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Don’t be Afraid of Your Fetish

EdBennett — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 09:24:58 +0000

17 Jul 2020 - 10:24 | Tags: fetish, kink, casual sex

Are you:
- Turned on by pregnant women?
- Aroused by feet?
- Constantly thinking about how you would tie up your partner and spank them until they scream?

If one of these fetishes sounds like you, call 0800 - … just kidding. If one of these fetishes sounds like you, don’t worry. Everyone has a kink whether they’ve discovered it or not. It might be as simple as enjoying sex more by an open fire. It might be as complicated as licking someone’s feet from under their desk whilst masturbating. Whatever your fetish may be, we’re here to help and to tell you that you shouldn’t be afraid. You are not alone. The trick is learning how to safely explore your fetish without it affecting the rest of your life.

How to explore your fetish safely

Talk to your partner
It sounds so simple when put like this, but you really do need to talk to your partner about what it is you want to do. If you don’t then you’re going to get frustrated and they’re going to be confused with your demeanour. It’s not fair on either party. Here are several ways you can approach it depending on your social status.

1. The Direct Approach
If you’re not good at working your way up to things and are a more ‘take it or leave it’ kind of person, then you should start with this approach. It will make you feel more comfortable in talking about your kink and this will translate into your body language. You will also come off as less passive-aggressive. It will also determine sooner rather than later as to whether or not your partner is on board.

2. Working your way up
A bit like extended foreplay this; working your way up to talking about it only works if you’re not a very direct person. Don’t wait too long to tell your partner as they may have already formed a completely different opinion of your sexuality. Be candid and honest and answer any questions they have to the best of your ability.

3. Passive-Aggressive
I do not recommend this at all, but it needs to be mentioned as some people don’t know how else to operate. If you can’t discuss your kink by either of the other two methods then you will most likely use the ‘if you really like me’ approach with your partner. Again I do not recommend it, but people are different and we must cater to all tastes. You’re much better off using either the direct or indirect approach.

New to kink? A beginners way into tying someone up in the bedroom

EdBennett — Tue, 09 Aug 2016 16:15:03 +0000

9 Aug 2016 - 17:15 | Tags: kink, kinky sex, play in the bedroom

So you have decided you want to spice things up in the bedroom by getting your kink on and getting the rope out. This could be for a number of reasons, maybe you are in a long term relationship and you want to mix things up a little – something I highly recommend! Perhaps you have always wanted to try it and want a little guidance as to how to start, maybe you just want something different or perhaps you have a new fuck buddy that has a particular love of being bound and restrained in the bedroom and so you are stepping up in order to be able to fool around with them. Regardless of the reasons, if you are new to it, here are some good guidance on how to get going with some rope related fun in the bedroom.

Keep it Simple

The first rule is keep is simple. You have probably seen some outrageous pictures on the internet of complicated ropes and knots, of hot women bound to elaborate pieces of equipment or suspended from the ceiling. Whilst all of that looks great – it is done more to be seen than to be experienced. You have no audience watch you, just the two of you, so there is no need to get super elaborate or over the top in terms of making it complex. Keep it really simple to start with.

Understand what is sexy

If you can understand the fundamental of what is sexy about it – then you can really understand why you can have an unforgettable fuck using just one piece of rope.

You want her Bad

What is amazing for the girl is that you want her so much, that you are taking her. You are not giving her a choice; you are removing her ability to move, then fucking her hard. Now this is of course a play – it is really important that you check first that the girl is on board, and if she says stop or uses her safe word then everything stops immediately. The message you are sending is that you wanty her bad – and what girl doesn’t want to be wanted?

You are taking all responsibility

Once she is tied, there is nothing she can do, so she effectively relinquishes all responsibility to you. This does put pressure on you to take charge fully, it also gives her the chance to sit back and just enjoy what ever is happening. The removal of responsibility as to what is happening is a huge turn on, and can allow girls who have trouble coming to come quickly and easily.

Remember – it doesn’t have to be rope

It doesn’t have to be as formal and orchestrated as rope. You can use the arms of a jumper, the strap of a bag that is lying around, your tie after a long day at work is a great option! There is always something lying around that you can reach for – and this means you can do it spontaneously. This spontaneity in of itself is sexy and fun, and brings with it a hotness that both of you will enjoy.

So keep it simple, remember that all you have to do is allow her to drop her responsibility and feel how much you want her, and just use one of two things that are already lying around.

Enjoy – you are going to have a good time. Trust me, I am speaking from experience.

Top 5 Weirdest things people ask for during sex

EdBennett — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 09:00:11 +0000

8 Aug 2015 - 10:00 | Tags: kink, BDSM, fantasy, sex fantasy, casual sex issues

Everyone has a kink. Whether they want to admit it or not, kinks are part of who we are. We might not even know that we have a kink until someone does something that exposes us to it. But some kinks are so odd, that many partners sometimes wonder “What the fuck?!” in their heads, even if they just nod and smile to their buddy. Kinks are perfectly normal so don’t get too worried if you think you shouldn’t explore yours. However, there are some things that people ask for during sex that are just plain weird.

1. Suck my toes whilst fucking me

Some people have a foot fetish. Having their feet tickled, licked and played with turns them on. However doing all of this whilst having sex can be quite hard and distracting.

2. Watching cartoons during sex

Not porn cartoons – which are becoming increasingly popular – normal everyday cartoons. The sort that kids watch on a Saturday morning. That’s. Just. Weird.

3. Him pretending to be Bambi during sex

Okay, I kind of get the whole dressing up as a cartoon character thing, but a guy pretending to be Bambi and actually dressing up like the Disney cartoon? Yeah…that’s just a bit too weird for my tastes!

4. Rape fantasies

I don’t care how much anyone says people have this fantasy – it’s fucked up and plain wrong! Anyone who actually fantasises about getting raped needs to go and see a counsellor and get professional help. It’s not healthy.

5. Being fucked by vegetables

People will put anything in any orifice. It’s like a hang up from being a baby or something where kids would put anything in their mouth. It gets weird though when women want to shove radishes and marrows up their pussy whilst men enjoy having a carrot shoved up their butt. Not cool. Just weird.

6. Donkey Punch

Not only is this really dangerous, it’s a bit weird. Punching someone in the back of the head whilst fucking them from behind in order to get off, says something about your personality. It’s not something I want to know about.

Do we all have a kink?

EdBennett — Thu, 25 Jun 2015 16:12:26 +0000

25 Jun 2015 - 17:12 | Tags: kink, kinky sex, casual sex, fetish

It’s the question that a lot of people want to ask, but hardly anyone tries to answer; do I have a kink? There are many reasons you never get an answer. You’re too embarrassed to think about it, you think you’re the only person in the world who feels the way you do…etc etc. Hopefully you’re smart enough to know that you are not alone at all. Everyone has different sexual preferences and many people have what we call ‘kinks’. First of all it’s worth clarifying what we mean by ‘kink’. Basically having a kink is having a sexual fetish of some sort. Basically it encompasses anything that is unconventional about sex (since when is sex so conventional anyway?). This could be anything from being blindfolded to wanting to lick cream off your partner’s feet. Kinks are wide and varied.

Do I have a kink?
Only you can answer that question. Just because you enjoy sex in different places and positions doesn’t mean you have a kink. That said, just because you enjoy being blindfolded and tied to the bed doesn’t mean you necessarily have a kink – so many people use blindfolds and ropes now that it can be argued it has become conventional. If you like dressing up and role playing whilst having your sex partner spank you with a paddle, you might have a kink.

Is it bad if I don’t have a kink?
No. Just because kinky sex is all the rage at the moment doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. You can still just enjoy sex for sex. You don’t have to find a whip, chains or anything else in order to enjoy sex. In fact you’ll find practitioners of kink will be jealous of your ability to just enjoy sex for sex’s sake. They might hide it behind a veneer of sympathy and arrogance, but they will admit that they miss the rush of just being able to have sex without the need to dress up, spank or tie up.

Do we all have a kink?
Well like we said at the start, only you can answer that one. If you do have a kink, great! If you don’t that’s great too!

Why Fifty Shades is Bad for Bondage

EdBennett — Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:10:00 +0000

17 Feb 2015 - 11:10 | Tags: BDSM, Fifty Shades bad, fetish, kink

The release of the hotly anticipated movie of the badly written book about bondage is here! In it you’ll find:

• Unrealistic depictions of BDSM!
• A plot line that tries to make women think it’s okay for a guy to hurt them as long as they’ve signed a consent form
• Lessons teaching young women that men will run away unless you let them hurt you

What. The. Fuck?!

Awful
Yep. Fifty Shades (I read it!) really does contain all the material I mention above and more! Experience awful dialogue! Repetition of the same words and phrases again and again and again…and again! What’s really disturbing though is that the film will make a colossal amount of money despite sensible people knowing that it’s shit and does not portray BDSM in a realistic way at all.

BDSM
Any practitioner of BDSM will laugh and shake their head at Fifty Shades of Grey. Not only do the sex scenes illustrate a woman clearly not comfortable with the situation (author note: subs give permission and a dominant is not allowed to practice if the sub ever says ‘NO’), but they portray BDSM as a very stilted tired sex act.

It manages to:

• Portray Christian Grey as ‘sick’ because he likes BDSM
• Shows Grey is actually a light weight when it comes to BDSM
• Ignores the fact that most practitioners of BDSM don’t use cable ties because they’re dangerous. Soft ropes are preferred.

If we could recall every copy of Fifty Shades of Grey and sit down with the author and teach her what BDSM is actually about and that people who practise it aren’t ‘sick’ or ‘psychologically twisted’ then the book might actually be worth reading and the film watching.

Sad Truth
Unfortunately many women have already read the book and seen the film and no doubt many more will. But if you are interested in going to see the film, please bear in mind that it is not an accurate or realistic depiction of BDSM or the people who practise it in any way shape or form. The characters in the story are about as interesting as two planks of wood and if you’re looking to learn more about BDSM, you’d be better off finding a fuck buddy on the site here who actually practices it safely and sexily. Unlike Fifty Shades of Grey.