Tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 19:01:02 +0000

26 Dec 2020 - 19:01 | Tags: keeping sex casual, maintaining a fuck buddy

When most people think about having a fuck buddy they generally think about fleeting hook ups that have no staying power. This may be true for many people, but many others have medium-term relationships with their fuck buddies. If you find yourself in this situation you may be wondering the best way to approach it. You want to do things with the other person, but you also don’t want to deviate from the fuck buddy agreement – that this is a no strings attached relationship. So what can you do? Here are my top tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy.

Be honest about the nature of the relationship

When you first hook up it is obvious to both parties that you are just hooking up. There is no expectation of anything more and that is how things stay for a while. As times change feelings can change and unless you manage this expectation it can take you both to a place that neither of you want to be. The best way to manage this is by being honest about it. Have a conversation about how you feel. Check in with your fuck buddy to reassure her/him that you still are treating this as a no strings relationship and that you continue to have no expectation of anything outside of that. This is the best way to keep things on track.

Focus on the sex

Remember why you got into the relationship in the first place, you did so for the sex and nothing more. By keeping that in mind it can keep you on track. Remember also that the other person agreed to this, so by sticking to it you are honouring the agreement. The best way to make sure that this is the case is to make sure that whenever you meet up you have sex. If you start meeting a lot and not having sex it sends the wrong message, so avoid this at all costs. I am not saying that you cannot do other things, but doing too many of those things sans sex will quickly alter the agreement between the two of you which can end in disaster.

Sleep with someone else

The ultimate way to ensure that things remain in the fuck buddy zone is to sleep with someone else. This is more likely to keep your fuck buddy interested as it shows that you are attractive to other people, and it also reminds you both that this is an open relationship. If they are not okay with you sleeping with someone else it means they have already moved outside of the agreement.

So those are my top three tips! Remember the golden rule: have fun!

How to keep the sex casual

EdBennett — Thu, 09 Oct 2014 11:46:05 +0000

9 Oct 2014 - 12:46 | Tags: keeping sex casual

It’s easily done, but often people mistake casual sex for something more. Even when you think you’ve been clear from the outset that you’re only after sex, certain things and actions you say and do often send a miscommunication to the other party. How do you ensure that the sex is kept casual?

1. No cuddling
This sounds obvious but we’ve all done it. You’ve had sex and afterward you both feel a warm glow of togetherness that makes you want to snuggle up for a bit. The only problem is that cuddling can give off signals that one of you wants something more. Why cuddle someone you just want to have sex with?

2. Talking: Avoid foot in mouth syndrome
This usually results directly from cuddling. A casual remark like talking about your future kids can be misconstrued by the other party as you wanting to have kids with them. Women in particular are very good at reading between the lines of conversation so avoid talking about ‘the future’ or telling her how much you like her.

3. No presents
Whilst buying a woman flowers or buying a man a DVD or aftershave is nice, you don’t want to be doing it for someone you just want sex from.

4. Traps: Avoid them
Both sides set them up, but women do it more often then men. If she starts saying things like “you’re just using me for sex!” and cries then get out as soon as possible. You’re doing each other an injustice by trying to string it out.

5. Keep up the search
I know it probably sounds illogical that a casual dating site is recommending this but do keep looking for someone. When you have a lot of casual sex there is a tendency to become lazy and not put as much effort into dating especially when ‘Gigalo Joe’ or ‘Lovely Lucy’ is a booty call away. You could (and people have) let golden opportunities pass by because you’re too invested in the easy sex that comes your way.

So remember to keep things casual be open and honest about the situation being just sex. Also remember to remind yourself that it is just sex. The moment it starts becoming complicated is the moment you should eject or commit.

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Tips for when you have a regular fuck buddy

Be honest about the nature of the relationship

Focus on the sex

Sleep with someone else

How to keep the sex casual