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Top 5 sex tips for 2018

EdBennett — Wed, 25 Jul 2018 14:24:50 +0000

25 Jul 2018 - 15:24 | Tags: sex tips, top sex tips

There is no bad time to have sex, and since you can only live in the present, the best time to have sex is now! There is also never any harm in getting better at sex, it serves both you and them in the bedroom (or bathroom, kitchen, living room, garden, office… or where ever it is you most like to do it!). Whether you have a fuck buddy already to pay with, or you are looking for a fuck buddy are interested in tips that you can use when you next hook up with someone, here are some top tips for better sex!

More is more

70% of women need more clitoral stimulation to better guarantee and deepen their orgasm. So if you are pleasing a woman, think about just spending more time there, it will have your fuck buddy begging you for more. If you are a woman, consider getting involved and helping yourself whilst in the sack, a subtle finger reaching down to continue stimulation leaves your partner free to carry on. It is a win win!

Raise the woman’s legs

During penetrative sex, if the woman raises her legs, or you raise her legs, it makes her tighter than ever, which can be good for both of you. You can either ask the woman to do it, do it for her, or if you are the woman just give it a try! You’ll notice the difference straight away, it is well worth a go.

Kink in the Kitchen

Do you keep a washing machine in the kitchen? Well you can use this to your advantage! Try and pop the woman sitting on the edge of the washing machine, and get her to wrap her legs around you as you thrust into her. Ideally you want the machine on the spin cycle at the time. As unusual as it may sound, doing laundry will never be quite the same again!

Shaken not stirred

Rather than focus on the thrusting when having sex, have you ever tried stirring? Enter your fuck buddy fully, then make a rotating motion, like you are stirring with your penis. This will stimulate 360 degrees of her, and when she is ready to pop then go back to thrusting… though careful she doesn’t orgasm before you go back to it! If she does no problem, just do it a second time.

Ladies first

When trying a 69, rather than doing it at the same time, try it one at a time. Usually it is very distracting giving a receiving. By taking it in turns, you can really enjoy yourself before returning the favour.

Having a kid makes every girl want to fuck you

EdBennett — Mon, 28 Aug 2017 16:08:04 +0000

28 Aug 2017 - 17:08 | Tags: meeting girls on the street, sex tips, advice to get laid

Why is it that having a kid suddenly makes every girl out there want to fuck you? The one time in your life that suddenly having a fuck buddy or an easy no strings attached hook up suddenly becomes difficult to manage, is the time that you have all the options to do it. I have never understood this, but it is true. Let us look at some examples.

Think about your married with a kid(s) friend

When my friend who has a daughter walks down the street with his baby, suddenly every hot girl out there wants to talk to him. He goes on holiday, and as long as his daughter is with him, he is suddenly being hit on by these super pretty foreign chicks that previously he would never have even spoken to, let alone them actively seek to spend time with him! He is sometimes with his wife at the time, and she just shrugs her shoulders, but it seems to happen more when he is without her.

Is it evolution?

Is this evolution? Is this the natural law of procreation. When a man walks down the street holding a baby, everyone knows that he is fertile. There is no question any more, no doubt, you know 100% that he is capable of rearing children because, well, he has a child! Is this the reason?

Is it unavailability?

There is something about being told we can’t have something, and then wanting it even more as a result. There is something on the menu at a restaurant that we weren’t that bothered about, the waiter tells us it is unavailable, and suddenly we are reading the description and lamenting that we can’t have it! Is it that once you have a child, you are seen as being off the market and therefore everyone wants you more?

Is it done because flirting is safe?

Perhaps it is that everyone feels it is safe to flirt with you all of a sudden. You remember how the gay guy was friends with all the hot girls, and they seemed to flirt with him all the time? They do that because they know that he is safe, he is so completely unavailable they can do what they like without fear of having to follow up. Is the same true here, is that why suddenly it seems like every hot girl wants to fuck his brains out, because they can express that without fear of having to actually do it?

Whatever the reason – use it to your advantage

Whatever the actual reason is, my suggestion is that it’s time to use it! Find a friend with a child, go out the two of you and the baby, then offer to hold the baby whilst in the park, down the street, on holiday together... and then when all the girls come flocking, instead of being off the market, you are very much available and ready to take advantage of the situation.

Wear socks in bed for better sex!

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Feb 2017 19:38:29 +0000

28 Feb 2017 - 19:38 | Tags: Sleep and sex, sex tips, unusual sex facts

The title sums it, yes that is right, a study has shown that you are 80% more likely to climax in bed if you are wearing socks! Sounds strange to you? Well it did to me until I delved a little more deeply into the reasons why, and it all comes down to comfort. The reason that the socks made the difference were warmth and comfort. Allow me to expand on this.

If you are cold you are less likely to climax

As a man have you ever noticed that when it is really cold that your penis shrivels up in on itself and gets as small as it can, almost as if it is trying to curl up to keep warm? The colder it is, the more that your little man seems to shrink in on itself? Well cold can kill a hard on. Temperature drops can really affect your ability to have a good solid stiffy in order to then have sex. This is a great example of how comfort affects your sex life – just like the socks. If you are cold, you are going to have trouble having great sex, and this is for both of you. There are some quick fixes:

Get a huge duvet! Having sex under a huge warm duvet keeps things nice and warm.
Keep the heating on. When you are going to have a night, just button the heating on as you head upstairs, in the time it takes for you to take each others clothes off, the heating will have kicked in and helped balance the lack of clothes!
Candles. This is my favourite one. Most people use candles for the atmosphere and great lighting that it brings. It also gives the raw element of fire, a base power that we still react to. In this case, it also helps with heat! Candles are fire, and therefore are emitting heating at quite a rate! If you have a few of them going and you close the door, you will be surprised at how much extra heat it will add to the room! Did you know that if you are in a car that breaks down in the middle of winter, and you end up having to spend over night in the car, just 1 nightlight candle is enough to help prevent death from hyperthermia? They are that good. So get some candles!

So stay warm and comfortable for great sex!

Sleep and Sex – yes the connection is real!

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Feb 2017 19:36:10 +0000

20 Feb 2017 - 19:36 | Tags: sex tips, sex and health, Sleep and sex

There are so many factors that can affect your sex life, and most of these are hard wired into us, so we have little or no “choice” about those factors affecting us. If we are unwell or ill, our libido just disappears. At times of great stress in your life, your desire to have sex usually disappears. That comes from an old preservation thing. When sex was directly linked to procreation and having kids only, in times of stress such as famine, fire, drought, your instincts to have sex drop through the floor as you really don’t want to be having kids when you are trying to deal with your own survival. That being said, war is an exception. Death brings the opposite along. When there are people dying around you, or you are facing death, the desire for sex sky rockets through the roof! Again this is a survival of the race thing, if there are lots of humans dying, you want to be making more to replace them before there are no humans left! So what is the connection between sex and sleep?

Rested and ready for some rumpy pumpy

Sleep is a huge factor that affects your desire and ability to have a great sex life, and this is a factor that can not and should not be ignored. If you are tired, under rested and in need of sleep, you are just not going to want to have sex. You want to sleep, you want to rest. Even if you do go ahead and have sex, you don’t have the energy to really follow through properly, you don’t have the stamina to go for as long as you would like to. For some people, they are just going through the motions for the benefit of their partner – but this act of sex in a “tick over” capacity results in bad sex for both of you. The best sex comes when you both really want it.

So get enough sleep to be able to get to it!

Extra opportunity

The more time you spend in bed together, the more opportunity that you have to have sex. Sometimes sex is planned, sometimes it is spontaneous, and just lying around in bed together can result in spontaneous sex that comes from a very slow sexual build up! Spend more time in bed and you will get laid more.

Increased closeness

The closer you feel emotionally the better the sex can become. Spending time cuddling can bring and grow that intimacy. So cuddle – it is good for your sex life!

So go grab a girl, get naked and get in bed immediately! Sex doctor’s orders!

Take breaks for multiple rounds of sex

EdBennett — Sun, 12 Feb 2017 19:33:55 +0000

12 Feb 2017 - 19:33 | Tags: better sex, sex tips, increasing stamina

All of us are subject to the way that films portray sex, we never made the conscious choice to watch them and then base our yardstick for sex on what we saw, it just got handed to us. The issue with this is that sex in the movies is totally unrealistic. It is all super smooth, with soft lens camera work and gentle music. The transition from the bar to the bedroom is instantaneous, and then sex is always amazing even though it is the first time that the people have slept together. For a lot of people the very first time you sleep with someone is rarely that good, nerves and insecurity can get in the way a lot especially for women it seems. Yet that is the picture that is painted for us. 2 people with endless stamina who are able to go at it till they are both screaming in delight. Yet most of us are not sex athletes, we do not spend our days ensuring that we are in the peak condition to have endless sex all night... yet it is of course lovely to be able to have great sex. So what do we do about it?

Stay reasonably fit

The fitter you are, the better at sex you are going to be. Period. It is a physical act, and so if you are physically out of shape, your ability to perform will be reduced. You don’t have to go super gym crazy, you just have to keep yourself at a reasonable functioning level. Just make sure that you are moving every day in some way and that will actually do everything you need. Walk the 30mins instead of taking the bus to the train station, that will do it. Just make sure you move. If you want to kick up your sex life, do some kegel exercises.

Take breaks during sex

The movies tell us that people start having sex, and they don’t stop till they have both come in a screaming heap of sweaty fuck buddy flesh. This is not the case, and there is no problem at all in adjusting to the real world. Feel free to take breaks between parts of the session. If a girl has just given you a blow job and it is in an awkward position, give her a couple of moments to re adjust to being released from that position. If you have just fucked a girl from behind and you flip her over to change positions, it is okay to take a few moments to breath. Taking breaks in between chapters is totally okay.

I hope this helps – now go and have some amazing sex!

Wearing great underwear ALL the time gets you laid more

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Jul 2016 15:24:46 +0000

28 Jul 2016 - 16:24 | Tags: getting laid, how to get sex, sex tips

It has always been well known that dressing a certain way is more likely to get you laid. It can make a quite sizable difference to the attention that you get from members of the opposite sex (or even same sex if that is your preference!). A super hot girl in an old baggy jumper 3 sizes too big and a pair of worn dirty jogging bottoms if not going to be as attractive as a mediocre girl wearing heals and a boob tube. How we choose to display our assets is as important as what we start with. It’s as much about how you choose to use what you have as what you actually have in the first place. No matter what cards you are dealt, you get to decide how to play those cards. Remember that.

You probably think a lot about clothing and choice of clothing when in the “dating” or “meeting” section of the seduction. Once you make it to the bedroom, it is all clothes off right? What you wear makes no difference, right? Wrong. Think about it , you already know this. If you are getting laid you are not going to wear hole ridden bad smelling y-fronts are you? Of course not, you are going to wear the nicest pare of sexy boxers you have. It makes a difference and you know this already. Want further proof? When you get a girl back to yours (or you to hers) and her clothes are coming off, the underwear she is wearing can make a huge difference to how turned on you are by her – right? There is a reason that the global lingerie market was estimated to be worth $110 billion in 2014. It is because having sexy underwear can make a really big difference to your sex life. Its more than just about how you look to the other person as well, it is also about how you feel,

Your choice of “invisible” clothing can really alter your confidence. I know for a fact that when I have been out with a girl that is wearing some serious sexy underwear, she has been more confident when out, more eager to get back to the bedroom, and more keen on having sex as she knows that her extra new sexy underwear is going to make me want her even more than usual. It changes her out look and her bearing.

The same is true for men. If you have on really good boxers, or even joke boxers on underneath, you know that if you end up getting naked that you are good to go! You are ready for it, and have nothing to be embossed about or anything that is going to trip you up. Again you know this.

So always wear good underwear at all times. It leaves you more confident, ready for action, and will have a subtle but important effect on your rate of success with women.

Soundtrack your sex

EdBennett — Tue, 28 Jun 2016 10:38:01 +0000

28 Jun 2016 - 11:38 | Tags: sex tips, better sex guide, better sex

Having great sex is about more than just the actual act of having sex. Let us say for a moment that it is a given that you are going to get laid and do the actual act of having “the sex”. If you are a man you are going to put your penis inside someone else, and if you are a woman you are going to have something put inside you (most likely a penis – but we don’t like to judge here at f-buddy. As long as your aim is to have great sex and show the other person a good time you are welcome here!). So the physical side of this is guaranteed... so if it is on the cards and all sorted, why bother doing anything else? Why not just go home and get laid? The answer: quality.

Can you come?
The quality of the sex that you have is determined clearly by how well you have learnt to come. If you know how to come and come well, then you are ready to have a really good time. No one, no matter how good they are in bed can give that to you – so get this sorted first.

Can the other person come?
The same is true for them. If they don’t know how to come then they won’t. Your enjoyment to some degree is tied up in theirs, so it is important that they have this side of things sorted as well.

Are you on the same page?
Being on the same page when having sex is really important. If you know that the other person is totally on board with what is happening and into it, you can really let go and have a good time. This is where having a fuck buddy really comes into its own! The clear understanding of what you are all doing means that you can really let go and have a great time!

So once you have that.... go for music!
So once you have the basic building blocks in place, and you are looking to make the setting more exciting, the mood better, or something to enhance the sex, what should you reach for first? Many people think about toys, or alcohol, or other sex enhancers... but you have something even simpler right there. Music.

Soundtrack it like a film
We all identify with films – so soundtrack your sex like in the movies and it will push emotion higher. That kick directly affects your pleasure levels. So quickly put on some music – or better yet put together a sex soundtrack and see how easily things are more fun. This is your sexual quick win right here!

Using foreign languages as the vehicle for love!

EdBennett — Fri, 27 May 2016 12:01:48 +0000

27 May 2016 - 13:01 | Tags: Irish lovers, love and sex, sex tips

They say that Latin is the language of love. It certainly is one of the oldest languages around, so old in fact that no one uses it as a spoken dialect any more. It forms the core foundation of many of the modern western spoken languages, and you can usually trace the roots of most English words back to Latin. But is it really the language of love? Is Latin going to help get you laid, or get you a blow job, or facilitate having sex with people?

The phrase is correct, Latin is the language of love... but that resides in that it is foreign. That no one speaks it day to day, and so any time you decide to deliberately talk in Latin, it is a conscious choice that depicts the words you are saying / using as being special in some way, as being more profound and thought out. That what you are saying carries more weight than words usually spoken. To say that you love someone in Latin “te mo” can drive a girl wild simply because it will come across with greater weight. They will feel the meaning of the words more strongly... because the language is foreign to them. So we come to the crux of it here. The important thing is that it is foreign, and so instead of saying Latin is the language of love, we could easily and just as accurately say that any foreign language is the language of love!

So how do we use this knowledge in the bedroom? How does this help us have better sex lives, love lives or even more simply how does it get us more blow jobs?! Well you now know that you can use any language that is foreign to the both of you, and it will come across as sexy. Using a different language also makes you seem more knowledgable and intelligent, something that every one finds more attractive! You can use a forign language to make affection seem more affectionate, dirty talk more dirty, and an invitation to sex exotic and spicey. You can use any language you like, as long as the other person does not speak it. This is important!

So pick a language, Latin if you like, but it can also be Italian, Dutch, Swedish, Gaelic which is a personal favourite of mine, and learn a few words in it. Just the odd sentence can carry you a hell of a way closer to the bedroom! To get you started – here are a few ways to say I love you!

Here is how to say "I love you" in Gaelic ... Ta gra agam ort
Here is how to say "I love you" in Gujarati ... Hu tumney prem karu chu
Here is how to say "I love you" in Mandarin Chinese ... Wo ai ni
Here is how to say "I love you" in Serbian ... Volim te
Here is how to say "I love you" in Taiwanese ... Wa ga ei li
Here is how to say "I love you" in Welsh ... 'Rwy'n dy garu
Here is how to say "I love you" in Dutch ... Ik hou van jou
Here is how to say "I love you" in Bulgarian ... Obicham te

Always check in with your sex partner

EdBennett — Thu, 21 Apr 2016 19:40:25 +0000

21 Apr 2016 - 20:40 | Tags: sex tips, better sex guide, being alpha

We all want to be having amazing sex, let’s start out right by agreeing this. We are all on the same page, and when 2 people come together to have sex (or sometimes more than two people!) they both have the same *shared* outcome – a desire to come hard, a desire for amazing sex. So given that they both want the same thing, they are both in the right place to be helping both themselves and the other person achieve what they want. This means that if asked for help, they *will* help. That is an important place to start this article, because we are going to be asking you to talk to your sexual partner in order to improve your sex life here.

So you have just met someone and it is early days. You are trying to work out what they like and they don’t like, what is turning them on and what is a bucket of water. The easiest way to do this? Check in with them. You can get a lot of clues by listening to their body and how it responds to your touch, but you can get the clearest answers by listening to their words. Check in with them, ask them if what you are doing is good, and they will surely tell you – and be grateful that you asked!

So you have been together for some time, you have been through the basic routines, and you are thinking about mixing it up, trying something new or different. Just because you know what they already like, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t do something new and different – quite the opposite. You are a bit unsure if it is a good idea, if they will like it... check in with them! Just as you are doing it, ask, and you will receive.

So you have now been with the same person for a couple of years. You have really felt each other out in terms of sex (by feeling each other up!) and you know what s/he likes. You *know* it... well guess what. Things change, and what worked two years ago may not now, so check in with your partner. If you want to have continuous long term amazing sex you have to be checking in for your whole sex life – or your sex life will die a death.
So, be sure to talk to your partner, don’t get complacent and don’t allow routine to kill what could be a great sex life. Instead, a simple check in can keep it all alive.

Forget her - focus on yourself if there is a sex reduction

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Mar 2016 20:14:51 +0000

12 Mar 2016 - 20:14 | Tags: sex tips, casual sex issues

This is one for the guys. Let’s take it as read for a moment that you have a good fuck buddy that you like and are really enjoying spending time with – whether that is purely night time or a mix of day and night activities. Things are all good, mostly. There are always problems that crop up, and they sometimes come from her. When this happens the instinct is to try and fix the problem. As it feels like the problem has come from her, your instinct is to look to try and solve her issues for her, to fix the thing that is bothering her. In some cases you may even take the approach of trying to fix her! That last one is a particularly bad approach... but there is another way altogether in all of these cases, and that is to look to you.

If someone else is unhappy, we spend out time focusing on fixing their happiness. Oft times the best thing we can do is look to ourselves and our own self improvement. Doing this will often solve not just the immediate issue, but also a bunch of other ones that otherwise would have reared their heads a little down the road. Allow me to give you an example:

Her sex drive seems to be going down:

I have seen this one many a time. The guy says that her sex drive seems to be going down, that she wants it less and less and that this change means that he isn’t getting any. The instinct is to look to her to see what has changed for her. You know already this has nothing to do with you right? I mean you haven’t changed at all, and you certainly want sex as much as ever. Wrong. Regardless of where it is coming from, the best approach 9/10 is to look to yourself. Do a few things to make your life better and make yourself more attractive. Start working out to make yourself feel healthier. Go join a class or learn something new that you have always wanted to do. It is important that this is something that you genuinely want to do, you can’t fake this. Once you do this you will find yourself feeling better about your life. You will have new people entering your existence, new conversations open with other people, and new skills enter your life. All this is done by doing something you enjoy doing... and suddenly she will start looking at you anew, and your sex life will magically come back!

See what you have done there is taken steps to make yourself happier. She is unhappy, but rather than look to her, by making your life better and happier you automatically drag her up with you! The best part is that this is not a chore! This is not effort, as you do it by looking to things that you would want to do anyway!

So bear it in mind. Look to yourself first and her second especially if it is to do with her attractiveness to you.