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Using ice in the bedroom

EdBennett — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 09:42:52 +0000

24 Sep 2020 - 10:42 | Tags: advice to get laid, kinky sex

One of the best things about having a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits relationship is that you can really experiment in the bedroom. Due to the sexual focus of the partnership, a fuck buddy is way more likely to be up for trying new things out in the bedroom, and that can be very exciting. That can start as just trying out new sexual positions, which is always a good idea as let's face it, missionary position is about the worst position if you are trying to make a woman come / if you are a woman and you want to come. It is just not how we are really built to have sex. There are all sorts of other things that you can try out now though as well, from toys to films to the latest lubricant. An easy one that requires no real preparation is ice.

Everyone has ice in their house. All you have to do to use it is to fish it out of the freezer. It can be surprisingly exciting to use it and it is a low-level thing to play with as you can’t really hurt or damage the other person in any way by using it. So it is a no loss thing to try!

Using ice if you are a woman

There is one perfect use for ice if you are a woman. Use the temperature change. Pop some in your mouth, allow the ice to really cool your mouth before giving your man a blow job. The ideal thing to do is to start the blow job without any ice, so that your mouth is warm, then use some ice whilst keeping him busy with your hand before unleashing the new sensations your mouth will bring to him. The switch is explosive!

Using ice if you are a man

The same principles apply to men. If you are going down on your woman, using some ice to drop the temperature of your tongue and see her squirm in pleasure as you stimulate her in ways that she has never felt before. If you are able to, blindfold her first and don’t tell her what you are going to do… the surprise will make your fuck buddy enjoy it even more.

Using ice on the rest of the body

You can, and should, also play with ice on the rest of your fuck buddy’s body. Across the chest, around the nipples, whilst you kiss… the best thing to do is to experiment and just see what you like!

So have a go and popping some ice into your sex cocktail, you will love it!

Top Types of Food to use in the bedroom during sex

EdBennett — Sat, 27 Aug 2016 18:31:20 +0000

27 Aug 2016 - 19:31 | Tags: fun with food, kinky sex, spicing things up in the bedroom

There are many fun things you can do in the bedroom to spice up your sex life and these can go from simple little things through to quite extreme complicated things! I wrote an article earlier this month about why it is sexy here. You can light a few candles to better set the mood, you could change your sheets to silk ones for a more sensual experience. If you want to take bigger actions you could fit a mirror on the ceiling, or paint the room sexy red. I terms of play you could get a camera and record yourself to make your own porn videos starting you, you could get some rope and start tying each other up, you could even bring flame into it with some serious fire play. It is all good fun – as long as you stay safe when doing it and you are both consenting and into it.

Food is one of the simpler things to bring into the bedroom because you already have it in your house! It is a familiar item, so it seems safer than say pulling out a ball gag! So if you are thinking about adding in some edible ingredients in order to spice things up in the bedroom, here are some things to think about!

Food not to use

Firstly eliminate all the food that you should not use. Anything too liquid is bad – covering a girl in soup before fucking her is not sexy it is just a little odd. Now odd can be fun – and if that is what you are going for this is a great choice – I wouldn’t start out with it. Anything that is super sticky could be an issue – deserts are something that is an immediate go to so just be careful about your choice of desert. Chocolate for example only becomes an issue when it melts so it’s a manageable amount – I would avoid sticky toffee pudding etc though!

Foods that are great in the bedroom

Certain foods have a sexual association already and these are the ones that you want to reach for. Strawberries are great – with all the pictures we have been exposed to of sexy women sucking on strawberries they carry a turn on element to them. Chocolate is again a food that boosts the happiness hormones and as long as you consume at a good speed then they don’t melt too much. Vodka jelly shots are brilliant if you want something alcoholic in the mix – though use with care. Too much alcohol can make you soft if you are a man.

So grab some food and get going – you are going to have a good time.

Why is food a sexy thing to use in the bedroom

EdBennett — Fri, 12 Aug 2016 15:22:20 +0000

12 Aug 2016 - 16:22 | Tags: fun with food, foods to increase libido, kinky sex

It is interesting how many different things that turn us on as humans. We get turned on by people looking a certain way, tall, short, large, slim, with or without hairy bodies! It is also amazing how many settings can affect this. So many people have very specific and certain fantasies about having sex in certain places, sex in a lift, sex in a church, sex in the lobby of a hotel... the list is endless. They also have certain scenarios played out. Most people don’t actually want the thing to happen for “real” but they would enjoy playing it out for fake, for fun. Having sex with a teacher or a boss, giving a blowjob to someone that they can’t see the face of, being taken by force by someone... again the list is endless. So there are so many things to explore that you can have fun with.

One of these things is playing with food whilst in the bedroom. This is a common one to have been played out, and many people have already played with food in the bedroom, and continue to do so. Perhaps you are one of these people, or perhaps you have yet to try it. Have you ever wondered why they have this as something that turns them on? Let’s talk about it here.

Fear: It is fundamental to life

There are certain things that are fundamental to living. The act of sleeping, drinking water, breathing... if you did not do these things you would die. Eating is a foundation act of living. If you do not eat, then you would die. Simple. There is something sexy about death, something about death that inspires people to want to have sex. I guess it is programmed in, people die – have sex to re populate. By using something that is so closely tied to you staying alive – you tap into this.

Joy: Food is about pleasure and gluttony

If you are living in a 1st world country, then food on the other side of the scale has become about pleasure and gluttony. We like to gorge ourselves on food. We like to eat things that taste amazing, to experience the food rush of the most mouth watering morsels that money can buy. We love our food! It has become about pure pleasure and satisfying the senses... can you see the similarity to sex? Satisfying the senses? Pleasure and ecstasy? So combining the two together gives you a chance to increase your sensual experience.

So putting food and sex together is a great way to experience a pleasure that you never have before, driven by the addition reminder of fear and the extra joy of taste as a sensation into the mix. If you haven’t tried it yet – get in there!

New to kink? A beginners way into tying someone up in the bedroom

EdBennett — Tue, 09 Aug 2016 16:15:03 +0000

9 Aug 2016 - 17:15 | Tags: kink, kinky sex, play in the bedroom

So you have decided you want to spice things up in the bedroom by getting your kink on and getting the rope out. This could be for a number of reasons, maybe you are in a long term relationship and you want to mix things up a little – something I highly recommend! Perhaps you have always wanted to try it and want a little guidance as to how to start, maybe you just want something different or perhaps you have a new fuck buddy that has a particular love of being bound and restrained in the bedroom and so you are stepping up in order to be able to fool around with them. Regardless of the reasons, if you are new to it, here are some good guidance on how to get going with some rope related fun in the bedroom.

Keep it Simple

The first rule is keep is simple. You have probably seen some outrageous pictures on the internet of complicated ropes and knots, of hot women bound to elaborate pieces of equipment or suspended from the ceiling. Whilst all of that looks great – it is done more to be seen than to be experienced. You have no audience watch you, just the two of you, so there is no need to get super elaborate or over the top in terms of making it complex. Keep it really simple to start with.

Understand what is sexy

If you can understand the fundamental of what is sexy about it – then you can really understand why you can have an unforgettable fuck using just one piece of rope.

You want her Bad

What is amazing for the girl is that you want her so much, that you are taking her. You are not giving her a choice; you are removing her ability to move, then fucking her hard. Now this is of course a play – it is really important that you check first that the girl is on board, and if she says stop or uses her safe word then everything stops immediately. The message you are sending is that you wanty her bad – and what girl doesn’t want to be wanted?

You are taking all responsibility

Once she is tied, there is nothing she can do, so she effectively relinquishes all responsibility to you. This does put pressure on you to take charge fully, it also gives her the chance to sit back and just enjoy what ever is happening. The removal of responsibility as to what is happening is a huge turn on, and can allow girls who have trouble coming to come quickly and easily.

Remember – it doesn’t have to be rope

It doesn’t have to be as formal and orchestrated as rope. You can use the arms of a jumper, the strap of a bag that is lying around, your tie after a long day at work is a great option! There is always something lying around that you can reach for – and this means you can do it spontaneously. This spontaneity in of itself is sexy and fun, and brings with it a hotness that both of you will enjoy.

So keep it simple, remember that all you have to do is allow her to drop her responsibility and feel how much you want her, and just use one of two things that are already lying around.

Enjoy – you are going to have a good time. Trust me, I am speaking from experience.

Is There a Problem With Vanilla Sex?

EdBennett — Sat, 05 Sep 2015 10:15:30 +0000

5 Sep 2015 - 11:15 | Tags: vanilla sex, casual sex, kinky sex, BDSM, bondage, fetish

To say that someone is ‘kinky’ or ‘vanilla’ is to ignore the wide and varied world of fetishes and sexual preferences nestled under the umbrella term of ‘kinky’. Simply put, it’s hard to say someone is truly vanilla or kinky. Everyone is different and everyone has different ways to enjoy their sexuality. Just because you enjoy being spanked does not mean you are into BDSM. Just because you enjoy having sex in the missionary position, does not mean you only enjoy having vanilla sex. As a culture, humans are obsessed with labelling things. You have to fit one label or another or we simply just don’t understand your position. It is no different when it comes to enjoying sex.

No problems here!

Supporters of BDSM and supporters of Vanilla sex have an unfortunate habit of trying to defend their positions and attack any opposing views. I went to a Japanese rope tying class a few years ago led by a legendary instructor. He was a really nice guy who earns his living from teaching and demonstrating the art of Japanese Shibari. Loosely translated it is rope tying for pleasure. He took us all through the basic beginner knots and had us practice on one another, which was quite funny. He also showed us a couple of his videos where he has travelled the world practising his art with various other performers. Make no mistake; what this man does is an art.

However, there came a point in the class where we were all discussing the various preferences and methods people use to enjoy sex. We got onto the topic of vanilla sex – a term that the instructor himself used – and its application worldwide. It was clear to anyone in the room that he did not have much time for vanilla sex, which is fine obviously. To each his own. What I do remember quite clearly however is the tone he employed when talking about vanilla sex. Dismissive, negative and at one point sneering. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think he meant anything by it. He just said what he was feeling. However he failed to take into account that there are millions of people around the world who enjoy vanilla sex just as much as he enjoys kinky sex.

Room for both

What I learned in that class was that we all need to be a little more understanding of each other when it comes to sex. I might like vanilla sex over kinky sex. You might prefer BDSM to vanilla. What we must not do – and what we are all guilty of at one point or another – is to judge one another based on our sexual preferences. Just because someone does not enjoy BDSM does not mean they are worth less sexually than someone who does.

Do we all have a kink?

EdBennett — Thu, 25 Jun 2015 16:12:26 +0000

25 Jun 2015 - 17:12 | Tags: kink, kinky sex, casual sex, fetish

It’s the question that a lot of people want to ask, but hardly anyone tries to answer; do I have a kink? There are many reasons you never get an answer. You’re too embarrassed to think about it, you think you’re the only person in the world who feels the way you do…etc etc. Hopefully you’re smart enough to know that you are not alone at all. Everyone has different sexual preferences and many people have what we call ‘kinks’. First of all it’s worth clarifying what we mean by ‘kink’. Basically having a kink is having a sexual fetish of some sort. Basically it encompasses anything that is unconventional about sex (since when is sex so conventional anyway?). This could be anything from being blindfolded to wanting to lick cream off your partner’s feet. Kinks are wide and varied.

Do I have a kink?
Only you can answer that question. Just because you enjoy sex in different places and positions doesn’t mean you have a kink. That said, just because you enjoy being blindfolded and tied to the bed doesn’t mean you necessarily have a kink – so many people use blindfolds and ropes now that it can be argued it has become conventional. If you like dressing up and role playing whilst having your sex partner spank you with a paddle, you might have a kink.

Is it bad if I don’t have a kink?
No. Just because kinky sex is all the rage at the moment doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. You can still just enjoy sex for sex. You don’t have to find a whip, chains or anything else in order to enjoy sex. In fact you’ll find practitioners of kink will be jealous of your ability to just enjoy sex for sex’s sake. They might hide it behind a veneer of sympathy and arrogance, but they will admit that they miss the rush of just being able to have sex without the need to dress up, spank or tie up.

Do we all have a kink?
Well like we said at the start, only you can answer that one. If you do have a kink, great! If you don’t that’s great too!