How to try bondage for the first time

EdBennett — Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:14:01 +0000

19 Jan 2015 - 14:14 | Tags: 1st time bondage, fetish, bondage, casual sex

“I want you to tie me up and do me hard!”

Those words are often music to a man’s ears! But what if you’ve never tried bondage before? You have no idea how your partner wants you to tie them up. You have no idea how they want you to ‘do them’ once you’ve tied them up. What if you cut off their circulation? What if they laugh at you once they see how awful your rope tying skills are? All these questions have plagues every man’s mind whenever the subject of bondage is brought up and they’ve never tried it.

Conquer your fears
Bondage is nothing to be afraid of. Done correctly it can be one of the most erotically powerful sexual acts you can share with a partner. All you need is a little spirit and a sense of humour when you first try it. As long as you have these two things, you’ll be fine. So here’s a quick-fire guide on how to try it for the first time.

1. Make sure you’ve got the right material
Christian Grey might be all the rage but you need to make sure that if you decide to use a tie to tie your lady up, it better be the right kind of tie. You can buy specially made bondage ties online and in sex shops.

2. Try restraints the first time
If you’re not too hot on your rope tying skills, you can always buy a special bondage kit complete with bed restraints and handcuffs. This will allow you to explore your domination fantasies without the fear of you or your partner laughing.

3. Book yourself onto a rope tying class
It’s worth investigating these classes. You can usually find one in your local area – yes bondage has become very popular in the past decade – and the instructors will ensure all your fears are addressed in a safe and fun environment. More importantly they’ll give you the confidence to try rope tying yourself and teach you that it’s okay if you don’t get it right the first time.

4. Start off light and see where it goes
It’s important to remember that sex is always supposed to be fun. Bondage is a part of the performance that can greatly aid sex if done right. Don’t try anything too complicated the first time you give bondage a go. Start light and see where the night takes you.

Trying Bondage for the first time

EdBennett — Thu, 28 Aug 2014 13:00:22 +0000

28 Aug 2014 - 14:00 | Tags: 1st time bondage

We’ve talked about bondage and fetish a lot at F-Buddy, but we’ve rarely discussed about how you do it for the first time. It’s easy to forget that there’s a first time for everyone and if you’ve been considering bondage but have been too nervous or afraid to know where to begin, then this is the blog for you.

1. Don’t be nervous – accept your fear
Yes, it’s easy to say this but harder to do it. What we mean though is to not be afraid to be nervous! Whenever you try something new there is always an element of fear. It’s the way things are. The sooner you accept that you’re a little afraid of trying bondage is the sooner you can start enjoying experimenting with it.

2. Don’t ask – do
What we mean by this is once you’ve decided to try bondage, the time for tip toeing around the subject is over. Now’s the time to try tying one another up and seeing what works for you both.

3. Discuss safe words
It’s easy to get carried away in the moment, so make sure you’ve both discussed and settled on an easy to recognise safe word. This will ensure that neither party is hurt accidentally in any way.

4. Think big, but start small
It’s the first time you’ve tried bondage so naturally things might not always work out the way you expect them to. That’s fine! But if you’re really worried about it start with something small like tying your partner’s hands together or blindfolding each other before having sex. No one got to play Carnegie Hall on their first go. It takes practise.

5. Don’t let setbacks put you off
We’ve all been in situations where sex can be a little embarrassing. It’s fine when things don’t always go according to plan. Laugh about it and have sex you’re used to having before trying again.

6. Get the right equipment
If you’re going to try bondage you should try it properly and invest in some proper equipment. I’m not talking about chains and whips (that’s for the professionals), but the right kind of ties and restraints. You can buy all manner of safe bondage gear on the web so let your imagination rip and get equipped!

7. Have fun!
Remember bondage is all about adding to the sexual experience. Sex is supposed to be fun so remember: have fun!

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How to try bondage for the first time

Trying Bondage for the first time