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Top 5 Weirdest things people ask for during sex

EdBennett — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 09:00:11 +0000

8 Aug 2015 - 10:00 | Tags: kink, BDSM, fantasy, sex fantasy, casual sex issues

Everyone has a kink. Whether they want to admit it or not, kinks are part of who we are. We might not even know that we have a kink until someone does something that exposes us to it. But some kinks are so odd, that many partners sometimes wonder “What the fuck?!” in their heads, even if they just nod and smile to their buddy. Kinks are perfectly normal so don’t get too worried if you think you shouldn’t explore yours. However, there are some things that people ask for during sex that are just plain weird.

1. Suck my toes whilst fucking me

Some people have a foot fetish. Having their feet tickled, licked and played with turns them on. However doing all of this whilst having sex can be quite hard and distracting.

2. Watching cartoons during sex

Not porn cartoons – which are becoming increasingly popular – normal everyday cartoons. The sort that kids watch on a Saturday morning. That’s. Just. Weird.

3. Him pretending to be Bambi during sex

Okay, I kind of get the whole dressing up as a cartoon character thing, but a guy pretending to be Bambi and actually dressing up like the Disney cartoon? Yeah…that’s just a bit too weird for my tastes!

4. Rape fantasies

I don’t care how much anyone says people have this fantasy – it’s fucked up and plain wrong! Anyone who actually fantasises about getting raped needs to go and see a counsellor and get professional help. It’s not healthy.

5. Being fucked by vegetables

People will put anything in any orifice. It’s like a hang up from being a baby or something where kids would put anything in their mouth. It gets weird though when women want to shove radishes and marrows up their pussy whilst men enjoy having a carrot shoved up their butt. Not cool. Just weird.

6. Donkey Punch

Not only is this really dangerous, it’s a bit weird. Punching someone in the back of the head whilst fucking them from behind in order to get off, says something about your personality. It’s not something I want to know about.

What’s it like to be a porn star?

EdBennett — Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:48:52 +0000

6 Aug 2015 - 09:48 | Tags: porn, casual sex, fantasy, sex fantasy

Loads of our members enjoy porn. Hell, the reason the industry is so big is because of the sheer volume of people who view porn. Often seen as a seedy industry, proper pornography can be just as complex to film and edit as a Hollywood blockbuster. Male actors have to stay hard in extraordinary situations, female actors sometimes have to deep throat a dick for hours on end and the camera crew can get exhausted trying to get as many angles as possible on film. Porn to us is a useful fantasy aid to have when masturbating or when with a fuck buddy. But what’s it actually like to be a porn star?

1. For male actors, erections can be hard to achieve

That scene where the dude is banging the chick for what seems like hours on end, can take an eternity to get right. The camera has to be in the right positions, the female actor has to be properly lubed and both actors have to stop and start when filming different shots. Maintaining an erection is expected, but as we all know, that’s just not possible without physical and mental aids. Everything from Viagra to injections in the dick are used to help male actors stay hard. Not fun.

2. For female actors the mouth can get tired

When going down on a guy, you’d normally expect the blow job to last a maximum of 10 minutes in the real world. In the porn world a blow job can go on for literally hours. Again getting a good shot is everything (no pun intended), so the actors have to stop and start again and again. Imagine having a guy’s cock in your mouth for that long? Might be fun at first, but eventually your jaw gets tired, and your mouth can get sore.

3. The bits that look like the ultimate fantasy are not that awesome for the performers

That scene where the guy is fucking the girl from what seems like an impossible angle may look incredibly hot, but if you were to try this in the real world, the sex would not be that fun. Having a dick pounding parts of the vagina that were not meant to be pounded can be uncomfortable at best and painful at worst. Now imagine both actors having to maintain the illusion of pleasure on their faces throughout. Not fun.

4. Anal sex is difficult

We’ve already talked about anal sex a lot, so it should come as no surprise that porn stars have to take more precautions than most. A butt is a butt at the end of the day, so if you’ve not cleaned out your anus, the results during sex are going to be messy and uncomfortable. Porn actors who do anal have to have regular enemas in order for the anal sex to be achievable. Not great.

5. Fetish often earns stars more money

It should come as no surprise that fetish has personal and financial rewards. Actors sometimes don’t even have to have sex to earn a cool $2000 per session. Many people just like to watch someone dressed up as a nurse or schoolteacher (insert relevant fantasy here) to get off. Fetish can be a big earner in the industry.

6. Competition is huge

Due in large part to the internet boom, anyone who’s anyone thinks they can now be a porn star. The industry pros are right to tell us that it’s simply not that simple, but increased belief has meant increased competition within the industry to stay relevant.

So remember, porn can be fun to watch and enjoy, but it’s not that simple when you’re working within the industry.

Is it okay to fantasise about someone else when having sex?

EdBennett — Sat, 06 Dec 2014 10:50:17 +0000

6 Dec 2014 - 10:50 | Tags: fantasy, sex

You might be forgiven for thinking this a ‘no-brainer’ considering the nature of our site, but even in casual relationships fantasy can be either helpful or harmful.

The Facts
On the face of it when you meet up with someone just to have sex with them, fantasising about someone else seems trivial. Why should either of you care whether or not you’re thinking about them when you’re fucking? This line of thinking is certainly valid if you have little to no connection with a fuck buddy other than physical. However we know that even when it comes to casual sex a physical connection is rarely the only thing that makes the sex great. People are people and the brain is the most powerful sexual organ in the body. What’s the point of having sex with someone who is physically perfect but a complete mental turn off? None at all in our view. So with that in mind, the question of whether or not you fantasise about someone else during sex becomes relevant in casual sex.

Is it okay?
Yes and no. Fantasies can help restore a flagging libido and reignite the pleasure gained from sex. However they are kept secret they can cause division between two people.

How should you approach fantasy?
Too much of anything can be bad. Consuming too much alcohol, working excessively, eating too much are all bad for you, yet they are all integral parts of daily life. The answer becomes one of balance. Indulging in a little fantasy can be liberating particularly during sex. Keeping your fantasy secret from your partner – casual or not – can cause a friction between the two of you and it will be noticed during sex. So the answer is to maintain a balance.

What you should do?
If you want to fantasise about someone else when having sex why not share it with your fuck buddy? Not only will it show them the respect you have for them by being honest, but it might encourage them to be as equally as honest with you and share their fantasy. You could even do a little role play and actually act out the fantasy.