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Forget her - focus on yourself if there is a sex reduction

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Mar 2016 20:14:51 +0000

12 Mar 2016 - 20:14 | Tags: sex tips, casual sex issues

This is one for the guys. Let’s take it as read for a moment that you have a good fuck buddy that you like and are really enjoying spending time with – whether that is purely night time or a mix of day and night activities. Things are all good, mostly. There are always problems that crop up, and they sometimes come from her. When this happens the instinct is to try and fix the problem. As it feels like the problem has come from her, your instinct is to look to try and solve her issues for her, to fix the thing that is bothering her. In some cases you may even take the approach of trying to fix her! That last one is a particularly bad approach... but there is another way altogether in all of these cases, and that is to look to you.

If someone else is unhappy, we spend out time focusing on fixing their happiness. Oft times the best thing we can do is look to ourselves and our own self improvement. Doing this will often solve not just the immediate issue, but also a bunch of other ones that otherwise would have reared their heads a little down the road. Allow me to give you an example:

Her sex drive seems to be going down:

I have seen this one many a time. The guy says that her sex drive seems to be going down, that she wants it less and less and that this change means that he isn’t getting any. The instinct is to look to her to see what has changed for her. You know already this has nothing to do with you right? I mean you haven’t changed at all, and you certainly want sex as much as ever. Wrong. Regardless of where it is coming from, the best approach 9/10 is to look to yourself. Do a few things to make your life better and make yourself more attractive. Start working out to make yourself feel healthier. Go join a class or learn something new that you have always wanted to do. It is important that this is something that you genuinely want to do, you can’t fake this. Once you do this you will find yourself feeling better about your life. You will have new people entering your existence, new conversations open with other people, and new skills enter your life. All this is done by doing something you enjoy doing... and suddenly she will start looking at you anew, and your sex life will magically come back!

See what you have done there is taken steps to make yourself happier. She is unhappy, but rather than look to her, by making your life better and happier you automatically drag her up with you! The best part is that this is not a chore! This is not effort, as you do it by looking to things that you would want to do anyway!

So bear it in mind. Look to yourself first and her second especially if it is to do with her attractiveness to you.

Top 5 Weirdest things people ask for during sex

EdBennett — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 09:00:11 +0000

8 Aug 2015 - 10:00 | Tags: kink, BDSM, fantasy, sex fantasy, casual sex issues

Everyone has a kink. Whether they want to admit it or not, kinks are part of who we are. We might not even know that we have a kink until someone does something that exposes us to it. But some kinks are so odd, that many partners sometimes wonder “What the fuck?!” in their heads, even if they just nod and smile to their buddy. Kinks are perfectly normal so don’t get too worried if you think you shouldn’t explore yours. However, there are some things that people ask for during sex that are just plain weird.

1. Suck my toes whilst fucking me

Some people have a foot fetish. Having their feet tickled, licked and played with turns them on. However doing all of this whilst having sex can be quite hard and distracting.

2. Watching cartoons during sex

Not porn cartoons – which are becoming increasingly popular – normal everyday cartoons. The sort that kids watch on a Saturday morning. That’s. Just. Weird.

3. Him pretending to be Bambi during sex

Okay, I kind of get the whole dressing up as a cartoon character thing, but a guy pretending to be Bambi and actually dressing up like the Disney cartoon? Yeah…that’s just a bit too weird for my tastes!

4. Rape fantasies

I don’t care how much anyone says people have this fantasy – it’s fucked up and plain wrong! Anyone who actually fantasises about getting raped needs to go and see a counsellor and get professional help. It’s not healthy.

5. Being fucked by vegetables

People will put anything in any orifice. It’s like a hang up from being a baby or something where kids would put anything in their mouth. It gets weird though when women want to shove radishes and marrows up their pussy whilst men enjoy having a carrot shoved up their butt. Not cool. Just weird.

6. Donkey Punch

Not only is this really dangerous, it’s a bit weird. Punching someone in the back of the head whilst fucking them from behind in order to get off, says something about your personality. It’s not something I want to know about.

Top 5 Most Challenging Sex Positions

EdBennett — Fri, 22 May 2015 10:36:01 +0000

22 May 2015 - 11:36 | Tags: bad sex positions, casual sex, casual sex issues

We often read about the most ingenious, fun looking and sensual positions for sex, but have you ever wondered just how easy it is to achieve any of them? Porn movies might make some positions look as easy as strolling down the street, but the fact is the human body is designed to ‘do it’ in a fairly standard and practical way. That’s not to say you can’t have variations on a theme and there are hundreds of different ways we can have sex with each other. Yet there are some positions which are more challenging than others. It’s these positions we’re going to share and warn you about. They could be fun, but don’t try them without checking on whether or not you can actually achieve any of them.

Cosmopolitan is one of the most dangerous magazines you can read when it comes to trying out new sex positions. Most of them risk serious injury. Let’s review to highlight.

1. Canoe Canoodle
Cosmo loves alliteration. Shame it doesn’t live in the real world like the rest of us. If on the off chance you happen to have access to a canoe without a team of other canoeists nearby, why the hell would you want to have sex on one? First you’re more likely to capsize together than have sex, and secondly, have you ever tried to lie down in a canoe? Only for the truly stupid.

2. Stair Sex
There’s a reason stairs exist; they’re for walking up and down. Unlike the floor you can’t just lie down and start shagging. You’ll get bruises in places you never thought you could get bruises. You also risk potentially debilitating back injuries. By all means give it a go; just don’t blame us if you end up in A&E.

3. The Tawdry Tube
Cosmo strikes again. Not only do the writers of this ridiculous guide want you to get in an inner tube in the water without falling off, they want two of you to do it and have sex in it without falling off.

4. The Bridge
Have you got your orthopedic specialist to hand? No? Don’t try this sex position at home until you do. Basically it involves the man lying between two separate surfaces as his partner clambers up on top of the ‘bridge’ he’s made and lower all their weight on him. You could have sex, but it won’t be fun for him as his back will probably collapse.

5. The Balancing
So We Women wants you to lie down on a man’s penis balancing all your weight on it? Better have 911 on speed dial before you try this one.

Casual Sex: Problems for Women

EdBennett — Thu, 05 Feb 2015 12:43:55 +0000

5 Feb 2015 - 12:43 | Tags: casual sex problems, casual sex issues, casual sex problems for women, casual sex rules

Like it or not, there is still a stigma attached to having casual sex when you’re a woman. Whereas guys who sleep around are often treated like heroes or shrugged off as ‘well boys will be boys’, women who talk about having lots of casual sex are demonized. It’s unfair and I hope that one day not long from now, this stigma will disappear along with a lot of other medieval tripe about sex. Aside from the stigma though, women have to deal with more anxieties and worries about casual sex than men. Below are some of the top things women often deal with when having casual sex.

1. Constantly anxious over STD test results
Fact of the matter is even when using a condom, men and women always get nervous over a test result when sleeping around.

2. Not wearing the best underwear
Casual sex is often unexpected, so there’s nothing worse than being caught out wearing an old pair of granny panties. Not cool.

3. Nervous about being pregnant even though you use condoms and are on the pill
That fear never goes away no matter how careful you are. As guys we’ve got it far easier than women!

4. When a guy wants to cuddle after
I'm happy to dispel the myth that all women want to cuddle after sex. They don’t. If it’s casual sex and you’re having a cuddle, it’s not casual sex. Women know this better than men.

5. Having friends insult you
They don’t mean to, but women often criticize their own friends for having casual sex…even though they used to do it as well before they found ‘Mr Perfect’. Vomit inducing.

6. Forgetting the guy’s name
When you’re sleeping with different guys it’s hard to remember everyone’s name. Guys do it too when sleeping around. Pretty even keel on this one.

7. Having to change bed linen frequently
When you’re in a relationship you don’t care as much, but when you’re sleeping with different people there’s nothing worse than having reminders of your last conquest all over the sheets before your next one turns up.

8. Awkward conversation after
You’ve both just had great sex, but for some reason the guy starts a conversation. Er…no. You’re there for sex. Not conversation. Just sex.

9. Being on your period
Again as guys we just don’t understand how much more complicated casual sex can be logistically for a woman. When you’re ‘on’ sex is the last thing on your mind.

10. Body Hair maintenance
Guys don’t really care about their own hair…and to be honest we don’t care too much about yours as long as we get sex. But we do admit that women think more about their bikini lines and arm pits then us. Why? Because that’s what dumb ass society dictates.