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Why reading, not watching, erotica with your fuck buddy is better.

EdBennett — Fri, 22 Feb 2019 15:55:34 +0000

22 Feb 2019 - 15:55 | Tags: porn in casual sex, erotic literature, improving your sex life

Most people who have a fuck buddy are also enlightened enough to be able to enjoy porn without the associated feelings of guilt or irrational negativity that can sometimes be associated with it. We live in a more modern and open time where we recognise that sex is a healthy and normal thing, something that makes us all that little bit happier. Finding a fuck buddy means making both you and them benefit from the no strings attached relationship that you have just set up. It really is a win-win on both sides. Watching porn is something that, in today's world, is now much more acceptable.

Watching porn with your fuck buddy is great

Watching porn alone is fine, watching porn with a fuck buddy can be great. You can get turned on by it together, you can act out what is happening on the screen, or imagine you are there and part of it, or just be voyeurs and watch it. Having sex with porn on in the background can be even better, as the sounds and distant images in the background wash over you both as you are having sex, bringing a sense of being part of an orgy in your own home. Watching porn can be great. I am here to tell you why reading porn can be even better.

Reading porn with your fuck buddy is even better

When you read porn, also known as erotica, the whole thing takes place in your imagination. This brings with it a number of advantages over video porn. Firstly you manifest the images so everyone really is your perfect fantasy. Don’t like someone with blonde hair? No problem now she has brown hair. Are there certain gestures or motions that really turn you on, like a girl brushing her hair back behind her ear, or subconsciously adjusting her glasses with the knuckles of her hand? Now she does all of that. Don’t like tattoos? You no longer have to try and ignore that anchor embossed on her thigh. Having the porn take place in your imagination means that it is bespoke to what you want.

Reading porn together means you can have that take place in your collective imagination. Between the two of you, you can share the story, twist it to your needs and desires. When you read it, perhaps one of them is actually you and other your fuck buddy. You can even start improvising and curtailing the story till it follows your fantasy exactly as you would like it to. As you share the story and get more and more turned on you can start to pleasure each other physically to match the imagined sexual encounter, and before you know it in your mind you experience it with an intensity that is as real as if it had been you.

Reading porn and erotica is awesome. If you have never done it, you should suggest it to your fuck buddy. If neither of you have done it before, you are both in for a real treat.

Using private porn for foreplay

EdBennett — Mon, 25 Jun 2018 18:11:30 +0000

25 Jun 2018 - 19:11 | Tags: how to fuck like a pornstar, porn in casual sex, foreplay

The quality of your sex can, for the most part, be directly measured against the quality of the foreplay. FACT. Most people fail to understand how direct a connection there is between the foreplay and the actual sex itself. Pleasure, orgasm, even the function of the sexual organs themselves are all controlled by the brain. To have the greatest sex of your life requires a certain state of mind, and that is where foreplay comes in. “Fore” means to come in front of, it is the “play” that happens infront of, or before, the sex itself. For most people then when they think foreplay they are thinking about the things that may happen immediately before sex, things like blow jobs, going down no a girl, fingering etc. However I am going to ask you to broaden your horizons here a little, and start to think about foreplay as anything that happens in the 24hours running up to sex.

Anything that happens immediately before sex is the most powerful, as it is fresh in the mind for when you have sex. Many couples use porn for this. They will watch it together, immersing themselves in the sexual story before stepping into the roles that have been laid out for them by the porn. Using private porn is something that is even more powerful. The act of making a porn film staring yourself, is in itself something that is incredibly fun and sexy to make in the first place, and is in itself both forplay and role play. You both get to feel like porn stars, living out each other’s fantasies for the pleasure of your viewers.

Then when you watch the porn you made back, it acts then as foreplay in a different way. You get to watch yourselves at it, you get to be turned on and drawn in not by the fantasy of being someone else, but by being you! This reinforces your own sense of self and sexual prowess. This can be done with a fuck buddy, or a friends with benefits relationship, but it can just as equally be done by a married couple.

One of the best things is that it was made by you, just for you. No one else has ever seen it, and most other people don’t even know that it even exists. It is a secret, which makes it even sexier. It is also a little dangerous, which adds to the spice.

If you have never made a private video, give it a go. I think you will really love it, just as you will love “making love” afterwards.

Why use porn when you can have the real thing?

EdBennett — Sat, 21 May 2016 19:04:46 +0000

21 May 2016 - 20:04 | Tags: porn in casual sex, porn, casual sex problems

Why? WHY!??! I thought I would start this article with what would have been the end of the article. I am here to talk about porn, and the fact that we use it instead of the real thing. I want to start by telling you my conclusion. There is nothing wrong with porn, and actually I would encourage people to look at it and use it – both men and women that is. What I would say is that the balance is to ensure that whilst you are using porn, be aware to not allow porn use to replace your desire for the real thing – more importantly don’t allow porn use to reduce the amount that you do the real thing. It is really good to have actual real sex. It is healthy, makes you happy, and the act as far as I can tell can never really be replaced by anything at all. So *do both*. Yes use porn, and enjoy using it in a guilt free fashion for know that you are doing nothing wrong! However – make sure that you *also* keep having real sex with real people.

So now allow me to back track a little and talk through the thinking.

Porn is great. There is something about it that fills an instant need. We love looking at it, and it is also really morish. Once you have had a little, rather than sate your appetite, it actually leaves you hungry for *more* rather than less. There is nothing wrong in this, and actually since it leads to masturbation this is actually a good thing. If you want to be able to come and orgasm in the bedroom, you first really need to know how to come and orgasm by yourself. It actually takes a little practice, and the best way of getting that practice is by doing it yourself.

The danger is that too much porn can leave you with unrealistic expectations of how sex is and what the other people that you are having sex with are like in bed. For men especially, it leaves expectations that you are going to last in the bedroom for far longer than is natural for most people, and that the women/men you are sleeping with are mostly super subservient and with literally porn star looks. Most women do not look like the women in porn films, and most men do not last the length of time that they do in the video clips.

So this can then lead to you have less actual sex. Getting off to porn is easy, safe and without any possibility of rejection or problems. Don’t fall into this trap.

So use porn – but also keep having real sex.

Porn – why not make your own?

EdBennett — Thu, 31 Dec 2015 09:34:01 +0000

31 Dec 2015 - 09:34 | Tags: porn in casual sex, adult fun, fun sex

You have watched porn. I can say this with some certainty not because I have magical powers and have written this just for you – but because you are a human! If you are alive and have access to the internet, you are highly likely to have watched porn.

You probably look at porn still now – and I would guess that you looked at something pornographic on the internet as close as this week. Again this is based on the high likelihood that this is true because you are human.

I want to say right now – I do not think that there is anything intrinsically bad with porn at all. There are a couple of dangers as with anything – too much porn can desensitise you to what you are looking at and cause you to have trouble coming. If you watch a lot of porn it can start to screw with your viewpoint of the world and how sex should be to the point of driving it to unrealistic expectations. This is not a good place to end up as it will reduce the amount of good sex you will have. In of it self though porn is just that – it is porn. So I have a suggestion to make, if you are going to watch porn – why not make your own?

A few years ago this suggestion would likely have been met with a list of reasons as to why it was simply not possible for practical reasons, and they would have been legitimate problems with logistics. They simple are not the case anymore. You no longer need access to expensive video or camera equipment – you can just use your phone. You no longer need a huge editing suit in order to compile the footage, you can use a number of online editing websites – even YouTube allows you to upload then edit videos online. You have everything you need to make one already in your hands.

So why do it?

If you are going to look at porn and get turned on by it – why not actually be in it? If you are watching a stranger and masturbating that’s fine. But if you can masturbate to your actual sex partner, then that is actually going to compound and make sex with that partner even better! By coming to images of your sex partner and yourself, you are reinforcing that you can have amazing orgasmic sex with that person and as yourself! It is perfect.

Bonus: It is fun making it

And remember, in order to have made a porn film, you have to have had sex with the person you are making it with. Probably several time. Possibly across several different “shoot days”.
Make your own porno – it will be fun and watching the results can improve your sex life!

The role of Porn in casual sex

EdBennett — Mon, 15 Sep 2014 11:51:47 +0000

15 Sep 2014 - 12:51 | Tags: porn in casual sex

Men are often accused of being addicted to porn but several studies published worldwide have shown women to be as equally in love with porn. We love porn mostly because it can be an aphrodisiac to casual sex. Like anything used excessively of course we recognise that it can be harmful but like the old saying goes “everything in moderation”.

Why is porn great?
At its best porn is a gushing celebration of the human body in all its different shapes and styles. At its worst porn can be an addictive obsession that infiltrates your life in a very bad way. The trick is in finding the right balance. In terms of a fuck buddy porn can be a great way to give you ideas on new positions/scenarios/toys to try with your partner.

Porn can help you engage your imagination especially if you’re nervous about trying something new. In the words of one woman:

“I love porn. I love its capacity to enrich our highly stressful time poor lives. I am zealous about using it with new partners as it often leads to a lot of fantasies coming true.”

How to use porn in your casual encounters?
Most people are far more interested in having sex rather than watching it, but porn can make sex even more stimulating. Try the following methods to see how you can use porn in a casual hook up.

1. Watch a porno together
A classic for first time users. Settle down in front of the TV and pop a porno in the DVD player (or fire up a video on your laptop). Pick a movie that takes its time to build before the actors start having sex. You can start playing with each other at the same time mimicking the action on screen and building towards your own orgasms.

2. Make a porno together
This one is only recommended if you both trust one another. The last thing you want is a sex tape of yourself on the internet…unless you want to do a Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton and become famous for having sex. Shooting yourselves having sex can be a huge turn on so if you agree terms give it a whirl.

3. Act out a porno scenario
A safer way to use porn without a camera is to act out your own porno scenario. Arrange a hook up and role-play yourselves into ecstasy.

Porn isn’t a substitute for skin on skin experience but it is an enhancement.