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How long do you wait before texting a fuck buddy?

EdBennett — Sun, 29 Jan 2023 00:27:06 +0000

29 Jan 2023 - 00:27 | Tags: texting, when not to have sex, getting laid

Finding a fuck buddy is a process. That process can sometimes be really quick. Maybe you are out for the night, you see someone you like, you go over and it is instant chemistry! Bam – you both head back together to yours/theirs and you have a great night together. The next day you roll over and you still like what you see, and they do as well, so you exchange numbers and before you know it you have a fuck buddy on speed dial! It can happen like that. For a lot of people though, it does not happen as easily as this. For most people there is a bit of a process that has to take place on the journey there. You usually have to speak to a number of people before you meet someone that you like where there is chemistry. You often don’t sleep with someone the very first time you meet them. There is usually a back and forth that happens between the first meeting and the sex during which time you have to step through a careful dance. The dance can be really good fun, and it can make the sex better when you get there for, as humans, we value more highly that which we have fought and laboured for. It remains a tricky dance at times and one with pitfalls.

So you meet someone, maybe at a bar where they are a complete stranger or maybe at a house party where there is a connection of sorts. You chat, you like each other so you exchange numbers… but now you have to make a decision. When do you text them? There are different options and this can have different effects, so here are the options and the choices to help you decide.

Texting the same night

This can be really powerful. If you built a lot of chemistry in the moment and you can text them the same night and cash in / continue that, it can be a great move. For some people who need reassurance and comfort, this can also be a comfort builder. Some warnings though, you want to keep it light and snappy. You also want them to read it the same night, so if you are still out till 5am and they are asleep by 2am, don’t text them at 3am! Finally, do not send a long over the top message. If it is same night, keep it light!

The next morning

You want to think about their state of mind when reading it. If they have been drinking don’t send it when they are hung over! Wait till they have had some recovery time then send it. If they are sober this can be a good call.

The next evening

If you are going to wait till the next day, this is better than the morning for the reasons stated above.
2-3 days later

This can be a power move IF they were really into you. If not then they might have forgotten who you are!

A week later

I think this is too much generally. They will likely have mentally moved on. Do not wait this long!

Good luck!

What to text the day after

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 23:46:37 +0000

30 Oct 2022 - 23:46 | Tags: how to talk dirty in a text, texting

Welcome to the fuck buddy website the place where we help you find a fuck buddy for mutual benefits (without the strings). Today we are talking about what you can text the day after having had a hook up to see if your fuck buddy of the night before might be interested in, well, doing it again!

Finding a fuck buddy can be straightforward. With the advent of online dating, meeting someone has never been easier. Whilst messaging remains the strongest way to meet someone, you can even reach for a swipe based app if you need to lower the barrier to entry further. This means you are going to be meeting a number of people, some of whom you might sleep with once but then not really want to sleep with again. There will come along someone that you would like to see again. This might be simply because you had a really great time and you want more of the same. It might also be because the sex itself wasn’t mind blowing, but the whole thing feels like it has a lot of potential and you want to explore it more. First time sex can be hard and it can take a few to get it going. So, if you want to see someone again, you need to text. If you are not sure what to open with or say, why no give one of these recommended next day openers to see if they can help?

“I want more!”

(if the sex was okay)

This is a strong move but this in itself is going to help you. Confidence is an attractive trait. The more confident you are, the more likely they are to want to come back for more. People also want to be wanted, and this sends a good, but not stated message, that you want them. It is also short and there is something quite powerful about sending short messages. This is a solid choice.

“You did something legendary to me last night”

(if the sex was great!)

This has to be used with care. If the sex was average you cannot send this. They will know the truth of the matter and will sense the lack of honesty it this if it lacks truth. So if it was okay sex do not send this. However, if, in fact, the sex was genuinely amazing and they did do something special, lean into this and go for it! It will land really well.

SMS, WhatsApp, Signal and Threema messages to send to your fuck buddy the day afterwards

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 23:32:39 +0000

30 Oct 2022 - 23:32 | Tags: how to talk dirty in a text, texting

When it comes to adult dating, texting and instant messaging are now a staple part of the courtship ritual. Of course, nothing beats in person contact or face to face meetings, but in order to make those meetings happen you have to accept that communication using the written word is necessary. We no longer live in a world where you just pick up a phone and call someone, you really do text, WhatsApp, or for the more security-minded perhaps you are using Threema or Signal instead. Regardless of the platform that you are using, texting (or sexting) is now the way that you make things happen.

So let us say it is the day after your first hook up with a particular fuck buddy. The first time isn’t always mind blowing or amazing, so perhaps you had an alright time but are interested in meeting up again to explore that further… or maybe you were lucky and it really was mind blowing! Regardless, if you want to meet up again the first step the next day is to drop a message. So, what message should you send? Well, if you are unsure, here are our top suggestions on the kinds of texts that you might like to send the day after.

“That was extraordinary. What should we do next time?”

Flattery is always a good choice when it comes to the day after text message… but breaking this down further, this is a bold and brave choice. You are putting yourself out there because if your friend with benefits does not feel the same, you have left yourself vulnerable. Here is the thing though, if they don’t want to meet up again there is nothing that you can say that is going to change their mind, so you may as well be bold and brave with it. Furthermore, bravery is attractive and they are more likely to want to come back and see you, so go for it!

“I can’t stop thinking about the moment when you….”

This is a situational suggestion. If there was not a moment where they did something that you can refer to, then do not use this! Never make something up, you have to refer to a real action. If they did do something that you really liked, then this is a strong choice.

Ultimately you can say almost anything, but if you are stuck cut and paste one of these in and it will stand you in good stead.

When your ex texts you

EdBennett — Thu, 19 Apr 2018 07:32:40 +0000

19 Apr 2018 - 08:32 | Tags: sex with the ex, texting

It doesn’t matter whether you are the most promiscuous person in the world and you literally have so many ex’s that you literally cannot remember who all of them are, or you tend to take the more focused approach with only a few partners, at some point, everyone gets the text. This is an article about how to deal with it when it happens.

Getting the ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend text message can be a very dangerous thing. It has the potential to seriously throw your game and mess with your life. That it is going to happen is inevitable, so there is no reason to try and worry about it, lament it, or wish that it has not happened. Its arrival is out of your control, think of it like an act of god or a freak of nature. What you have complete control over is how you deal with it, what you do with it when it arrives.

The most important question to ask yourself, is where are you at right now? How do you feel at this exact moment? This will be influenced by your wider life at the time and will be influenced by:

How are things are going at work at the moment?
How are things going with your friends in your personal life?
Are you sleeping with someone at the moment?
Have you slept with someone since your ex-girlfriend?
Are you in the same place as you were when you last spoke?

All of these are things that ultimately affect one main question, and this is the money question: how happy are you at the moment? This directly feeds into you levels of security or insecurity, and will play a major factor in how well you are going to be able to handle an interaction with the ex.

Judge this in the moment

This is important, your wider life may be excellent, but here it is important to make a decision on these factors about how you feel in that exact moment. If you are general feeling great, but the sight of that text message makes you feel crap, then you know that all that other stuff doesn’t matter, you have to assume that you are not in a good place to be dealing with this.

How to deal with it

The reason you want to think about the above is that the answer on how to deal with it comes from how you feel, not want you want to do, and there are only two options here. If you are feeling crap, if there is any hesitation that this is going to play with your life game, if there is an inkling that it is going to affect your nights sleep, then you need to delete the message and not respond to it. Simple as that. If on the other hand, you feel totally fine, you may respond, but still do not have to. One of the signs that you are truly healthy is that you care so little, that you don’t bother to respond, because there is no point.

Remember – you can always just delete and ignore it… And if you are having any doubt at all, ask yourself this: Will this affect my nights sleep?

Worst Chat Up Lines Ever

EdBennett — Mon, 17 Aug 2015 10:47:21 +0000

17 Aug 2015 - 11:47 | Tags: chat up lines, casual sex, f-buddy, texting, sexting, messaging

In keeping with our recent glut on what to write in a first message, we’ve decided to share and comment on some of the worst chat up lines we’ve had the misfortune to read. Sadly I wish I could say these were false. Sadly they’re not. Read on dear user, but beware these types of chat up lines in your conversations. The chances of you getting laid using them will be zero to none.

1. Opener: “Spit or swallow?”
Response: “Douchebagosauraus or Fucktard?”

This one made me laugh. But considering the guy had just been pretty lame with his opening message, he got what he deserved.

2. Opener: “That’s a nice bra. Want me to help you out of it?”
Response: “No.”

Also made me laugh, however this can work depending on the mood of the person you’re sending it to.

3. Opener: “Hey babe. I’ll fuck you so well; the neighbours will be having a cigarette at the end of it!”
Response: “That’s great! I love ‘Neighbours’. My favourite character is Paul Robinson.”

Funny simply because of the innocent sarcasm in the response. Again dirty talk can work, but rarely on the first message or chat up line.

4. Opener: “Your eyes are as blue as my toilet water at home.”
Response: none

That the guy actually thought he was going to get a response is funny in itself. That he thought this was a good line to open with is just plain weird and quite sad.

5. Opener: “Hi there, are you here to meet a nice man or will I do?”
Response: Varied

Okay, I thought this one was quite funny. It had the benefit of humour and the acknowledgement that in a casual setting this can be used well. However it still triggers a varied response with many women choosing never to respond. Back to the drawing board guys!

6. Opener: “Do you want to be my insignificant other?”
Response: “Fuck you, dick head!”

One of my favourite bad lines and one of my favourite responses. Kind of says it all really.

Top 5 Messaging tips Guaranteed to Get you a Response

EdBennett — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 09:43:47 +0000

15 Aug 2015 - 10:43 | Tags: messaging, casual sex, sexting, texting

Over in the UK we’ve been talking about the top mistakes people (mostly guys) make when sending someone a message for the first time. We’re letting the blokes in blighty ponder our sage advice for a while. Whilst they’re doing that, we thought we’d dispense some similar advice to the studs in Oz. Having trouble getting a girl to message you back? Wondering why, even though you’re sending hundreds – if not thousands of messages – no one is responding? Sit back and listen up hot shot. You’re about to get your mind opened and filled with advice on just how to chat up a date online.

1. Special Subject

A lot of guys open with ‘Hi’ or ‘Hey babe’. Unsurprisingly these rarely get a response. Try opening with a specialist subject. Have you read their profile? Try thinking of something to say that shows you have something in common with them. Think beyond your comfort zone. Make her want to message you back.

2. Humour

You don’t have to be Jim Jefferies to get a girl to laugh. Try injecting a little humour into your messages. If you seem calm and relaxed in this, you’re more likely to get a reply. Don’t be mean, but you can gently make a joke about something someone has written on their profile. This often elicits a laugh and is more likely to get you a response.

3. Keep it short and snappy

Be to the point. I can’t stress this enough. If you spend ages thinking of a long rambling message to send, you’ve spent too much time on thinking about it. Just look at the profile, think of what you’d like to say, and say it in the shortest amount of words possible. Just don’t resort to ‘Hi Babe’.

4. Focus on quality

Again, you need to be thinking about the content you’re sending. You hate having spam in your mailbox, so don’t send spam to someone you’ve never met (and more importantly want to meet). Think about what you want to say and tailor it to each person you want to talk to.

5. Re-Read what you wrote

Before you hit the magic ‘send’ button, have a look at what you’ve written first. Like all writing it’s good to give your draft a once over before thinking it’s genius prose. Guess what? It most likely isn’t. So check your ego at the door and re-read your messages before you send them.

Top 5 Ways to Get a response from a F-Buddy

EdBennett — Sat, 25 Jul 2015 10:39:11 +0000

25 Jul 2015 - 11:39 | Tags: messaging, texting, what to say, casual sex, adult dating, online dating

Quite often you message a lot of people hoping to get a reply, and the next time you look in your inbox you find it’s still empty. Why is no one responding to you? It could be a number of things. They could be busy and just haven’t had time to read your message yet. It could be their message box is full and they can’t receive anymore messages. It could be that you send the exact same messages to different people. Whatever the reason, here are a few ways to boost your chances of getting a response to your messages.

1. BE CREATIVE

People (women especially) receive the same old tired and boring opening messages from prospective f-buddies. Everyone is tired of reading about how gorgeous they are or how sexy they are or getting ‘liked’ or ‘winked’ at. Be a little more creative with your messaging and you might find you get more responses. Noting something about someone’s profile and then writing about it in a message is a start. Don’t just say ‘Hi’ or ‘U R SEXY!’

2. BE CONFIDENT

Half of finding a good f-buddy is mindset. If you have low self-esteem when you start looking, it may sink even lower. People can smell when someone’s not feeling confident even in a message. Lack of confidence is not attractive. Men and women are both attracted to confidence in general. Someone who is not naturally confident will struggle here. So if you’re not naturally confident – pretend that you are when you’re messaging! The more you pretend the more you project a confident air. One day you realise it is no longer an air. It’s real.

3. BE CHARMING & ATTRACTIVE

You don’t message people with the intent of acting like an arrogant dick. You message people wanting to show them that you are a charming and attractive person. Being a cock will not get you a f-buddy – or if it does, they won’t stick around for long.

4. BE ENDEARING

Often confused with ‘be mysterious’. Women aren’t after mysterious men. They’re after interesting men who are endearing. Endearing means you’re fun, attractive and generally good to be around.

5. BE GRACIOUS

If someone doesn’t want to have sex on a first date, that’s okay. Believe it or not most people want to get to know someone even a little before they hop into bed with them. Be gracious if your potential f-buddy doesn’t want to have sex the first time you meet.