Don’t make assumptions about your fuck buddy.

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Jan 2020 21:43:12 +0000

31 Jan 2020 - 21:43 | Tags: sex do's and don'ts, dos and don'ts

Preconceptions and assumptions are an interesting thing to talk about because we all have them. No matter who you are and who you meet, we all have preconceptions about those people based on who they are and who we are. When you first meet someone in a great suit you will assume that they earn well, have a certain type of job and are financially well off. When we meet someone in a bad suit it gives the impression that either they are doing badly or that they are a used car salesman. We also assume that people who do certain jobs are a certain way. Nurses are assumed to be kind and caring people, doctors are intelligent, lawyers are cutthroat, and in today’s world bankers are seen as having lowered moral fibre. When we have a fuck buddy, often the same things happen. Here are some of the things that we generally assume about a fuck buddy.

They have had a lot of sexual partners

When we meet a fuck buddy or a potential fuck buddy, if this is something on the cards already then a common assumption is that they have had a lot of sexual partners. This comes to perspective. If you are looking for a fuck buddy, that makes them your fuck buddy. Someone who is a fuck buddy is, in your mind, someone who fucks around, which means that you assume that they have had a lot of sex. It all sounds logical, right? Well, it may not be true. Everyone who looks for a fuck buddy wants to have more sex. This means that they are currently not having as much sex as they would like, if at all. Everyone has had a first time at having a no strings attached relationship or a friends with benefits, and at that point, they may have had very few sexual partners! They may, in fact, be looking for a fuck buddy because they have never had sex at all! Now that last example is unlikely, but to assume that your fuck buddy has had a lot of sex is an assumption, and one that may not be true.

The advantages of not assuming

If you do not assume something, it puts you in a position to see the truth of things. If you meet a potential fuck buddy and assume that they are very sexually experienced when they are not, that may put them off from wanting to be with you. Being open to who they are leaves you in the perfect position to explore who they are, fully. It is in that exploration that you reach the sexual heights of your dreams.

Never Watch RomComs if you want great sex

EdBennett — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 09:23:03 +0000

21 Jan 2016 - 09:23 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, sex do's and don'ts

Disclaimer: I am about to talk to you about one of my personal pet hates. I am going to rant, I am going to rave, I am not going to even try to present a balanced point of view... I am simply going to tell you how I feel about that spawn of Satan... RomComs (he vomits violently as he types the words). You have been warned!

RomComs. I hate them. Passionately. The reason is that they are so bad for you. They are the Heroin of Television, the cocaine of the entertainment industry. You think it is great, you think it is a fun thing to do, you love it whilst the high last, and it often leaves you wanting more of it... but it is evil poison that fucks you up and leaves you less of a (wo)man than you were before.

What they affect

RomComs are food for the mind. If you eat nothing but burgers and butter you get fat and unhealthy right? The same is true with the way your mind changes based on if you feed it good or bad “food”. All television feeds the brain and therefore affects your view of the world in which you live in. Be careful what you “eat” – because you become what you eat.

The lie they sell you about sex

They tell you so many lies – let’s start with the sex. All movie sex scenes seem to go on for an age. The sex lasts for hours, the “normal” man has an erection that stays hard for days, and everyone has an oh so perfect body. No one can *ever* live up to this level of sex, and you know why? It is not real, it is a lie. Recognise this.

The lies they tell you about how to get sex

It just happens magically! You just walk down the street, you bump into the perfect sexual and romantic partner, and through a series of hilarious consequences you end up sleeping together. It teaches your mind that you can live your life doing nothing, taking no action at all and still get laid. This is a lie – unless you take action you will be a virgin for your whole life.

The biggest lie: There is always something better around the corner

This really gets my goat. Our human lives are lived by comparison. We judge our happiness on comparison. If you live in the slums and you manage to get a small flat, you are super happy with that. If you like in a flat and everyone else lives in mansions then you are likely to be unhappy with your living situation.

RomCom’s tell – specifically women – that there is a perfect guy waiting around the corner from them. They could bump into them at any minute in the lift/street/shopping centre, and it is Hugh Grant or Brad Pitt. This means that they are likely to be less happy in their current relationship and they won’t even know why this is! It reduces sexual and romantic satisfaction for the ladies. I hate it with a passion.

Kill and burn all RomComs rather than feed your mind that poisonous shit. Stay away if you want to be happy.

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Don’t make assumptions about your fuck buddy.

They have had a lot of sexual partners

The advantages of not assuming

Never Watch RomComs if you want great sex