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The many flavours of sex

EdBennett — Mon, 17 Oct 2016 18:26:45 +0000

17 Oct 2016 - 19:26 | Tags: sex chat, sex is great, sex

Okay so firstly let’s establish one thing as fact – ALL sex is good sex. Yes you are thinking “what are you talking about? I’ve had bad sex before?!” It is all a point of comparison. If you are having lots of sex, and it is good, then having sex that is not as good to you may well come across as “bad”. However to someone who hasn’t had sex in ages, any sex is great sex. Any drink to the thirsty man is the wine of the gods to him. So if you are lucky enough to be thinking you had bad sex, you didn’t really, you’ve just had better sex in your time so by your warped standards you are dissatisfied with it. All sex is good sex, there is no bad sex. Just different flavors. Like ice cream. Everyone likes ice cream, right?

So there are all sorts of different flavors that you can get. There is comfortable regular sex, the kind with someone you have slept with a million times before, then there is first time awkward sex, when you are still feeling each other out (or feeling each other up!). There is skilled smooth sex, there rough and ready sex. There is rushed, quick needy sex, there is slow steamy take your time sex. There is teasing sex, tough love sex, tiny penis sex, tiny vagina sex, hard sex, painful sex, gentle sex. There is sex where it is just throw away fucking, then there is also meaningful love sex, when you are trying to express more than will ever come across in a small space of time. There is cold sex, there is hard sex, there is warm and comforting sex like a big hug. Sex can be used as a way of building confidence, of making someone feel great about themselves and the people around them. It can also be used as a tool of abuse, of genuine (not playful) punishment. It can be deployed to cause as much lasting pain and hurt as it can pleasure. Sex is like a blank piece of paper – it is untapped potential. That paper can be used to write everything from a love letter to a suicide note. It’s versatility is unlimited.

If you think that your sex has gotten old and tired, perhaps it is just because you have stopped exploring. You have ceased to push the boundaries of what can be discovered through it. Get going, and try and change the flavor of sex. You won’t regret it.

Sex inspires better sex

EdBennett — Wed, 28 Sep 2016 17:37:21 +0000

28 Sep 2016 - 18:37 | Tags: sex is great, sex leads to sex, more sex means more sex, how to get more sex

The benefits to having sex with someone are endless... and I really mean endless. There are all the physical benefits, stress release, endorphins to make you happy, a healthy body production response, it is almost certainly a great calorie burning work out that will genuinely make you fitter! The list goes on but I’ll stop there.

There are then the self esteem benefits, increased levels of confidence, great sense of self worth, and of course someone there to remind you that you are awesome – because frankly the sheer act of them sleeping with you is one of the greatest expressions that you are massively attractive that someone can give you.

There are of course the social elements as well – often forgotten about when considering getting laid. You double your social circle as you over time gain access to their social group as well as yours. You have someone to be on your arm as you get invited to parties, dinners, family events, oh and especially weddings! There are certain times when being single can really suck, and they are almost exclusively social gatherings.

Then there is learning and growth. Spending time with anyone that you care about in some way can spark growth. If you have some level of rapport then you listen to what they have to say and react to their opinions. This happens on a small level all the time with friends and colleagues. It happens to larger degrees the more you care about someone’s opinion. When you start to have sex with someone, whether you want to or not, you are going to instinctively care about what they think about you, and that is going to spark growth.

Given that the main area you are going to listen to them is about how you are in bed, the most likely area is how you are as a lover. No matter how good you are in bed, becoming a real god of sex is a life long quest, something that takes decades to master. The person you are sleeping with is effectively your muse, the person who inspires you to new levels. You might find yourself increasing your level of sexual sensitivity, gaining new skills to use in the bedroom like better dirty talk or the more physical skills like training in some Shibari. You may find you gain better control over your own body, mastering the ability to “come on command” or maintain pre orgasm state for longer or even as long as you want. As time goes on you will grow as a lover, and the sex will just get better and better.

Sometimes this will be inspired by an unsatisfied lover – there is nothing like pain to motivate us to make change. For the most part you will learn through excitement, through enthusiastic work to master something that you come to love – great sex.

No matter what speed you are growing at right now in your path to sexual mastery, keep at it. Sometimes you will change quickly, other times slowly, but ultimately know that you will change and you will grow. The sex will keep getting better. Keep on walking the path, mighty seeker of the ultimate orgasm.

Surprising sex is exciting

EdBennett — Mon, 12 Sep 2016 20:31:20 +0000

12 Sep 2016 - 21:31 | Tags: keep em keen, keeping your fuck buddy, sex is great

We all want a little excitement in our lives, and we all want things to change and be different, new and interesting all the time. It is part of a basic human need, and this is not different when it comes to having sex. We want to get laid, but when we fuck we want to be in the moment, for it to feel like this is unique in some way. If when we fuck it feels the same as the last time we fucked (and the time before that) this will get pretty unstimulating pretty quickly. No one wants to be having routine sex, take the bins out on the Wednesday, have sex on the Thursday. So how can we combat this?

Well the way to combat this is to do something different in the bedroom. “but I am not creative in that way” you may think or even “I don’t want to do anything kinky”. So let’s address this immediately. You don’t have to do anything too kinky. You can if you want to, many people have great fun playing with all sorts of things whilst having sex: food, candles, a little rope can go a long way! All of that is great if you are having fun – but only because you are having fun. Doing it for only the other person doesn’t work unless you are a really good faker – and few people are. So what can you do?

Do something different with sex – anything

Changing anything will work – and I really mean this – almost anything. Do it in a different place, or at a different time. Do it on the floor instead of the bed. Buy new colour sheets and then have fun “breaking in” the new sheets. Anything different will work.

Do something silly

Doing something silly may not seem sexy – but the point here is variation. So if you think that you would have fun doing it, then go for it! Commit to the enjoyment of it and the other person will also have a great time! If you want to have sex then press play on a pre rigged sound system to play “I just had sex” by Akon and dance around the room – go for it! It doesn’t matter as long as you enjoy it – they will too!

Do something spontaneous

I can’t give you examples because the point of doing something in the moment is exactly that – you are doing it in the moment. If something strikes you as fun or silly or interesting or you just want to do it – go for it. Spontaneous thoughts in the moment are rarely wrong. Mix it up and go for it.

So if you want to keep sex good, keep surprising the other person – and also remember to surprise yourself too!

The best sex is the sex that you are having right now

EdBennett — Sat, 09 Jul 2016 18:31:47 +0000

9 Jul 2016 - 19:31 | Tags: Aussie sex, sex is great, sexy mindset

Every fuck buddy has a sexual history. It is impossible to meet an f-buddy that does not! You see if you are looking for a fuck buddy it is because you really want sex, and if you want sex it is because you have had it before and you liked it. No one will go out of their way to try and get, say a deeper than ever pie unless they have already tasted a deeper than ever pie. They might desire to eat one, in the same way that before you had sex you knew already that you wanted to have sex, but until you have had sex you are highly unlikely to have the confidence and surety to find a fuck buddy.

Since every f-buddy has had sex before, everyone you will sleep with has a sexual history. This is normal, in fact it would be weird if they didn’t have a sexual history! This is a good thing – it is a great thing infact! No one can make someone come unless they already know how to come. By know, they don’t have to know it logically, they need to at least know it in their body, in their neither regions. If they have a sexual history, they likely know how to come, you don’t have to be the one to take them through that potentially difficult journey to learning about themselves. Great! You can get straight down to fucking! That’s fucking great!

However, there is a danger about become insecure. I have seen it many times, and that is not only in men or woman who have actual sexual issues. I have seen it in the greatest lovers, the mightiest men and the hottest women. I even once spoke to someone working in the adult film industry (yes they were a porn star) who had grown insecure about whether they were the best sex their partner had had. There is a cure to this, a permanent truth that protects you from the unhappiness and havoc that this idea can cause.

The best sex is the sex you are having right now. I will type that again to drum it in. The best sex, is the sex that you are having *right now*. The past is gone, it no longer exists as a reality. It is a mirage. The future does not exist and no one really knows what it will bring. The sex you are having now is real, present, it exists. No matter the lovers that your f-buddy had in the past, I don’t care if they say that they slept with the Olympic sex champion of the world – the best sex they are having is the sex they are having now, and if that if you then you are their current greatest lay, their most potent lover.

So put down your insecurities, set aside any doubts that you might have. You are the greatest lover that they have ever had. Know this to be a fact, because it is a fact.

Why Sex Makes You Smarter

EdBennett — Sun, 12 Jun 2016 22:11:47 +0000

12 Jun 2016 - 23:11 | Tags: sex is great, sex is healthy

Someone once told me that teenage boys seem stupid because their every profound thought is interrupted by the thought of sex - a thought that occurs to them every 7 seconds, according to popular opinion. 7 seconds is hardly enough time to complete a dignified thought: The state of the government in the Wes-* SEX! Does true love ex- SEX! The solution to the refugee crisis mus-SEX! While this is probably a gross exaggeration, it is likely also rooted in the truth that sex is distracting as hell - to all of us. It’s a pleasure so base and animalistic that it has inspired lyrics such as ‘let’s do it like they do on the discovery channel’, without anyone ever wanting to insert intellectualism into it. And, yeah, most of us spend much more time thinking about sex than politics, or philosophy (unless we’re talking about sexual politics of course). And this straight-up fun, light-hearted (yet sometimes hot and heavy) feel of sex is one of the reasons most people can’t get enough of it.

However, just because sex feels amazing, allows you to let loose and be as insensible, irrational and unintellectual as you like, someone who wants and likes a lot of sex is by no means less smart than someone who would rather spend the night with a book than a lustful lover. In fact, you could argue that having a lot of GOOD sex (sex that both parties enjoy) can actually make you smarter. By learning the art of seduction, the cues of what your partner likes and dislikes and gauging how turned on the other person is, you are cultivating skills that contribute to social and emotional intelligence.

Say you’re trying something you haven’t done before - touching your partner with a new intensity or a rhythm, or with a different part of your body. A ‘smart’ lover can clock if their daring is being received well, by being able to understand the significance of the direction of their partner’s gaze, a change in their breathing, or the openness of their body language. This social intellect is not only useful in bed. Being able to read these cues can help in professional environments, in creating friendships and in any other type of relationship. But most importantly, it’s a beautiful cycle - having lots of sex can make you smart, which in turns makes you more attractive... which will inevitably lead to more sex. There’s no way to lose!

Sex is great for you – so have loads of it!

EdBennett — Mon, 18 Apr 2016 18:54:27 +0000

18 Apr 2016 - 19:54 | Tags: sex is great, sex facts, Aussie sex

We all want to have loads of sex, for the obvious reason that it is amazing! It makes you feel fantastic, it is free to have it, and the rush is better than any drug you can induce no matter how strong the chemical. Here is the interesting thing though – did you ever realise that sex is actually really good for you? Here are some of the really big ones!

You get ill less

That is factually accurate! You will get less ill if you are having regular sex! So basically the bits that fight infection are higher in those people that get laid. It boosts your immune system to higher levels, which wards off illness and leaves you feeling fitter and better than ever before... leaving you in the perfect position to have more sex!

Sex – begats sex

If you have lots of sex, it boosts the bodies willingness, desire and ability to have more sex! Your Libido actually increases rather than decreases. So rather than thinking of your sex allowance as a pot of water, the more you use it the less there is, it is more like a skill where the more you do it, the more you are able to do it.

One for the ladies – control your pee

That’s right, if you are a girl and you sometimes have a problem with a little leak without you meaning it, having lots of sex will improve your ability to control your bladder! This means less embarrassment... plus you get to have loads of sex. Win win.

Decreases blood pressure

Sex can and will decrease blood pressure – fact! Now there is an important distinction here. Masturbation will not decrease your blood pressure – so you have to be doing it with someone else for this to work. I don’t the reasons why – but that’s what the scientists found. I wonder if after all that stress and hard work they turned to each other in the lab for a form of direct stress relief – I know I would have. Girls in lab coats... mmm......

Counts towards your exercise and movement goals

Do you have a fitbit, misfit, or other fitness tracker? Perhaps you just use your phone to track your movement like a pedometer? Well sex counts towards exercise! It takes up energy, muscle power and burns calories. So why go to the gym when you can go to the bedroom! Far more fun!

I’ll be back next month with more reasons why sex is awesome – so stay tuned. Till then, why not go out and get laid, you know, for health reasons?

What different sexual positions mean: Missionary VS Doggy Style

EdBennett — Sat, 28 Nov 2015 10:33:26 +0000

28 Nov 2015 - 10:33 | Tags: sex positions, sex is great

Once you have found your f-buddy, generally after a meeting you will find yourself moving to the bedroom unusually quickly - quite often on the first date. Some of you may be used to this by now, but for some of the newer members of this website you may be less comfortable with going straight back and having sex the first time you meet someone.

One of the ways to make this more comfortable is having clear choices made about what you are going to do and how you are going to do it. In this article we are going to be looking at the different sexual positions and what they mean, in order to better put you in a position to choose.

The missionary position

This most traditional of sexual positions puts you in a place where you can see each other in the face. It has many advantages, you can see the other persons reactions and therefore in a first sex encounter it allows you to gauge the level of enjoyment or pleasure that they are getting from whatever you are doing.
It is also a more emotional position. By seeing each other face to face, by looking at each other in the eye the whole time it allows you to connect on a deeper level. This can be something you do want, it can also be something you may not want, and if so this position could be one that you actively choose to avoid for this reason.

Doggy Style

I have always felt that the name of this position did much to undermine its popularity, which is a real shame as it is a really good option to have in your repertoire of sexual positions. In this position you are not in any way looking at each other’s faces. It can make it less personal and less emotional. It can also physically mean that the penis can actually penetrate much deeper - which can result in stronger orgasms.
This is much more of a “Grr I want you I am going to take you / Grr I want you take me now” of a position. It can tap into / reflect a drive from a real carnal base desire, and can express both deep rooted desire for sex or the other person. This is generally always a good choice of position, as it also is likely to result in good sex.

The Results:

If you are concerned about performing well, want to be able to gauge what is going on with the other person or just take things a little slower - go missionary. However, if you are looking to get into some good sex and are feeling confident, go straight for doggy style.

Find the sexual compatibility you are looking for

EdBennett — Fri, 06 Nov 2015 17:30:46 +0000

6 Nov 2015 - 17:30 | Tags: sex is great, mutual pleasure

We all want different things from a relationship. We have different needs, desires, wants, pleasures... we are all unique. I mean that, each and every one of us are slightly different, no two people are the same. This includes us in the bedroom and in regards to sex.

Each of us have our own unique set of things that turn us on and make us come. Certain things for one person can bring them to the brink of ecstasy, that same thing for someone else could be a complete turn off. A good friend of mine uses the terms “bucket” and “torch”. Something that is a complete turn off is like a bucket of water, it douses any potential flame that might be in its infancy. A torch on the other hand burns brightly with the flame of passion – he carries a torch for red heads for example. That’s buckets and torches.

So if you want to find the perfect sexual partner, the first thing is to understand that it selection is the key thing. There is an old cliché – “I love you now change”. Well I say forget that, it is nonsense and we both know it. Instead I say find the person who is the way you want the to be already. If you start by selecting to spend time with a person who you already carry a bunch of torches for then there is no need to start trying to light them. Equally if you start out by sleeping with someone who has a bunch of buckets suspended above your head, filled to the brim with ice cold water, any of which could drop at a moments notice to completely kill the moment, then it is going to be hard to change that set up. So instead start out by choosing to be with someone who gets you a bunch of torches and ideally no buckets at all! So how do you do this?

STEP 1: What do you want?

I want you to think about what you want. List, right now, all the ideal traits of your sexual partner. Don’t just read this, grab a piece of paper or open notepad on your computer and make a quick list. What is your ideal in a wo/man? Don’t worry about being judged; only you are going to read this. What really turns you on, I mean really? What makes you carry a torch.

STEP 2: Top items

Now I want you to star or highlight your top “can’t do without” turn ons. What are they? Anything from big boobs to vegetarian to likes being tied up. What ever it is that for you is a must. Maybe there are only a couple – that’s okay. They less there are the easier your life is!

STEP 3: Find your sexual compatibility

Now whatever you have starred – that is a must. You are not allowed to date anyone who does not have these traits/likes/desires. Period.
If you want to have an awesome sex life, start by selecting the right person to have it with. If they share the same likes as you, then you will both have an amazing time in bed and you both will love your sex life more.

Choose wisely – there are plenty to choose from so pick the one you want!

Start with Sex then date afterwards – The RIGHT way to do this

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Sep 2015 14:33:55 +0000

20 Sep 2015 - 15:33 | Tags: sex, sex is great, friends with benefits

People are doing this the wrong way around. They are dating then having sex afterwards. I say have the sex first then move to the dating second, and here is why.

Traditionally the standard male to female courting process goes like this:

• Zero Hour: See a girl that you like

• Month One: Approach the girl, try and be nice to her whilst hiding your nerves

• Month Two: You are now on comfortable speaking terms, try and get the courage up to ask her out, failing each time to get to the point, despite your best rehearsed-in-the-mirror plans to do so.

• Month Three: Finally pluck up the courage to ask the girl out to dinner and she says yes, or failing that you've gone out on a social night, you get drunk and eventually kiss the girl! Either way you have made it to the point where you are now clear that you like the girl and she has agreed to graciously allow you to spend your money buying her dinner.

• Month Four: You go on multiple dinner dates, you are building a really nice rapport and connection, and you both love spending time with each other. You haven’t got to the point of sleeping with each other yet, and you are hesitant to be too pushy about it as you want to be a nice guy and not scare her away.

• Month Five/Six: You finally do it! You have sex with each other! And it is....
... and this is where it gets interesting. Perhaps it is great sex, in which case stop reading now there is no issue. However what is more likely is that you are sexually incompatible and it wasn't that brilliant.

The issue here is that people find change hard. There is an old cliché “I love you now change” . People do not change that easily, and if you end up with some with whom you cannot have not have a mind blowing night with, then this relationship is now in trouble. In a standard monogamous relationship, you can only sleep with each other, so now if you keep dating this person you are committing to bad sex for potentially the rest of your life. The worst part of this is that it has taken you up to 6 months to get there and find out!

Start with the sex first. If it doesn't work for you in bed, then you know nice and early and both you and your partner can move on before you have invested months into trying to build a relationship that was doomed to failure from the start.