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It is not what you are like, it is what you like that matters when finding a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:42:03 +0000

30 Jul 2022 - 00:42 | Tags: finding the perfect partner, how to get a hot date, how to be the perfect fuck buddy

When it comes to the art of seduction and forming connections with members of the preferred sex in order to, well, have sex with them, we often say it is about who you are. When two people come together, whether that is because they want to be friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies or they are just looking to hook up for the night, everyone is looking for that “spark”. The “spark” that we are looking for is seen to be about who we are. As magnesium explodes when put into water, so we think that when we meet someone that does the spark for us it is an uncontrollable, unpredictable and explosive reaction that has everything to do with who they and we are as people. This is commonly accepted wisdom. When we speak to people that have established relationships, which could be both standard relationships but also adult relationships such as a long-term fuck buddy, if asked why they are with the other person they will often say something to the equivalent of “I like them”. I like who they are, how they are or what they are. I am here to challenge this. I put it to you that it is not what you are like, but what you like that matters.

When finding a fuck buddy and hooking up for the first time, you sit and you chat. You may not talk that much, you may not want to talk that much, but some level of communication is usually inevitable. As you talk, you think you are getting to know who the other person is and this is what matters in regards to the connection. You are only partly right. Yes, you are getting to know who they are, but in terms of the connection what matters is not what you are like, but what you like. When you talk, do you have a common background, a shared understanding, a language that you can both use that perhaps other people don’t? When I describe language, I am not necessarily speaking about an actual language like Spanish or French though this can work as well. I mean can you talk about the same things? For example, say you are both into Sci-Fi, you can talk about star trek or star wars – you chare the language of that world… and this is what bonds and brings us together. From there you feel connected and understood, you feel seen, and that is when you sleep with each other.

So yes it matter who you are, but it matters more what you like than what you are like when you are hooking up with someone.

Finding a Fuck Buddy the cobra kai way

EdBennett — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 21:03:08 +0000

31 Aug 2021 - 22:03 | Tags: film sex, how to chat up girls, how to get a hot date

There are many films that you saw in your youth that have held the test of time. For the slightly older of you, perhaps that is star wars, for others that may be back to the future, or for those in their twenties perhaps it is mean girls or the like. Those films that we saw in our formative years stay with us, and many of them inform how we think and act. It may seem odd to say that because you grew up thinking Martie McFly was cool that it changed who you were, but actually, it might have done. The story opens up the idea that actually if you push for what you want, you can get it. It is a tale that shows how the George McFly that was scared got nothing, but the George McFly that stood up to the bully got the girl and the life he dreamed of. Those stories of our youth inspire us to what is possible. Those stories opened our minds to who we could be and what we could do. They play a more important role in our lives than most of us realise. That includes how we manage our dating lives. Just as Back to the Future was the story of the geek getting the girl, for many girls mean girls was the first time they saw two girls kissing on screen (though it was brief and fleeting, it was an inspiration for many bisexual or lesbian women). These stories may well be affecting your own personal confidence when it comes to how you deal with the opposite sex, including your confidence with getting a Fuck buddy or approaching someone with the offer of a no strings attached relationship. We generally look up to the “good guys” but in this article, I want to talk about how to get the girl the cobra kai way.

Cobra Kai has brought karate kid back in a massive way. The film tapped into an entire generation of original viewers and has quickly added a huge number of new viewers who did not watch the original films… and it brings one message to bear. Strike first, strike hard, no mercy. This can be applied to getting a fuck buddy the same.

Strike first

– if you see someone you like, move immediately. Do not wait for your brain to engage and the excuses to kick in, approach and say hi, plunging yourself into the engagement before you know what you are doing.

Strike hard

– there is no point holding back. Yes if you don’t put your best self forward if it doesn’t work out you can tell yourself, it is for that reason, but I would urge you to embrace failure in order to be successful.

No mercy

– assume victory. Most people talk to people they want to have sex with assuming that they will fail. Assuming that you are going to be successful helps you get there!

So next time you speak to a potential fuck buddy, do it the cobra kai way!

Do more, and you will "do" more people!

EdBennett — Fri, 19 Oct 2018 21:54:27 +0000

19 Oct 2018 - 22:54 | Tags: Aussie sex, how to get a hot date, how to have more sex

Everyone has moments when they are sitting alone and they are contemplating what would make them more sexually successful? The obvious go-to for women tends to be looks. They think about losing weight, treating their skin and bodies, getting their hair done and in the more enthusiastic cases getting their boobs or noses done. For most women, this is a really good choice. When it comes to the sexual marketplace, the selection of a female fuck buddy is done primarily on looks. The losing of a few pounds or the gaining of a fantastic new hairstyle can make a huge difference to your sexual success. This is a good choice!
For men they also focus on how they look, often hitting the gym or changing their diets. They focus on the opposite of their female counterparts however. Women generally aim to get smaller, men want to make those “gains” and get big and muscly! This is a reasonable choice. The other thing that men do is try and make more money, and as awful it is to write this, it is a good choice. Men are judged on what they can do more than women are, thus having more money and the ability to do more things stands you in great steed when it comes to sexual relationships. If you hook up with someone and can afford to just walk into a nice hotel and lay down a credit card to cover you for the night, this can be a really powerful thing! Even when you are pre-arranging to meet a fuck buddy, the difference between taking a girl back to a beautiful London flat versus a small room in a bedsit is huge. So more money can make a difference.

For both men and women though, when it comes to finding a fuck buddy or having sex, the factor that makes the most difference is how much action you take. The other things help, but if there is one thing you should focus on, it is this. How much do you actually do? Are you online dating, are you going out to pubs and clubs, are you getting friends to set you up? When you see someone that you would love to hook up with, someone that really turns you on, are you going up to them and introducing yourself?

If you want to do more people, start by doing more. I would still encourage you to take other action, for the more you do the better a prospective hook you become, but the most important thing to do is to do more. So go forth and take action, the results will speak for themselves.

How to find a hot date

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Jul 2015 11:40:18 +0000

20 Jul 2015 - 12:40 | Tags: casual sex, hot dates, how to get a hot date, hook up, dating, adult dating

I have dated women who at the time I thought were way out of my league. I’ve dated stereotypically hot eastern European women who all seem to look like they’ve walked off the cover of a bikini shoot. I’ve dated athletically good looking blonde former police officers. I even accidentally got drunk at a film premier party and ended up in bed with a very hot dancer the same night. I never thought I would ever come even close to dating let alone sleeping with women of this supposedly ‘high’ calibre. But I did.

What kind of person am I?

I would stereotypically be called a bit of a geek. I love science fiction and fantasy. I enjoy role playing. I love movies and I love reading. I’m not an athlete though I do go to the gym at least once a week to try and stay healthy and prevent middle age spread. I am not and never was the typical high school jock that had all the girls clamouring for his attention. It took me quite a few years to realise what my strengths were and how I could show them more in my personality. Eventually I realised the following about myself:

1. People think I’m funny and have a good sense of humour
2. I like meeting new people and chatting about no end of subjects
3. I’m intelligent
4. I have a full life with lots going on

Now when I look at that list now, I think “Wow! I actually sound like a pretty cool guy!” But I have never been able to think that about myself until the last few years. At school I got picked on, ignored and generally trodden on by students and staff alike. I never knew what my worth was because it had been engrained into my psyche that I had no worth beyond providing a few cheap laughs. Now I realise I had more worth than anyone else at school. It has helped me find myself and learn that I am a good person.

And that dear reader is the key to finding a hot date.

RECOGNISE YOUR AWESOMENESS - AKA - BE YOURSELF

Everyone is different and everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Some people are more naturally athletic, some are more naturally funny, some are more naturally intelligent, and some are more naturally good natured. Whatever your strength is, tap into it and share it on your profile as much as you can. There will be a hot date out there who likes you for you. Anything else is a waste.