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Look after your body for great sex

EdBennett — Mon, 28 Nov 2016 20:35:23 +0000

28 Nov 2016 - 20:35 | Tags: being sexy, how to be sexy, coming

When it comes to having sex we all want to have the best sex life that is possible. We all want to come hard and be making the other person come even harder. We want to share a scream of agonised pleasure with the other person, for that sweet sweet moment when it is just you and them, and everything else fades away but the sensations of skin and sweat and ecstasy. We have built our civilisation around it, and most of what we do is in some way related to our desire for sex. It is why we get jobs, earn money, buy nice clothes or flashy cars, why we want to have enough money for fancy meals out, it is often why we want to be rich! Most of us believe in our core than having huge wealth means having power, and power equals sex, lots and lots of sex.

Despite all of that effort that we make in other areas, somehow we forget to look after the foundation of our ability to both get sex and to have great sex. Our bodies.

Your body is the medium with which you fuck

When you have sex with someone, you are using your body to do it. You are not only using it, you are reliant on your body to send back the sensations that trigger emotion and feeling. It is the sensor array that gives you the data for your brain to interpret into pleasure. Without a body you could not have sex!

A crap body can equal crap sex

Think about it for a moment. If you had a clapped out car, with a dodgy motor and worn out tires, that car is not going to go very far or very fast. If it is running at 20% efficiency, that is the bottle neck of your journey. The same is true for your body. If your body is tired, badly treated or not looked after, then it will be running at a lower efficiency. It will not function as well – your sex will be worse. If it is running at 20% efficiency, you will only get 20% of the pleasure, 20% of the drive, 20% of the come and the rush.

The answer is simple – look after yourself

Just do it. Look after yourself and you will have better sex. Take care of your body, treat it as your gateway to pleasure, and as long as you do, that gateway will remain open to you.

Men fake it too

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jul 2016 10:33:47 +0000

12 Jul 2016 - 11:33 | Tags: faking orgasms, coming

It has long been known that women can and will sometimes fake an orgasm. I think that it is terrible practice; it sends all the wrong messages and gives false feedback that can cause the two sexual partners to becomes stuck in a loop of bad sex. Example:

Couple are having sex, they are about to come
Man thinks that biting girl’s ear is a huge turn on
Girl finds it a huge turn off – she goes from being on the verge of coming to turned right off.
Girl can’t come because of this – so fakes it to end the sex session
Man learns that biting ear equals orgasm, and starts doing it every time she is about to come
Cycle of bad sex and the girl faking it forever begins.

This is a really bad cycle to hit, and the best way to avoid it is to never fake it. Admitting you faked it afterwards is a really hard thing to do, so the best thing is do not put yourself in that position in the first place. Just don’t do it. Never fake it ladies. NEVER.

It is easy for girls to fake it, as sometimes it is really hard to tell. If the girl has gotten really super wet in the lead up, and is warm and inviting, unless she is one of the super rare squirters that exist in the world, her coming is more in the body that in the juices. When she starts to moan, writhe and wriggle with orgasm it feels the same to the man if it is real verses if it is fake. It is really hard to tell, but with a man it is easy to tell, right? Or is it?

What people don’t realise is that there is coming and that there is orgasm, and that they are two very different things. When a man comes he shoots his load, and that is really clear and obvious. Usually this means that he has also had an orgasm... however this is not a guarantee. A man can come without orgasm, he can shoot his load but not actually hit the mind numbing pleasure that is the orgasm that you want to come with it. When this happens, it is even easier for the man to fake it. The visible signs are there, he is in the act of having sex and the woman is distracted by the penetration, it is all too easy to just make an appropriate noise and let the woman think that you hit your ecstasy when you didn’t.

Men – don’t do it. Don’t fake it any more than you would want the ladies to do it. You risk hitting the bad sex cycle, and you don’t want to be there.

Focus on making the other person come for amazing sex

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Dec 2015 09:49:25 +0000

12 Dec 2015 - 09:49 | Tags: finding orgasms, great sex, coming

Focus on making the other person come for amazing sex
We all want to come with sex. We all want to have the amazing orgasm that gives us that huge rush of pleasure along with the calm and stopping of everything but being in that moment. We all want the rush – both men and women. What is the best way to seek that?

In our focus to achieve it – the drive to get it may actually undermine our ability to reach it as we are distracted from the moment and the other person. If we are completely focused on our own orgasm – it can lead us away from achieving it. There is a way out of this trap.

Focus on the other person. When you have sex, there is a joining of your path with each other. The more the other peron gets turned on, the more and more you will get turned on. The hornier you get, the easier it is to orgasm and come. The hornier you *both* get, the harder you will *both* come. So by focusing on the other person’s pleasure and building up their wetness / hard on, the more you will also have the same build.

It is easier for the other person – so both do it for the mutual win
It is easier for someone to turn you on and make you come, than it is for you to do it yourself. The same goes the other way around. So if you both focus on making the other person come – that is where the win win lies.

Everyone loves surprises – and that boosts pleasure
Everyone loves a surprise – and a good surprise massively increases pleasure. It is impossible to surprise yourself. By definition you planned it so you know what is going to happen. However, you can surprise someone else. I am not talking about massive pre planned presents, or anything that is at all hard work. I am talking about the moment they grab your ear in pleasure, or you slap someones behind whilst in the moment. The moment you suddenly decide to flip the person on to their front so that you can change position and take them from behind – or the moment you were flipped onto your front. By focusing on the other person, you can do all these things for them – and they can do all these things for you, and you both will end up having really amazing sex because of it.