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How to have angry sex, and why it is great

EdBennett — Sat, 10 Aug 2019 08:24:58 +0000

Sex is amazing. It comes in all sorts of different flavours. You can have fast sex and slow sex, soft sex and rough sex, sex where you make love to the other person and sex where you are just fucking their brains out. The best sex is also driven by emotion. Usually these emotions include a lot of lust mixed in with desire and some frustration (that you are seeking to release). The one type of sex that people rarely have is angry sex. Angry sex can be great, but it must be done in the right way. In this article, I am going to tell you why angry sex can be amazing and help you with some guidance on how to have angry sex.

Why angry sex can be amazing

Quite often the enjoyment of the sex that we have is based on the strength of emotion that we feel. If we really like the other person, if we are really turned on and driven by desire, that creates a strong emotion that then drives the sex. Interestingly though, the type of emotion is less important than we think it is. Conventional wisdom says that having sex with a fuck buddy that you love is going to be much better than having sex with a fuck buddy that you hate. In terms of the enjoyment of the sex itself, this is not entirely accurate. Strong emotion can bring out a strong experience, and so it is that angry sex can be a fantastic flavour of sex to experience! You have all that tension, stress and anger that can pour out of you and drive the sex forward to an explosive finish. You have the aftermath of relaxing having gotten it all out of your system. It can be amazing.

When never to have angry sex

If you genuinely do not like the person and are really angry with them, do not have sex with them. This can get out of hand fast and end badly for everyone. Just do not risk it.

How to have safe angry sex

The key is consent. The best thing to do is have the conversation about having angry sex when you are not angry with each other. In the calm and openness of being in a good mood, make some agreements about what you want and where the line is. Are you happy to be slapped in the face at the start? Do you need a safe word to put in just in case it gets out of hand (something I strongly suggest that everyone with a fuck buddy does in any event). Once you have an agreement in place, you are ready to go.

Have fun!

Emotion and sex

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Dec 2017 20:17:46 +0000

12 Dec 2017 - 20:17 | Tags: emotions and casual sex, how to get the best sex

There are many things that drive us to have sex, and many things that will alter the quality and the intensity of the sex. It is about so much more than the actual act of having sex. It is about what it is happening underneath all of that, all the elements that come together to form your sexual experience go so much further than that of just the physical aspects.

Emotion is motion

One of the biggest elements that lie underneath it all is your emotion. Emotion is fundamental to how we connect with people, how we see the world, how we interact with the other humans that cross out paths. It is our emotional connection to people that make us want to see them, spend time with them, fuck them. Emotion is at the core of all of this, and for the most part we cannot control this aspect.

We don’t choose

We do not get to choose how we feel about people, for the most part. We can alter it, we can choose how we express that, but we do not get to make a logical choice about it. We just feel a certain way. So what I am going to talk about here, is what we do about it. How we can use it.

When you feel an emotion about someone, ride it

If you are available, either because you are single or you are in a friends with benefits situation that leaves you open to meeting other people, then if you find a strong emotion about someone you need to use it. If you see someone that you are attracted to, that you see and you think you would really love to fuck, you need to go over there and hit on them. You might think that this sounds scary, but I can assure you, if you are riding a genuine emotion, then you will find that the emotion itself will help to drive you. The other person will find it super attractive, for there is nothing sexier than being wanted. If your emotion is real, they will know it.

Emotional sex is the best

If emotion is behind everything, it stands to reason that it is also underneath sex too. The more emotional you are, the more you will “feel” when you are having sex. High emotions will cause a deeper experience, and a more connected sexual experience. So if the emotion is there, whether it is you or them, ride it (or ride them, or have them ride you etc!).

Heart to heart – an exercise to form connection

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Sep 2017 18:35:05 +0000

12 Sep 2017 - 19:35 | Tags: emotions and casual sex, forming connection, deeper sex

Welcome to the fuck buddy sex advice section. Here we usually give you top tips, advice, and guidance to make sure that you are having the very best sex of your life. Your time only comes once, so if you are going to be sleeping with someone, we want to make sure that both of you are having the fucking best time of your life! Out main system here is designed to help you find that fuck buddy, no point being good at sex unless you have someone that you can hook up with, right? Once that is done however, these articles are here to make sure that you have extra tricks up your sleeve for when you get back to the bedroom.

Usually our articles are about physical things that you can do in the bedroom. We also have talked about thinking guidance, and try to encourage our readers to have a healthy mindset when it comes to sex. This article I want to share something, an exercise that is a little more about connection. We don’t usually talk about this, however more recently I have come to believe that this can have a really big impact on your sex life, and take you to another level.

Connection and sex

Whether we like it or not, having sex with someone starts to form a connection. When we sleep with someone regularly, we begin to grow into their character as they also grow into ours. For some people it happens the first time, for others it take a lot of sex before this starts, but eventually it happens. Increasing this connection increases intimacy, and that feeling of intimacy I think is one that can increase the depth that sex takes us to, and enhance how much we are able to loose ourselves in each other for that time period.

The heart to heart exercise

Try this exercise. Put your hand on their heart, and get them to put their hand on your heart. Then lie together and listen till your hearts synchronise and start to beat together as one. Then have sex. If you want to push this further, your heart rate will shoot up when you start to have sex, if you can stay tuned into each other during this, you will find an orgasm level that is different to one you have experienced before.

If you have a fuck buddy you have been with for a while, try this out.

Casual Sex: How to protect your feelings

EdBennett — Mon, 13 Apr 2015 10:13:57 +0000

13 Apr 2015 - 11:13 | Tags: casual sex rules, emotions and casual sex, casual sex, fuck buddies

Despite what millions of porn videos and films would have us believe, it is not that simple to distance emotion from sex. We’re all human beings and as human beings, we feel things. It only takes one little negative reply or text to get even the most jaded cynical person in the world crying into their hanky like a little boy. We bolster ourselves up and convince ourselves that we will never become the person who gets hurt in a casual hook up or romance. Yet we almost always do. The rare exceptions are those people completely incapable of opening themselves up to feeling. They try to purge their emotions but in so doing only end up hurting themselves. It doesn’t have to be like that though. Here are a few clever ways you can protect your feelings and still enjoy casual sex.

1. Go With the Flow
If you hook up with someone, have sex with them and find you liked them enough to do it again, do it. Let yourself be swept up into the excitement of having sex with a new person. Don’t run away from it if they want to see you again and if you want to see them again. Just see how it goes. Casual sex comes with an expiration date one way or the other so try not to worry about it.

2. Don’t over-think your texts
The worst thing people do in casual sex is to over think what they write in a text message. Instead of spending hours wondering how to let a fuck buddy you want to see them again, just tell them. If they don’t they won’t. If they like you they will. Just go with it.

3. Consider if Casual Sex is for you
We’d be stupid to say that casual sex is for everyone. Some people enjoy it, some people don’t. The trick is in knowing which person you are and the only way to find that out is to experiment with it. Have some casual sex and see how you feel. If you find you enjoy it, then by all means continue to enjoy it. If you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it again.

4. Be Clear and Honest with your partners
The big mistake most people engaging in casual sex make is not being honest with their partners about what they want and how they feel. It’s unfair not to let someone you’re having sex with know how you’re feeling. Be honest from the outset. You can hurt yourself and your fuck buddies if you aren’t.

5. Watch the Regularity
This seems a counterintuitive remark considering we encouraged you to go with the flow, but it’s important not to become too accustomed to sex with the same person in casual relationships. The whole point of casual sex is that it’s casual. Hooking up once every couple of weeks is fine, but the more regular the hook up, the more chance one or both of you have of getting attached becomes. Humans are natural bonding creatures. That’s not a bad thing. But if you’re looking just for casual sex, you really don’t want to be sleeping with the same person on a very regular basis.