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Fuck buddies and self-esteem

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 22:51:15 +0000

29 Jul 2021 - 23:51 | Tags: bedroom confidence, the game, improving your sex life

Having a high sense of self-esteem has proven to be something that is key not just to happiness, but to our success in the world that we live in. People with high self-esteem get better jobs, earn more money, and are able to pursue the things that are going to make them happy (which leaves them happier). They are able to do this because they have a higher sense of belief in themselves and their ability. Often it is not because they think that they are any better at something, they just think that everyone can do it including them. This is not about having a big ego, I am not saying that overweening pride is a good thing (because it really is not at all), I am saying that having a good sense of self-esteem is important to living the life you want to lead. So how can you increase your self-esteem?

What everyone tells you that works, that has limited use

There are a lot of books, guides and people that tell you one way to increase your self-esteem is to just tell yourself that you are better. An example is being told to stare in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are a strong, independent person with love, life and value to offer the world and that the world loves you. Now, I am not saying that this does not have some positive effect, because it does. Mantras or repeating positive things about yourself to yourself can help you trick yourself into believing them. What I am saying is that it is a tick, you know it is a trick, and therefore it is quite hard to make it stick. Doing this has some beneficial effect, but that effect is limited. You have to do a lot to make headway. There is a more effective way.

External validation

As much as being internally validated is the ideal state to be in, the easiest way to get there is to be externally validated first. If you have people around you telling you that you are great, that is so much easier to believe that you doing it to yourself. You know that when you tell yourself, you are trying to fake it till you make it, but when someone else tells you, then you can take that at face value. So how do you get someone to do it in the most effective way? Sex of course.

Get a fuck buddy to help you build your self-esteem.

When you fuck someone hard, and I mean really pleasure them, they are in a state that is created by you. Their compliments, pleasure and joy in you is real and irrefutable. So if you want to build your esteem, consider getting a fuck buddy, showing them a good time, then making sure you bed in that their happiness was caused by you. You were the centre of their universe for those moments, and you have real value in the world. This is a fast track. Once it is bedded in, you internalise it and you are then internally validated for life.

Go get ‘em tiger!

Confidence in dating – remember that you are awesome

EdBennett — Mon, 28 Mar 2016 12:36:51 +0000

28 Mar 2016 - 13:36 | Tags: bedroom confidence, dating and sex in Ireland

People talk often about the importance of being confident in the dating market place - and they are right to do so. There is nothing more attractive than being super confident, whether you are a man or a woman. If you walk through the world with ease, not a care in the world, fearlessly approaching whatever life hands you. Well. Damn that is hot. I mean super hot! People like to have fearless fuck buddies particularly; it leaves them confident in their ability to share the things that they are really into. To tell you about their fantasies and their sexual desires, and even then go on to fulfil them. You just don’t do this with someone who is less confident. So how can we grow this sexual confidence?

Telling yourself to just be more confident doesn't work

Confidence is bullshit in this sense. Simply telling yourself to be more confident does not work, and certainly having someone else turn to you and say “be more confident” only breeds anger! It is so annoying when people do this, right? So what *can* you do? The key is to remind yourself why you should be confident – with facts. Let’s look at this.

You know you can cross the road

You already know you can cross the road without dying. You have done it thousands of times, so when you do it, you do it with unconscious confidence. Great, right? So how did you get here? Well the first few times you did it nervously. Then at some point you started thinking “well I did it last time and survived, so I think I can do it this time and survive”. This is the key moment. Later you pushed through to knowing 100% that you can do it, but let’s zoom in on this moment. There was this point when you started to “fake it till you made it” – but with fact behind you.

How this translates to other areas

You need to be in this moment if you are unconfident about something. Instead of just telling yourself to be more confident, give yourself a fact to ride and aim for this middle ground of fake till you make it. When were you in a similar situation and it was all alright? When did you do something in a similar place, with similar people, or even just at a similar event and it all went well? If you can tap into this, remind yourself of it, then do whatever you are planning on doing, you will be able to do it with more confidence. You don’t have to be overflowing with confidence, just push it up a little... because then when it goes alright, then this becomes your next referencing point for why you can be confident.

Compound confidence

The whole thing is like compound interest. The more you do it the more confident you get and the more easily it will come. So get out there and start making evidence for yourself as to why you should be confident. Small steps to begin with is good. It will build. Trust me.

Boost your Bedroom Confidence

EdBennett — Sat, 21 Mar 2015 11:28:28 +0000

21 Mar 2015 - 11:28 | Tags: bedroom confidence, how to get the best sex

If you’ve ever worried about performing when you first have sex with someone new, this post is for you. There are simple ways to improve your confidence when it comes to having sex. All you have to do is try them out and see how it goes. The best way to start is by trying. If you don’t try you don’t learn. Take on board what we say and you’ll soon be sleeping next to the fuck buddy of your dreams satisfied that you have given them a night to remember.

Tips for success in bed
1. Watch some porn
Music to a guy’s ears right? Partly. Porn helps us indulge in sexual fantasy and primes us for sexual activity. You have to be careful not to let your porn habit go to your head – whacking off a dozen times a day is not necessarily healthy. But the casual and regular use of porn can go a long way to activating your libido in the bedroom.

2. Get to know your body
One of the best ways for someone else to know what you like in bed is for you to know what you like in bed. The best way to do this is to practice by yourself before you sleep with someone else. Knowing what you want and what you like is a great way to boost your confidence when asking a partner what you want them to do.

3. Dress to impress yourself
Even if this means wearing underwear you know you look good in even if no one else does, the feeling of specialness it creates will get you psyched up for sex faster than anything else. Don’t dress to impress someone else; dress to impress yourself. You’ll feel all the better for it sexually.

4. Big yourself up
We are our own worst enemy sometimes. Constant fears run through our heads like unwanted ants questioning our ability and skill. The best way to boost your confidence in this area is to talk yourself up. Do it in front of a mirror or to an empty room. Make yourself feel good by reminding yourself of how awesome you are.

5. Focus more on your pleasure
Stop worrying about what your fuck buddy is thinking; worry about your own pleasure. They’re more likely to have a good time if you’re having a good time.