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Top two things that cause a low sex drive

EdBennett — Fri, 24 Sep 2021 22:38:21 +0000

24 Sep 2021 - 23:38 | Tags: sex drive, casual sex problems, problems performing

Having a high sex drive, especially on the adult dating circuit, is really important. The primary reason that your fuck buddy is spending time with you, is for the sex. They want to sleep with you, and they want to sleep with someone that wants to sleep with them! Having sex with someone who is super into it is a completely different experience to sleeping with someone who is just, well, putting up with it. Sex when you are going through the motions is terrible. It is one of the great things about having a fuck buddy. You are both there for the sex, so you are both super into it. If you weren’t, you would just leave. There are many long term relationships, particularly marriages, where one person is there for other reasons and they are just “putting up” with the sex. That is a terrible place to be for the person who is sex deprived! Luckily, this is simply never an issue with a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits set up. So you will want to keep your sex drive nice and high for all of this. How do you do this? Well, the first thing is to eliminate the issues that are causing you to have a low sex drive. With this in mind, here are my top two things that cause a low sex drive.

Pain

If you are experiencing any pain during sex, this is going to prevent an easy orgasm and take you out of the moment. This in turn will reduce your sex drive. The answer? If you are experiencing any pain, do not ignore it. Deal with it. Talk to your fuck buddy if needed and explain what is causing it, usually, they will be very ready and willing to help alleviate it! Note – there is an exception here as there can be types of pain that are welcomed, and if you are one of those people, then this will not reduce your sex drive.

Disease and illness

If you are ill your sex drive will usually suffer. The main thing to do here is to accept and acknowledge it. Don’t try and fake it. Concentrate on getting better, then when you are back to full health, at that point arrange a weekend with your fuck buddy and go crazy with each other! Until then, I highly recommend that you ride it out.

So, there are my top two reasons that people have a low sex drive. Deal with these if they arise and you are good to go.

Triggers to a low sex drive – physical issues

EdBennett — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 12:42:33 +0000

18 Sep 2021 - 13:42 | Tags: low sex drive, casual sex problems, physical health

We all have different times in our lives when we experience either a lower or higher sex drive. For nearly all of us, the seasons can change this. We all are driven more in the spring and the summer to have sex than in the autumn and winter. This is why it is particularly easy to find a fuck buddy in the spring and summer months. We usually have more people sign up to the website and we also see a large number of successes. That is not to say you cannot find someone outside of these months of course! It is simply that as a general, the population’s sex drive is higher at certain times of the year. There are of course other triggers to a low sex drive. In this article, we are going to focus on the physical reasons that may cause a low sex drive in you or your fuck buddy. If you think you, or your friend with benefits, is experiencing any of these, we would highly recommend you address the issue. It will benefit both of you in the long term.

Alcohol

Whilst drinking one glass of wine, beer, or another small amount of alcohol can put you in the mood, drinking too much can have a very real impact on your sex drive. Alcohol is a well known depressant, and as per its name it does, indeed, depress the desire for sex over time. In the moment if you are a man, it can also reduce the ability to have sex, so that is also something to be aware of! If you find you or your fuck buddy are drinking a lot and regularly, you may want to consider cutting down.

Surgery

If you have had any kind of surgery or medical operations, this can affect your sex drive. Even something that is considered a “minor” operation by modern standards can have an effect on your drive and desire for sex. So if you or your fuck buddy have had some kind of surgery recently, consider giving it a little time before firing back up to full sexual steam. A dip in desire may be caused by that, and nothing more.

Fatigue

A lack of sleep and tiredness can be a strong contributor to a low sex drive. This can be caused by working long hours, dealing with stressful home or family issues, or insomnia or other causes of fatigue and tiredness. If you or your fuck buddy are experiencing this, then you need to solve the tiredness before you try and solve the sex issue. You can’t do the latter without dealing with the former.

So, there are my physical reasons. In the next article we are going to pick up on other causes of a low sex drive.

Sexual Performance Anxiety can be helped with a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Thu, 27 May 2021 17:12:52 +0000

27 May 2021 - 18:12 | Tags: problems performing, casual sex problems

Welcome to the fuck buddy website, the place where we help you find the fuck buddy that you are looking for because, thought you don’t know it, they are looking for you just as hard as you are for them! Today we are going to be talking about sexual performance anxiety and how having a fuck buddy can be a great way to help get over it, or at least, manage it.

Sexual Performance Anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety is where you are more than just nervous about sex because all of us get nervous about sex. It is where those nerves go on to hamper our life choices and actions. Many people suffer from anxiety in all sorts of areas, sexual performance anxiety is where the sex is the trigger for the anxiety. Unfortunately, this can lead to a number of problems and manifest a number of symptoms. These include (but are not restricted to):

the person finding it much harder to, well, get hard
a psychological block that stops them getting involved in sexual activity that they otherwise would
a much-reduced sex drive and reduced sexual urges, caused by the anxiety
an increased level of respiratory activity and elevated heart rate
and when things get bad, they can lead to panic attacks which manifest outside of the control of the one experiencing them

Sexual performance anxiety is bad, no one wants it, and those that do have their lives badly impacted by it. So what can be done about it you might ask? Well, the first thing to do is identify the cause.

Cause of sexual performance anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety can be caused by a number of facts as listed below. It can happen to anyone, both men and women, both young and old.

Being unhappy with how they look
A large amount of stress from other areas of their lives
It can be triggered due to prior experiences that have left scars
The fear of being rejected remains a strong reason why many people experience this
The fear of being unable to perform in bed can, ironically, lead to performance anxiety and thus mean that they are unable to perform in bed, confirming their beliefs in this regard.

How a fuck buddy can help this

Having a fuck buddy is a great way to work through these issues. With a long term relationship, there is so much invested that the stress levels are increased, fear of rejection or fears surrounding performance are abound. With a fuck buddy both parties know that this is but temporary, there is no pressure. This also leads to an increased level of honesty, and talking to your sexual partner about your issues is a great way to work through them. The more you have sex, the more you acclimatise to the anxiety, find ways of spotting and dealing with the triggers, and the happier you get.

So if you are experiencing performance anxiety, I would strongly suggest getting a fuck buddy. It will do you wonders.

Why use porn when you can have the real thing?

EdBennett — Sat, 21 May 2016 19:04:46 +0000

21 May 2016 - 20:04 | Tags: porn in casual sex, porn, casual sex problems

Why? WHY!??! I thought I would start this article with what would have been the end of the article. I am here to talk about porn, and the fact that we use it instead of the real thing. I want to start by telling you my conclusion. There is nothing wrong with porn, and actually I would encourage people to look at it and use it – both men and women that is. What I would say is that the balance is to ensure that whilst you are using porn, be aware to not allow porn use to replace your desire for the real thing – more importantly don’t allow porn use to reduce the amount that you do the real thing. It is really good to have actual real sex. It is healthy, makes you happy, and the act as far as I can tell can never really be replaced by anything at all. So *do both*. Yes use porn, and enjoy using it in a guilt free fashion for know that you are doing nothing wrong! However – make sure that you *also* keep having real sex with real people.

So now allow me to back track a little and talk through the thinking.

Porn is great. There is something about it that fills an instant need. We love looking at it, and it is also really morish. Once you have had a little, rather than sate your appetite, it actually leaves you hungry for *more* rather than less. There is nothing wrong in this, and actually since it leads to masturbation this is actually a good thing. If you want to be able to come and orgasm in the bedroom, you first really need to know how to come and orgasm by yourself. It actually takes a little practice, and the best way of getting that practice is by doing it yourself.

The danger is that too much porn can leave you with unrealistic expectations of how sex is and what the other people that you are having sex with are like in bed. For men especially, it leaves expectations that you are going to last in the bedroom for far longer than is natural for most people, and that the women/men you are sleeping with are mostly super subservient and with literally porn star looks. Most women do not look like the women in porn films, and most men do not last the length of time that they do in the video clips.

So this can then lead to you have less actual sex. Getting off to porn is easy, safe and without any possibility of rejection or problems. Don’t fall into this trap.

So use porn – but also keep having real sex.

Casual Sex: Problems for Women

EdBennett — Thu, 05 Feb 2015 12:43:55 +0000

5 Feb 2015 - 12:43 | Tags: casual sex problems, casual sex issues, casual sex problems for women, casual sex rules

Like it or not, there is still a stigma attached to having casual sex when you’re a woman. Whereas guys who sleep around are often treated like heroes or shrugged off as ‘well boys will be boys’, women who talk about having lots of casual sex are demonized. It’s unfair and I hope that one day not long from now, this stigma will disappear along with a lot of other medieval tripe about sex. Aside from the stigma though, women have to deal with more anxieties and worries about casual sex than men. Below are some of the top things women often deal with when having casual sex.

1. Constantly anxious over STD test results
Fact of the matter is even when using a condom, men and women always get nervous over a test result when sleeping around.

2. Not wearing the best underwear
Casual sex is often unexpected, so there’s nothing worse than being caught out wearing an old pair of granny panties. Not cool.

3. Nervous about being pregnant even though you use condoms and are on the pill
That fear never goes away no matter how careful you are. As guys we’ve got it far easier than women!

4. When a guy wants to cuddle after
I'm happy to dispel the myth that all women want to cuddle after sex. They don’t. If it’s casual sex and you’re having a cuddle, it’s not casual sex. Women know this better than men.

5. Having friends insult you
They don’t mean to, but women often criticize their own friends for having casual sex…even though they used to do it as well before they found ‘Mr Perfect’. Vomit inducing.

6. Forgetting the guy’s name
When you’re sleeping with different guys it’s hard to remember everyone’s name. Guys do it too when sleeping around. Pretty even keel on this one.

7. Having to change bed linen frequently
When you’re in a relationship you don’t care as much, but when you’re sleeping with different people there’s nothing worse than having reminders of your last conquest all over the sheets before your next one turns up.

8. Awkward conversation after
You’ve both just had great sex, but for some reason the guy starts a conversation. Er…no. You’re there for sex. Not conversation. Just sex.

9. Being on your period
Again as guys we just don’t understand how much more complicated casual sex can be logistically for a woman. When you’re ‘on’ sex is the last thing on your mind.

10. Body Hair maintenance
Guys don’t really care about their own hair…and to be honest we don’t care too much about yours as long as we get sex. But we do admit that women think more about their bikini lines and arm pits then us. Why? Because that’s what dumb ass society dictates.