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Why the male pill would be great for male fuck buddies

EdBennett — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 23:07:49 +0000

25 Aug 2022 - 00:07 | Tags: contraception, fuck buddy safety, safe sex in casual relationships

When engaging with a fuck buddy, you are looking for a no strings attached relationship. One of the cornerstones of the adult dating world is that things are casual, relaxed with none of the super serious stuff that arises in a standard relationship. This means that when you have a friend with benefits, it is exactly that. Not a girlfriend, not a boyfriend, a friend with benefits remains a “friend” in terms of the expectations and potential longevity of the connection and relationship. The one thing that no one wants, is a pregnancy. Many women are on the pill and this deals with the issue, but I think that there is a strong argument for the male “pill” being pushed out, and this is why.

The current contraceptive options for a man

Whilst a woman cannot escape a pregnancy as it is her body that is growing the unborn child, in the modern world a man is still tied financially (if not emotionally and ethically) to a child that he has caused to come into the world. Under new laws, people who anonymously donated sperm now can be tracked down by their genetic children. So as a man, you also have a lot to lose if an unwanted pregnancy occurs. The current options are:

Condoms
A Vasectomy

A vasectomy is a permanent option and should not be taken lightly as the reversal is not guaranteed. If you are sure you never want kids then this is fine, but this is not a good day-to-day solution for most men. Condoms are a wonderful solution. They are mostly guaranteed, give both parties clarity as you both know it is in use, and can also protect you from STDs and diseases should there be one present. A condom can really give confidence, this is good. If you want full skin to skin contact though this can be a problem

The issue for men with a girl taking the pill

It comes down to being in control of the process. Can you be sure she has taken it? What if she forgot that day, or there was some issue with it? As a man you want to be sure that contraception is in play.

The male pill allows men to take responsibility

If the male pill was released, a man could take full responsibility for ensuring long term contraception is in play. He could always be sure that it is there because he is the one taking the pill. A woman can also do the same because there is nothing wrong with the woman also being on the pill. A release of this would be a game changer in the field of contraception.

How to not get pregnant when with a fuck buddy (for women)

EdBennett — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 23:40:52 +0000

30 Jun 2022 - 00:40 | Tags: safe sex in casual relationships, safe sex important

Being someone’s fuck buddy is the best. You get to have sex whenever you want it, you get to be the person that they call on whenever they want to have sex so you feel wanted, oh and lastly, did I mention the sex?! Having a no strings attached relationship really is great, but the one thing you don’t want are any surprise stings appearing. One of the most difficult ones is if you get pregnant. That would be bad, very, very bad. So, to help with that, here are the steps you can take to ensure that you never get pregnant accidentally.

Take the pill

Taking the pill is a great way to ensure that you do not get pregnant. It can have additional benefits such as helping to regulate your periods. You can be on the pill long-term, so you can take it for years and years and that not be a problem at all for you or your body. This makes it a really great solution, particularly since there are so very few side effects to using it. As the woman, you take it, you are in control, you know you are safe.

What happens if you forget to take the pill

If you forget to take it the most important thing to do is to not ignore this. Make sure that you go and get the “morning-after pill” to ensure that you do not get pregnant. Unlike the name, this can actually be taken up to 72 hours after you have had unprotected sex, so there is time to go and fix the issue before it becomes an issue.

What if I am taking other medication?

Taking other medication can interfere with the pill, which could result in an unwanted surprise for you and your fuck buddy down the line! If you are on medication the best thing to do is to check and be sure. If it interferes, do not rely on the pill during that time.

Use a condom

Using a condom is one of the best protective measures you can take. As well as pregnancy, it also stops the spread of STIs so it is a really good thing to use with a fuck buddy. It can be used instead of the pill if you have other medication that stops its effectiveness, but it can also be used with the pill for double protection.

So those are 2 great ways to make sure that you don’t get pregnant. Have fun!

Why use a condom with your fuck buddy. Two compelling reasons

EdBennett — Thu, 26 Aug 2021 21:19:54 +0000

26 Aug 2021 - 22:19 | Tags: condom effectiveness, condoms, safe sex in casual relationships

When it comes to having sex, there are many people that prefer to not use a condom. For the most part the preference is on the male side, so this article is aimed at men, but I want to note that there are also many women who also prefer to have sex without a condom. I have certainly spoken to at least one woman who claimed that they couldn’t come if the man was using a condom. Whether that was a physical restriction based on sensation, or a mental block caused by their belief that they could not orgasm when a condom was being used I am not sure. Either way, she was very keen on anyone that she hooked up with to be without a condom when they had sex. As a result she had to take other preventative measures, mostly testing for STDs beforehand, which meant she rarely had sex with a fuck buddy on the first night. It also meant that her friends with benefits relationships tended to last for a long time since the effort to first test and check meant that she couldn’t easily swap men in and out of her bed, so there was a balance there. So that was her. From a male point of view, why should you choose to use a condom with your fuck buddy even if they would rather you didn’t?

Reason 1: STDs

This is the most compelling reason. A condom assures that you will not pick up anything untoward. Nothing will kill your sex life faster than having to say to someone you are about to sleep with that you have caught “xxx” and need to use a condom. It is just bad! Some STDs also have long term effects (the HIV virus being the main one) and even the more malign ones require embarrassing treatment and appropriate disclosure to the people you are sleeping with at the point that you catch it. The easy way to avoid all of this? Use a condom.

Reason 2: pregnancy

Have you ever had a pregnancy scare? Have you ever had sex with someone and then afterwards there been the suggestion that they might be pregnant? That could have been a late period or a miscommunication, but if you have you understand the issues that can cause. Getting someone pregnant is messy. Worse, if you decide that you do not want the child, but the other party does, you have no control over that but remain legally liable for the child! You are compelled, by law, to provide a certain amount of financial support for that child. A condom gives you the certainty that this will not occur. Even if the woman says that they are using some other kind of contraception, can you be sure of their honesty in this? Men have been caught out by this in the past, don’t let it be you!

So, when you first start sleeping with someone, I strongly suggest you use a condom regardless of how the other party feels about it. Do it for you, for your protection. That way you can walk away at any time knowing that nothing is going to come back and haunt you from what was intended to just be a night of fun for both parties.

Safe words – the what, why and how.

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Aug 2016 20:27:26 +0000

20 Aug 2016 - 21:27 | Tags: fuck buddy safety, safe words, safe sex in casual relationships

You have all had sex in a standard, what many people call “vanilla”, way. You have all done the missionary position. You have all had a range of good to bad sex. If you want to do anything further than this, implementing the use of a safe word can be massively helpful for both you and your partner. To cover this, here are is the what, why and how of how to use safe words.

What is a safe word

Put simply, a safe word is a way of saying “stop”. It is a way to turn off the sex tap, pause the sex tape, pull the ejector seat from the sex plane that you are currently riding all the way to orgasm island. So if you safe word is “timeout” for example, when someone says it, everything stops immediately without question or hesitation.

Why do you need a safe word, they can just say “stop” or “no” can’t they?

Well not always. Depending on the type of sex play that you are doing, the other person may want to (for fun) put up a bit of a struggle. For example you may be play fighting a bit and they may be pushing you away. Usually you would take this as a sign to stop immediately, but you are playing so you know that they are just pushing you as part of this... how do you know this? What if it becomes a real push away – how have you any hope of checking this? Well the answer lies in the safe word. If for them it becomes serious, if they really do want you away or to stop, they can just say the safe word and everything stops. The great thing about this for you is that this also means *you* also don’t have to worry about it. If they haven’t said the safe word, then you are good to keep going and enjoy yourself, and you can do so without fear of mis interpreting anything. Great for both of you – right?

How to implement one

So the last part is choosing your safe word. The key is to pick an easy word to say, but one that is never used naturally during sex. Some people go for something random like “banana” or “star trek”. It doesn’t matter what you use, as long as it is something that you would never use otherwise. I personal would advise something that has a similar meaning, I often recommend the use of the word “timeout” to beginners as it also means what it says – but no one ever uses it day to day. You should choose your safe word together between you, it should be short and easy to say, and you both need to be happy with the choice.

So thats how safe words work. So go out and have some fun – knowing that you will have consent the whole time without fear!

Safe Sex in Casual Relationships

EdBennett — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 11:01:30 +0000

3 Mar 2015 - 11:01 | Tags: safe sex, safe sex in casual relationships, sex

We’ve talked about this a lot, but the latest stats show that more than 1 in 3 people have unprotected sex with a new partner. We’re not here to judge anyone for their choices, but we would like to advise our members on the best ways to enjoy sex with a new partner for the first time.

1. Use a Condom
You can get ultra light and thin condoms now. They’re so good now that couples have trouble telling the difference between using a condom and not using one. Google the net to find a brand that’s good for you. There are hundreds to choose from. When you’re having sex with someone for the first time, you simply don’t know who else they’ve had sex with. They might be 100% genuine in what they say, but it’s safer and more trustworthy when a new partner actually insists on using a condom the first few times.

2. Keep your feet on the ground
It’s easy to get whisked away in the physicality of sex with someone new. You’re turned on, they’re turned on. Try and remember your brain before having sex. It will stop you from making any mistakes.

3. Don’t trust anyone if you find out they’ve lied on their profile
If someone has lied about anything on their profile – and we mean ANYTHING – do not trust them when they tell you about their sexual background. If they’ve lied about their height, age or situation, who’s to say they haven’t lied about something else?

4. Report anyone who harasses you on the site
We want all our members to be safe, so please report anyone who harasses you with unwanted messages, texts etc. Use your judgment and don’t ever think you’re being paranoid.

5. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with
S&M and Kink can be fun, but don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with. Communicate clearly with your partner what you will and will not do in and out of the bedroom.

Safe sex isn’t just about using condoms and contraceptives; it’s about feeling comfortable and being safe in all your sexual experiences. If anyone violates your trust, drop them like lead. You’re here to have fun, not experience unwanted drama.