have hooked up with and you are about to orgasm, back off. Slow down. Reduce your stimulation. This can be done by stopping entirely, or by slowing down and moving the touching to other, less sensitive areas. Once you have brought yourself back from the brink of orgasm, begin your approach to it again and building yourself up. You can do this as many times as you like. There will come a point where you will just explode, and that explosion will be more powerful for the build up.

Set it up!

Do not just do this without telling your fuck buddy, otherwise they will think you are odd or feel rejected by you pushing them away just as things are about to kick off! Get them on board with the idea and the process and do it together. You will both be happier for having done it, and it will lead to many nights of slowly increasing pleasure as you get better and better at it.

How to have angry sex, and why it is great

EdBennett — Sat, 10 Aug 2019 08:24:58 +0000

10 Aug 2019 - 09:24 | Tags: emotions and casual sex, better sex guide, BDSM

Sex is amazing. It comes in all sorts of different flavours. You can have fast sex and slow sex, soft sex and rough sex, sex where you make love to the other person and sex where you are just fucking their brains out. The best sex is also driven by emotion. Usually these emotions include a lot of lust mixed in with desire and some frustration (that you are seeking to release). The one type of sex that people rarely have is angry sex. Angry sex can be great, but it must be done in the right way. In this article, I am going to tell you why angry sex can be amazing and help you with some guidance on how to have angry sex.

Why angry sex can be amazing

Quite often the enjoyment of the sex that we have is based on the strength of emotion that we feel. If we really like the other person, if we are really turned on and driven by desire, that creates a strong emotion that then drives the sex. Interestingly though, the type of emotion is less important than we think it is. Conventional wisdom says that having sex with a fuck buddy that you love is going to be much better than having sex with a fuck buddy that you hate. In terms of the enjoyment of the sex itself, this is not entirely accurate. Strong emotion can bring out a strong experience, and so it is that angry sex can be a fantastic flavour of sex to experience! You have all that tension, stress and anger that can pour out of you and drive the sex forward to an explosive finish. You have the aftermath of relaxing having gotten it all out of your system. It can be amazing.

When never to have angry sex

If you genuinely do not like the person and are really angry with them, do not have sex with them. This can get out of hand fast and end badly for everyone. Just do not risk it.

How to have safe angry sex

The key is consent. The best thing to do is have the conversation about having angry sex when you are not angry with each other. In the calm and openness of being in a good mood, make some agreements about what you want and where the line is. Are you happy to be slapped in the face at the start? Do you need a safe word to put in just in case it gets out of hand (something I strongly suggest that everyone with a fuck buddy does in any event). Once you have an agreement in place, you are ready to go.

Have fun!

Found a fuck buddy? Top tips to have better sex

EdBennett — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 14:10:22 +0000

1 Apr 2019 - 15:10 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

Sex is amazing and we should all be having more of it! I honestly think that the secret to world peace may lie in the everyone getting laid more. If we all were having more sex, everyone would be happier, we would be less aggressive and less easy to anger, we would be able to take troubles and failures in other parts of our lives more easily as we were winning in our sex lives. A healthy, and regular, sex life is really important to a healthy and happy relationship. A good way to ensure that is to have a fuck buddy.

The nice thing about a no strings attached relationship is that it is all the benefits of the sex without any of the stress and hassles that come with the relationship part. This means that you can have all the joy and happiness from the sex, and you have taken out all the arguments and conflict that can bring you right back down to being unhappy again. A no strings attached relationship can be a wonderful thing. When you finding a fuck buddy you are giving that gift to them as much as to yourself, so it is something that is well worth doing!

Once you have found your fuck buddy, you are then having lots of sex. You have the quantity sorted out, now it is time to look at quality. How can you make your sex life better? Think about utilising these top tips for a better sex life.

Give compliments

There is nothing that makes someone feel more desired than having someone tell you that they desire you. It works for men, it works for women. They have to believe you for this to work, so the best compliments are the real ones, where you can honestly say that something turns you on. So if there is something that does turn you on, say it! If nothing springs to mind, a good go to is to compliment how someone looks… but root it in truth for maximum effect.

Use available technology to turn them on before the sex

We all now carry phones, laptops and tablets… which means you have access to easy communication. Those compliments I was just talking about? Send them in advance. Tell the person why you like them, what makes them sexy, and what you plan on doing about it later on in the day. You can even use scheduled text messages to set the whole thing up in advance and the messages will send throughout the day automatically!

Abstain, not a lot, but a little

It has been proven than not having sex for a while can help to build up to a greater explosion of pleasure. So consider abstaining a little. Not loads, just a little is enough.

Go forth, grab your fuck buddy and have amazing sex! You both deserve it!

Found a fuck buddy? Five top tips to have better sex

EdBennett — Tue, 26 Feb 2019 19:50:07 +0000

26 Feb 2019 - 19:50 | Tags: better sex guide, casual sex tips, dating tips for men

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find the fuck buddy that is already out there seeking you! All we do is help you meet up, from there nature will take its course and before you know it you will be having to budget separately for condoms to ensure that you can afford them and still pay the rent!
So you have found your fuck buddy. Here are some tops tips for men on how to have better sex with them.

Talk about sex, a lot

There are moments when we might find ourselves trying to communicate the most subtle and intricate of instructions, but we find ourselves doing so through grunts or moans! Try to get someone to slow down a little, applying a tiny bit more pressure and keep doing that but in a clockwise direction… that is never going to come across from a sexual moan no matter how expressive that moan is! The best thing to do is to tell your fuck buddy. So be honest, talk to each other and a better sex life you will have.

Have a healthy diet

Your body is your main tool when you are having sex. Keeping that tool in a good, sex ready condition means looking after it. Eating in a healthy way is very important when it comes to sex. If you are undernourished, and lacking in stamina from a lifestyle that involves no physical activity, then you are not going to be at your best with your fuck buddy.

Be a gentleman

It doesn’t take much to be a gentleman. Open doors, hold out chairs, offer your coat when she is cold. This take almost no effort but can buy you bags in bed.

Get enough sleep

If you are tired and fatigued, you are not going to be in the mood for sex in the same way as if you are well rested and ready to go. You want to have a certain amount of energy when it comes to having sex, and that means having slept. So make sure you sleep between visits from your friends with benefits.

Always have foreplay

Foreplay gets everyone in the mood and ready to go. Even when you are both really turned on and already ripping each other’s clothes off, always make time for foreplay. In times of low levels of horniness it allows you to build the other person up ready to squirt, in times of high horniness it has been proven to strengthen and deepen orgasm. It is also fun! So get involved.

Have better sex, tonight!

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Jun 2018 15:19:31 +0000

28 Jun 2018 - 16:19 | Tags: better sex guide, how to have better sex

So you have done all the right things, and you are about to have sex, tonight! You logged on to the website, spent a little effort on your profile, messaged a bunch of people, chatted a little to the ones that came back to decide who you wanted to meet up, and tonight you are getting laid!
Congratulations for being proactive and taking action. It does not take a lot of effort to have sex, but it is surprising the number of people that don’t use the modern day tools that are offered to them to help them find that fuck buddy they have been looking for. This is clearly not you however, you’ve been smart about it. So now you are getting laid, you are probably thinking about having sex tonight. Well we are here and on hand to help you learn how to have better sex, tonight!

Talk about what you want in the bedroom

One of the refreshing things about having a fuck buddy, is that you can be really honest about what you do and don’t want in the bedroom. By being honest with them, they can be honest with you, leading you both to a place where the sex gets better. Try it and remember to go first. Being honest is the best way to invite the other person to also be honest.

Talk dirty

The sexual experience can start from the moment that you first meet them. By talking dirty before you even get close to where ever you are going to have sex, you start to turn them on. There is nothing more powerful than a slow build to the sex, and a little dirty talk can go a long way. Tell them what you want to do to them, whisper promises of what the evening yet has to offer them and what is to come. Remind them of where the evening is going to end if they play their cards right, and not only will you be building the tension, but they’ll also be buying the drinks in an effort to woo you!

Practice edging

This is something that takes practice but is well worth it. Practice coming to the edge of where you are about to come, then bring yourself back by stopping whatever you are doing. After a while, you will be able to recognise when you are about to come, and then choose to either pull back a little or even control it much better, allowing yourself to have fun for much longer in the sack.

…and the most important tip – have fun!

Sports are sexy – so do it for better sex

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Jan 2017 21:30:07 +0000

12 Jan 2017 - 21:30 | Tags: being sexy, being attractive, better sex guide

We all want to be having amazing sex. We want to meet someone with whom we have mind blowing, reality altering world shattering sex. We want for it to be so good, that it becomes all consuming, that everything in the world fades in comparison to the extasy that it seems to bring to our minds and bodies. So how do we make sure that we can have such an amazing experience each time we get laid? Well it starts with the body.

The body is the major tool and the medium

The body is the main tool for sex. We have sex with our bodies, using our physical form. If you are a workman and you are cutting something using a bad tool, a blunt instrument, it doesn’t matter how skilled you are, that bad tool will mean the outcome is poor. The same is true for sex, if your body is in bad condition, it doesn’t matter how great your sexual kung fu is, you are going to be week – and the sex will never be amazing. So you need to get your body into shape. What is a great way to do that? Play sports.

Sports make you physically amazing in bed

Regular playing of sports brings the heart rate up, engages all of the muscles in the upper and lower torsos, and it burns a ton of calories. It is a brilliant way to make sure that your body, the medium with which you experience sex, is in great shape and ready to rock someone’s world. If that was all it did, it would be worth doing... but the best thing about sports for sex, is that it goes further.

Sports make you appear sexier to the opposite sex

That’s right – sports aren’t just going to make you better at sex, it is going to help you get more sex in the first place! You remember all those high school films where the hunky guy that sleeps with all the girls is the football player? Well it came from somewhere you know – it is based in fact! Playing sports makes you more attractive – and you know why I think that is? It tells people that you are in great shape – that you are ready to have great sex, which is what they want!

So get yourself out of the house, and go do some sports. Pick a sport you enjoy doing, you’ll get sexier whilst having fun. It is a no brainer!

Soundtrack your sex

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 10:38:01 +0000

28 Jun 2016 - 11:38 | Tags: sex tips, better sex guide, better sex

Having great sex is about more than just the actual act of having sex. Let us say for a moment that it is a given that you are going to get laid and do the actual act of having “the sex”. If you are a man you are going to put your penis inside someone else, and if you are a woman you are going to have something put inside you (most likely a penis – but we don’t like to judge here at f-buddy. As long as your aim is to have great sex and show the other person a good time you are welcome here!). So the physical side of this is guaranteed... so if it is on the cards and all sorted, why bother doing anything else? Why not just go home and get laid? The answer: quality.

Can you come?
The quality of the sex that you have is determined clearly by how well you have learnt to come. If you know how to come and come well, then you are ready to have a really good time. No one, no matter how good they are in bed can give that to you – so get this sorted first.

Can the other person come?
The same is true for them. If they don’t know how to come then they won’t. Your enjoyment to some degree is tied up in theirs, so it is important that they have this side of things sorted as well.

Are you on the same page?
Being on the same page when having sex is really important. If you know that the other person is totally on board with what is happening and into it, you can really let go and have a good time. This is where having a fuck buddy really comes into its own! The clear understanding of what you are all doing means that you can really let go and have a great time!

So once you have that.... go for music!
So once you have the basic building blocks in place, and you are looking to make the setting more exciting, the mood better, or something to enhance the sex, what should you reach for first? Many people think about toys, or alcohol, or other sex enhancers... but you have something even simpler right there. Music.

Soundtrack it like a film
We all identify with films – so soundtrack your sex like in the movies and it will push emotion higher. That kick directly affects your pleasure levels. So quickly put on some music – or better yet put together a sex soundtrack and see how easily things are more fun. This is your sexual quick win right here!