Porn – why not make your own?

EdBennett — Thu, 31 Dec 2015 09:34:01 +0000

31 Dec 2015 - 09:34 | Tags: porn in casual sex, adult fun, fun sex

You have watched porn. I can say this with some certainty not because I have magical powers and have written this just for you – but because you are a human! If you are alive and have access to the internet, you are highly likely to have watched porn.

You probably look at porn still now – and I would guess that you looked at something pornographic on the internet as close as this week. Again this is based on the high likelihood that this is true because you are human.

I want to say right now – I do not think that there is anything intrinsically bad with porn at all. There are a couple of dangers as with anything – too much porn can desensitise you to what you are looking at and cause you to have trouble coming. If you watch a lot of porn it can start to screw with your viewpoint of the world and how sex should be to the point of driving it to unrealistic expectations. This is not a good place to end up as it will reduce the amount of good sex you will have. In of it self though porn is just that – it is porn. So I have a suggestion to make, if you are going to watch porn – why not make your own?

A few years ago this suggestion would likely have been met with a list of reasons as to why it was simply not possible for practical reasons, and they would have been legitimate problems with logistics. They simple are not the case anymore. You no longer need access to expensive video or camera equipment – you can just use your phone. You no longer need a huge editing suit in order to compile the footage, you can use a number of online editing websites – even YouTube allows you to upload then edit videos online. You have everything you need to make one already in your hands.

So why do it?

If you are going to look at porn and get turned on by it – why not actually be in it? If you are watching a stranger and masturbating that’s fine. But if you can masturbate to your actual sex partner, then that is actually going to compound and make sex with that partner even better! By coming to images of your sex partner and yourself, you are reinforcing that you can have amazing orgasmic sex with that person and as yourself! It is perfect.

Bonus: It is fun making it

And remember, in order to have made a porn film, you have to have had sex with the person you are making it with. Probably several time. Possibly across several different “shoot days”.
Make your own porno – it will be fun and watching the results can improve your sex life!

Sleeping Around: A Healthy Guide

EdBennett — Sun, 15 Mar 2015 11:14:29 +0000

15 Mar 2015 - 11:14 | Tags: sleeping around healthily, safe sex, fun sex

Sex can be amazing! Like a drug though, it can also be used to try and blot out problems in your life. Some people sleep around because they genuinely enjoy the casual aspect sex can bring. Other people sleep around because they think it will make people like them more. Sex will not make people like you any more or less. Only you can make yourself feel good. No one else can.

The Healthy Way to Have Sex
Sleeping with someone because you think it will make them like you more is not a good reason to have sex. Sleeping with someone because you know it make you feel good, is a good reason to have sex. The trick is in knowing your own mind and what makes you feel good in a positive healthy way. Some tips to check your mental status before shagging around are below:

1. Are you comfortable?
Basically are you feeling good about yourself? Are you content with who you are at the moment? If you’re not feeling great about yourself then sex with a random buddy is probably not going to help you feel much better.

2. Are you a virgin?
If you’re a virgin and are just looking to have sex to see what it feels like and get it out of the way, then you need to go look elsewhere. Casual sex is probably not the best starting place to pop your cherry.

3. Are you horny?
Sounds obvious, but if you’re not feeling even remotely horny you shouldn’t be trying to have sex until you do.

4. Do you fancy the person you’re considering having sex with?
Again obvious, but you’d be surprised by the amount of people who don’t fancy the partner they sleep with. Come on people! If you don’t even fancy your lover than what the fuck is the point?!

5. Do you have repressed feelings of guilt?
If you’ve been raised to feel that sex is a ‘dirty thing’ that shouldn’t be practised outside of marriage, stop whatever you’re about to do right now! Sex should be fun. Repeat: SEX SHOULD BE FUN! If you’re harbouring religious guilt or familial guilt, then you need to get over that first before jumping into bed with the first person that comes along.

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Porn – why not make your own?

Sleeping Around: A Healthy Guide