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It is not what you are like, it is what you like that matters when finding a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:42:03 +0000

30 Jul 2022 - 00:42 | Tags: finding the perfect partner, how to get a hot date, how to be the perfect fuck buddy

When it comes to the art of seduction and forming connections with members of the preferred sex in order to, well, have sex with them, we often say it is about who you are. When two people come together, whether that is because they want to be friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies or they are just looking to hook up for the night, everyone is looking for that “spark”. The “spark” that we are looking for is seen to be about who we are. As magnesium explodes when put into water, so we think that when we meet someone that does the spark for us it is an uncontrollable, unpredictable and explosive reaction that has everything to do with who they and we are as people. This is commonly accepted wisdom. When we speak to people that have established relationships, which could be both standard relationships but also adult relationships such as a long-term fuck buddy, if asked why they are with the other person they will often say something to the equivalent of “I like them”. I like who they are, how they are or what they are. I am here to challenge this. I put it to you that it is not what you are like, but what you like that matters.

When finding a fuck buddy and hooking up for the first time, you sit and you chat. You may not talk that much, you may not want to talk that much, but some level of communication is usually inevitable. As you talk, you think you are getting to know who the other person is and this is what matters in regards to the connection. You are only partly right. Yes, you are getting to know who they are, but in terms of the connection what matters is not what you are like, but what you like. When you talk, do you have a common background, a shared understanding, a language that you can both use that perhaps other people don’t? When I describe language, I am not necessarily speaking about an actual language like Spanish or French though this can work as well. I mean can you talk about the same things? For example, say you are both into Sci-Fi, you can talk about star trek or star wars – you chare the language of that world… and this is what bonds and brings us together. From there you feel connected and understood, you feel seen, and that is when you sleep with each other.

So yes it matter who you are, but it matters more what you like than what you are like when you are hooking up with someone.

How to have sex whilst on your period

EdBennett — Sun, 28 Feb 2021 08:30:50 +0000

28 Feb 2021 - 08:30 | Tags: sexual experimentation, how to be the perfect fuck buddy

If your fuck buddy is a woman, or you are a woman yourself, each and every month sex can be interrupted by the arrival of someone’s period. For a lot of people this means abstaining for that period of time. This is a valid choice and there is nothing wrong with just not having sex during this time. Some people argue that an enforced period of abstaining from sex actually increases desire and thus the strength of orgasms when you come back to having sex again afterwards. Additionally, with a fuck buddy, no one is in a monogamous relationship. This means that you can always have sex with someone else instead during this time. However, you are the fuck buddy of someone on a period and you decide not to have sex with them, you do risk them looking elsewhere and they may not chose to come back. Just because a woman is on her period does not mean that she does not want to have sex, not does it mean that she can’t have sex! To help out, here are my top tips on how to have sex whilst on your period.

During a woman’s period they may have increased hormones. Their usual balance is no longer in place, which means that they may feel much hornier than usual. Whether you are the fuck buddy of the woman or you are the person with the period, this can be brilliant! Naturally increased horniness leads to greater desire and arousal, which can in turn lead to a stronger orgasm during sex. This can happen without any extra effort – so it really is a fuck buddy bonus!

During a woman’s period there are a number of benefits that directly make the sex better. There is increased lubrication, for the woman everything is heightened so there is an increase in sensations for her making you feel all better to her. Having sex during a period can also give a woman a sense of abandon and freedom, and that in turns increases the power of the sex that you have together.

The best way to end a period quickly is to have sex! The contractions can effectively squeeze out the tissue inside, which means that it is all ejected faster. This means that having sex during a period will end the period potentially days faster. This is great for both the woman and the friend with benefits that helped them achieve it!

So if you are thinking if of having sex during a woman’s period, go for it! It is good for all parties.

Things that will make you have less sex

EdBennett — Wed, 26 Feb 2020 20:49:07 +0000

26 Feb 2020 - 20:49 | Tags: how to be the perfect fuck buddy, top mistakes guys make when approaching women

We all want to be happy. It is hard-wired into us. For all of us, this includes certain basic things: food to eat, clothes to wear, a warm and safe place to sleep at night. Some psychologists talk about the need for education, but I think this is more the need for some kind of growth or personal expansion. It does not have to be huge and it is very different for different people. We do need change and variation of some kind.

Once the basics of survival are dealt, happiness then comes to the things in our lives that make us feel like we are living rather than merely existing. Things that push us beyond feeling like we are breathing and nothing more. This includes: learning new skills, job progress or progress, new friends or relationships, growing in a hobby that one is passionate about. Having sex is certainly on the list, and in fact, is a major player when it comes to feeling fulfilled and happy. Given how important it is, I am always somewhat surprised at how many people reduce or destroy their opportunities to have sex by taking actions that make you less likely to have sex! So to help solve this, here is the list of my top tips of things that are likely to make you have less sex, not more.

Not washing regularly

It does not matter how good looking you are, how much money you make, what car your drive or what a winning personality you wield. Someone may be uncontrollably attracted to you, but if they get close and you smell like a horse that hasn’t had its manure mucked out for a week, then they will be repulsed. You will have destroyed a perfectly good hook up. This is a great way to keep away future fuck buddies.

Never go out

If you always say no to any and all invites you get given, you are screwing yourself out of the opportunity of meeting someone that you can sleep with. All fuck buddies have to meet their friends with benefits somewhere. So say yes to invitations as and when you get them, you do not know where it might lead.

Tell yourself that no one wants to have sex with you

There is an interesting thing with beliefs, they fulfil themselves. If you believe that you are someone that no one wants to have sex with and never will, you will make it true. When you meet someone that wants to sleep with you, you will sabotage the interaction to ensure that you are correct in your belief. If you are someone that believes that no one wants you, stop it right now. Someone does. Everyone has someone that is their type, so stop thinking you can’t have sex so that you can go and have sex.

Those are my top three. If you are doing any of these, stop it immediately to have more sex.

Finding the perfect sex partner takes time, but is worth the effort

EdBennett — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 13:28:11 +0000

4 Jul 2018 - 14:28 | Tags: how to be the perfect fuck buddy, finding the perfect partner

Every person has an ideal sex partner. For some people that is someone that they are in a full-time relationship with, for others it is a non-monogamous set up and takes the form of finding a fuck buddy or a friend with benefits. We are all different, so what we want out of that person also varies hugely. Some of us want someone to lead and be dominating, others want someone to dominate. Some of us want someone very vanilla, someone with little imagination that likes routine and enjoys things when they are simple and without complication. Then there are the drama seekers of the world, people who need things to be spicy, rocky, and constantly in flux. They need the drama, they seek the excitement and enjoyment that comes from the instability. These people at this extreme are usually only into short term relationships, they want the excitement that meeting someone new brings, and they are unable to move things onto the next stage of life where things become more routine.

There should be no judgement on what type of person you are when it comes to sex, for truly, it matters not. The key is finding that person with whom you can share that which you desire. It is not about finding someone the same as you, but about finding the person that wants to be the balancing factor to you, the yin to your yang. If you are dominating, finding someone that wants to be dominated is giving them the gift of the person that they have always been looking for. You are giving them the same thing that they are giving you, the perfect fuck buddy.

It takes time and effort to find the perfect sex partner. When you first meet people you simply may not get on, if you do often you may not be attracted to each other. If you are attracted to each other you may not be sexually compatible, and if you are compatible are you really right for each other? Are you ready and willing to take each other to the depths of passion that you both deserve? It is rare that you find this in the first person that you sleep with, though it is entirely possible. Often you have to meet many people before you find the fuck buddy that really makes you want to come more than anyone you have met before. It is well worth the time and effort though, because once you have them, you will get to “have” them as much as your appetite demands, because they will want to be “had” just as much as you do.

It's not about how big you are, it's about finding the right fit

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 17:08:03 +0000

22 Jun 2018 - 18:08 | Tags: size does not matter, how to be the perfect fuck buddy, find sex in Australia

There is an ongoing lasting attitude in the west that big is better. When we go to restaurants we look at the portion size and judge the establishment based on that. When we go to clubs, the bigger the club the better it is deemed to be. The reason that people hire stretched limo’s for special occasions is all about the size – they are an unreasonably large car! The same application is made when we are judging people as a sexual partner, we still look to size.

With women, the size of their boobs is what is being judged, and for me it is their penis. In the case of both, the bigger the better… or so the general attitude goes. I am here to challenge this. In this article, I will argue that it is not about being a certain size objectively, but actually that this is a subjective test depending on who you are with. It is not about being big, it is about being the right fit, which means you can be too “small” but you can also be too “big” just as easily. We will discuss this with a focus on penis size.

If you have an unreasonably large dick, if you are extremely well hung, then yes women will sleep with you simply to experience this, as it is unusual. However, they may not stick around for more. The vagina is a pretty stretchable and elastic part of the body. It can stretch to accommodate almost any size… but this can be painful, and whilst the pain can be enjoyable in the moment, on a more regular basis this can get too much. It can cause the person to be unable to have sex regularly, as they need recovery time in between. Over time this can also lead to tearing, and that really does require healing time!

It is about finding the right fit. You want to be with someone that is the right size for you. As a woman, as long as the man is big enough to push into her, then this will be pretty much the same as if he was anything up to 25% bigger. She needs to feel the stretch, but she does not need to for it to be painfully damaging to her! Similarly the man needs a vagina that Is tight enough that he can really feel her gripping him whilst having sex, but it does not have to be much more than this. If it is tighter, then all that will happen is that she will stretch to accommodate him till, once again, it is the perfect fit.

Let go of this obsession with size. There may be times when it does make a difference, times when sexual compatibility is off because there is too large a gap between your physical features… but this is not as usual as you might think. We are designed to fit each other. Allow nature to take her course, she will handle everything for you.

How to not be jealous in relationships

EdBennett — Mon, 21 Mar 2016 19:25:15 +0000

21 Mar 2016 - 19:25 | Tags: how to be the perfect fuck buddy, basic tenets of casual sex

If you are here it is likely that you are looking for the life of abundance that you so rightly deserve. You have thrown of the shakles of “one man and one woman” and have realised that really it can be however you want it to be. If you want to be sleeping with several men or woman at the same time you can absolutely do that... and that can even be during the same week period, or literally at the same time! You can have it however you want, and the secret to this is simply finding like minded people who also want to be living the same level of abundance.

One of the key things that can sometimes mess this up for us sadly, is not any external factor, but is actually us. Ourselves. We can sometimes be our own worst enemy when it comes to leading the happy abundant lives that we wish to lead. The best person to sabotage our successes is not our worst enemy, but us. This can come in many forms, the one that I wish to focus on here is jealousy.

Jealousy is the great fun killer. It can and will destroy any and all joy that it finds if you give it the change to do so. It can rampage through your life and kill not only the moment, but destroy all future happiness as well by causing you to sabotage your own life. So how can we get over this, how can we not be jealous? The key thing here is understanding what causes jealousy.

The root cause of jealousy

Jealousy is a symptom of a fundamental root cause. Insecurity. If we are jealous of a woman talking to someone else, it is because we fear that they are going to leave us to sleep with the other person. It is fear that drives it. Here on f-buddy we take a more enlightened view of the world and openly accept that it is *okay* to sleep with different people without it being at all negative or bad. Again when jealousy rears its head about the person we are sleeping with going to someone else’s bed, what is it that is causing it? Our own fear or insecurity. What if the other person is better in bed than us, is more fun, more attractive...? Any of those things would be enough to cause us to fear a change in our own position or relationship with the person we are sleeping with.

So what can be done about it. The 1st step is to recognise that it is insecurity that is driving this, that is our own fear about something that is to do with ourselves. From there we can then address the real issue.

Remember, jealousy can only ruin your life, so deal with it. Fast.

How To Be The Perfect Fuck Buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 26 Apr 2015 10:08:59 +0000

26 Apr 2015 - 11:08 | Tags: fuck buddies, how to be the perfect fuck buddy, casual sex, sex

Having a fuck buddy can mean different things to different people. Some people define a fuck buddy as just someone to have sex with once in a while. Others define a buddy as someone to have sex with but to also occasionally hang out with and help out with household stuff. The problem people often have with choosing a fuck buddy is that their definitions often differ. Below is a quick guide on how to be the perfect f-buddy, ensuring that you get the best out of any situation.

1. The Approach – Be Direct and Honest
The good thing about F-Buddy is that you can message someone you like the look of without the worry of wondering if they’re interested in sex or not. This isn’t a typical dating site. People aren’t here to ‘go out with someone and see how it goes’. People are here to hook up and have sex. The first piece of advice is to be direct with the people you’re messaging. Too many mistakes and complications arise by people not being honest with one another.

2. Find Out Where Your Partner Stands
Leading on from the being honest advice, it is important to find out what your partner wants. Is it just sex, or do they want to hang out as well? Finding out these details are crucial before you start having sex. It will prevent either party from getting hurt further down the line.

3. Don’t be Aggressive
This might work in the bedroom, but it will definitely not work on the approach. You need to be respectful of your potential buddy. Why would they want to sleep with someone acting like a cock?

4. Tell people about yourself
Explain why you’re on the site. Give a little background as to what’s happened in your life, whether or not you’ve just come out of a relationship, or if you just fancy being single and care free for a while. If people judge you then they’re idiots and not the right f-buddy for you. Most of the time though, you find that other people have a similar background and like to talk about it.

5. Don’t give up
A lot of people just give up the first time they get a knockback. Can you imagine what would happen to the human race if we all did that all the time? We wouldn’t get anywhere at all. Don’t let a negative response or no response get you down.