Truth and lies: the honesty of sex – both pleasurable and painful

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:44:51 +0000

30 Jul 2022 - 00:44 | Tags: mutual pleasure, how to deal with sexual rejection, being honest with your fuck buddy

Having a fuck buddy can be one of the best things in the world. Firstly sex is one the best ways to increase your overall happiness. Good food, good sleep and sex is a sure-fire recipe for feeling good! Usually, I would put the word exercise or movement in there, but the sex also does that for you. It is a fantastic workout. When you have a fuck buddy, you can afford to be really honest about the sex with them because that is the reason that you are with them. However, we are human and therefore sometimes we still struggle with this. Other times we are honest, and this can unleash a level of pain and suffering that was neither intended nor meant. Allow me to expand.

When sex is unequivocally honest

There are certain things that are just a turn on. For a woman, the rising of a penis in response to them is a turn on. It’s hardness, stiffness, can be a pleasure and an erotic arousal unlike any other words or actions. For a man, the same can be said of a woman’s wet vagina, the stiffening of her nipples and the involuntary opening of her legs. Why is this all such a turn on? Because it is honest. In the 21st century, we live in a world of politeness and niceties. In a world where we can never be sure if the waitress is nice to use because (s)he likes us or because (s)he just wants a big tip, what can we trust? We can trust a man's erection and a woman’s wetness. These are not things that are faked, and they tell us that, without any doubt, that this particular fuck buddy really is into us. Now that is beautiful.

When sexual honesty is at its most painful

Rejection always hurts. Some few bounce so quickly that they appear unhurt, but even they take the smallest of hits. Most feel it. Even when we know it to be irrational, when we know we should be wiser, we are not. What is the most difficult? “Not tonight dear”. This is the hardest and the most hurtful sexually. When you are trying to hook up with someone in a bar and you are rejected this is reasonably easy to bounce from. Rejection is on the cards. When we are pushed back by a partner or a fuck buddy, this rejection is the most painful. I want to be clear, we must always be respectful, but rejection of this ilk can stay with us the longest.

Find the sexual compatibility you are looking for

EdBennett — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 17:30:46 +0000

6 Nov 2015 - 17:30 | Tags: sex is great, mutual pleasure

We all want different things from a relationship. We have different needs, desires, wants, pleasures... we are all unique. I mean that, each and every one of us are slightly different, no two people are the same. This includes us in the bedroom and in regards to sex.

Each of us have our own unique set of things that turn us on and make us come. Certain things for one person can bring them to the brink of ecstasy, that same thing for someone else could be a complete turn off. A good friend of mine uses the terms “bucket” and “torch”. Something that is a complete turn off is like a bucket of water, it douses any potential flame that might be in its infancy. A torch on the other hand burns brightly with the flame of passion – he carries a torch for red heads for example. That’s buckets and torches.

So if you want to find the perfect sexual partner, the first thing is to understand that it selection is the key thing. There is an old cliché – “I love you now change”. Well I say forget that, it is nonsense and we both know it. Instead I say find the person who is the way you want the to be already. If you start by selecting to spend time with a person who you already carry a bunch of torches for then there is no need to start trying to light them. Equally if you start out by sleeping with someone who has a bunch of buckets suspended above your head, filled to the brim with ice cold water, any of which could drop at a moments notice to completely kill the moment, then it is going to be hard to change that set up. So instead start out by choosing to be with someone who gets you a bunch of torches and ideally no buckets at all! So how do you do this?

STEP 1: What do you want?

I want you to think about what you want. List, right now, all the ideal traits of your sexual partner. Don’t just read this, grab a piece of paper or open notepad on your computer and make a quick list. What is your ideal in a wo/man? Don’t worry about being judged; only you are going to read this. What really turns you on, I mean really? What makes you carry a torch.

STEP 2: Top items

Now I want you to star or highlight your top “can’t do without” turn ons. What are they? Anything from big boobs to vegetarian to likes being tied up. What ever it is that for you is a must. Maybe there are only a couple – that’s okay. They less there are the easier your life is!

STEP 3: Find your sexual compatibility

Now whatever you have starred – that is a must. You are not allowed to date anyone who does not have these traits/likes/desires. Period.
If you want to have an awesome sex life, start by selecting the right person to have it with. If they share the same likes as you, then you will both have an amazing time in bed and you both will love your sex life more.

Choose wisely – there are plenty to choose from so pick the one you want!

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Truth and lies: the honesty of sex – both pleasurable and painful

When sex is unequivocally honest

When sexual honesty is at its most painful

Find the sexual compatibility you are looking for