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Sex advice from a sex therapist (part 2)

EdBennett — Fri, 31 Dec 2021 23:16:24 +0000

31 Dec 2021 - 23:16 | Tags: f-buddy advice, sex advice

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you meet other like-minded individuals for some casual fun. We understand that there is nothing wrong with hooking up or having a no strings attached relationship. Sex is a healthy part of life and is nothing to be ashamed of. This is something that most sex therapists, and one sex therapist in particular, agrees with. If you want to have a better sex life we thought that the best way to do this would be to take advice from an expert. There is a lot of great advice out there on the internet of course, and a lot of it is very good. However, as we mentioned in our first article covering sex advice from a sex therapist, you wouldn’t watch a video on surgery and then try it out on yourself, you would always take advice from a professional. We think that the same applies to sex. If you want to get really good at sex, why not take some advice from someone who has spent years of their life studying and examining sex and its function within the lives of individuals in order to better your own sex life? Your fuck buddy will thank you for it, trust me! So with that in mind, here are three further top tips from a sex therapist. These are tips that the therapist themselves follow.

Quality not quantity – the amount of sex is unrelated to whether your sex life is “good” or “bad”.

The sex therapist stated that many people think that because they are having less sex than others (or than they used to) their sex life is “bad”. This is simply not true. Firstly, different people like to have different amounts of sex. This also changes with time and what else is going on in your life. If you are really stressed and pressured at work, you may not have the same amount of time and energy for sex, so you will have sex. This does not mean that your sex life is “bad” it is just at a different stage. The advice, accept that there are times you and your fuck buddy will want sex, and times you will not. Simple.

Your desires will change over time

We all change over time. Things we used to like fade; things we were uninterested in become interesting. The same is true with your sex life. Do not feel trapped into liking things a certain way just because that is how things used to be. Allow yourself to be mindful of your feelings and change with them. Your fuck buddy will likely be the same so will appreciate you being open to change.

Try the Sensate Focus technique

This is not about having sex, but rather it is about exploring each other’s bodies. It can lead to great intimacy and better sex and is a top recommendation from the therapist. I will leave the details for another article.

So, these are the top three tips. Have fun!

Sex advice from a sex therapist (part 1)

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Nov 2021 15:08:53 +0000

28 Nov 2021 - 15:08 | Tags: f-buddy advice, sex advice

If we want to get better at something, listening to the professionals is always a good idea. Rather than trying to work something out ourselves, going to someone who has spent years (or even decades) thinking about that subject and taking their advice on it is always a good idea. If you needed surgery, you wouldn’t watch a YouTube video on how to do it then give it a go! You would go to a professional. So when it comes to sex, I am always surprised that people are often hesitant to go and speak to professionals about how to improve their sex life. Most people who have a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits wants to be having better sex. A good sex life can be a stabilising force that carries us through both the good and the bad times, so it is important to spend time on it.

I understand that a lot of people would not want to go and see a sex therapist, especially if there is nothing specifically wrong that galvanises them to take action to improve their sex life with their fuck buddy. So, to help out, in this article I have laid out some of the top tips that a sex therapist would want you to know. To give you confidence, these are all things that the relevant therapist also does herself, so she gives the advice that she has also tested in the field!

Never kink and fetish shame

You want to have a trusting space between you and your fuck buddy, one where either of you can say anything. Even a hint of kink shaming can ruin this. If your fuck buddy is brave and bold enough to share something that they are interested in, reward that. If it is not something you are comfortable with, you should not feel forced into carry out the fantasy, but never shame it. This will provide a space where both of you can share your sex thoughts with each other, ultimately leading to better sex for both of you.

Share what turns you on

Be brave and go first. Once you share what turns you on, your fuck buddy will likely do the same. Once you both know what does and doesn’t work for each other, you are in the perfect position to be each other’s sex slaves!

Do not be shy when it comes to sex toys or sex enhancers

The twenty first century has brought with it a plethora of sex toys, sex enhancers and other sex advances. Embrace that for a better sex life. Some people, particularly men, do not like the idea of sex toys as they see it as a comparison to their “ability”. This is not the case. Think of it as using a computer instead of a type writer as a tool to enhance your expression. Embrace it, and it will reward you.

A no strings attached relationship does not mean no effort

EdBennett — Sat, 30 May 2020 15:59:08 +0000

30 May 2020 - 16:59 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, No strings attached sex, f-buddy advice

Having a no strings attached relationship can be so good for you. For many people, a “monogamous relationship” which should be a force for happiness in their lives, is anything but. Over time, your partner who was previously nice to you can start to treat you badly, all the things about that partner that you previously thought were “cute and quirky” seem to now just be annoying as hell, and eventually, the frequency of sex can be drastically reduced if it is even still happening at all. All of this can lead to an unsatisfactory relationship for both parties. No one is happy.

The nice thing about a no strings attached relationship is that, in most cases, none of the above occur. There is no expectation of spending all your time together, which means the “quirky” habits of your fuck buddy remain exactly that in your eyes, quirky. You both know that this is an adult relationship without ties, so if one person starts to treat the other badly, they leave. This encourages good behavior on both sides. Finally, the sex remains on the table. That is not to say that you would be fucking like bunny rabbits like you did in the early days, but both of you know that were it to ever stop, it would mark the end of the no-strings-attached relationship. So as long as you are fuck buddies, you are fucking.

However, just because there are no strings attached to the relationship, does not mean you should make no efforts. Hooking up with someone is straight forward, maintaining a fuck buddy in your life takes some work. When you first hook up with a fuck buddy, because it is all new and exciting because it is different, you have to do almost nothing at all. You are interesting just because they don’t know you. After a little time though, without at least some effort things will die down. A person will forgive another for disliked habits or actions the first time because they have to accept that the person may not have understood that they did not like it. Once they have been told, doing that same action will elicit a very different response indeed! Making small gestures to be helpful or kind can go a huge way in fostering trust, generosity, and sexual attraction. These things are so helpful to keep things exciting for you and your fuck buddy when in the bedroom.

One of my greatest sexual experiences was having a fuck buddy go nuts over me. In that moment, for that evening, she wanted to fuck me so much she kissed, cajoled and stimulated me till I wanted her just as much. She wanted me to want her as much as she wanted me! Making an effort is how you foster feelings like this.

So when you find your fuck buddy that you like, take action to hang on to them. A little effort will go a long way, and remember: you get what you put in.

For men – focus on your photos

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 10:41:08 +0000

12 Nov 2015 - 10:41 | Tags: sex advice, f-buddy advice, online dating

This article is aimed primarily at men. When looking for an f-buddy, you come here, you log on and you message some people. Since 95% of the meet ups that occur have been initiated by the guy messaging the girl, men often forget that sometimes the girl is the one looking for the guy! Whilst his happens rarely in terms of the online interaction process, what will happen is that when you message a girl the first thing that a girl will look at is your photos.

As a man you will have spent time sorting out all the parts of your life. Your job, your home set up, your social groups. We are defined by so much more than simply what we look like. However, when you message a girl and she clicks on your profile, the gateway to her meeting you remains the profile pic. She will look at the main photo, and make an instant and shallow judgement on whether she might fancy you or not. If it is a yes she will click through. If it is a maybe then depending on how busy she is and how many other messages she has she may or may not click through. If it is a no, she will click away. You could be a brain surgeon that saves people’s lives on a daily basis and lives in a mansion, but unless that picture looks good she will simply never find out any of this. She will already have moved on to someone else who has made sure that their photo isn’t a badly taken blur of a person in a dark room.

So what are the top three tips for photos?

Ensure that the photos are not blurry. A blurred photo is an instant turn off.
Ensure that it is good quality. Most camera phones can take outstanding photos these days, so there is no excuse for the blurry low resolution mess that I see sometimes. That is going to get you nowhere.
Ensure that it is obvious who you are in the photo. A group photo can be great; it shows you have friends and displays social proof. However, if they do not know which one you are they will move on. For your profile picture a photo of just you on your own is best.

No one can make you look different to what you actually look like, however a decent photo will make all the difference to getting a face to face meeting with a girl.