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Selection is the key to a good fuck buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 12 Mar 2017 13:21:32 +0000

12 Mar 2017 - 13:21 | Tags: find a fuck buddy, fuck buddy or partner

If you are looking for any kind of sexual relationship, I have come to realise that the real key to having the best sex of your life, is selection. The main factor that will alter or change your sex life for the better or worse, when all factors are taken into account, is whom are you sleeping with. Did you select the right person in the first place? This is also the key factor I believe in whether or not you ended up with a good relationship, a good life partner, a good husband or wife. It is the fundamental to if you had a good business partner or housemate too! Almost any relationship can be looked at from the point of selection, from the starting point. This applies most definitely to families too, however since you did not get to choose whom your family are you are stuck with whatever you are handed with! When it comes to your choice of sexual partner however, it is exactly that, it is a choice. You get to decide whom you are going to sleep with, and that means you get to decide the kind of person you sleep with.

Some things to think about when choosing your fuck buddy:

Are they sexually compatible? On a fundamental level, if you are a bisexual girl who would like to have a 2 girl 1 guy threesome, you should definitely be dating other bisexual women. If you choose to date a non bisexual girl, and then go on to try and have a threesome with her that is not going to work out well for you. Let me expand on this point.

I want to fuck you now change

You remember the old saying “I love you now change” – the reference to loving someone but actually wanting them to be a different person than whom they are, so you don’t really love them for them. The same is true for sex. You can’t meet someone and say to them you “want to fuck them now change”. It is just not going to happen. If you are into kinky rope fun, then you need to find someone who is into kinky rope fun. If just love sex when you are on top, find someone who wants to be on the bottom. If you want to have sex outdoors, it is better to find someone else who wants to have sex outdoors then try and convince, cajole, persuade someone to have sex with you in the park if that is not what they are into.

Find a fuck buddy that is right for you, and you will be happy. Go with someone who is completely in appropriate and at best it ends quickly, at worst you are stuck in an unsatisfying unhappy partnership.

Do your perfect sexual partner a favour – find them and fuck them

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 09:01:34 +0000

12 Jan 2016 - 09:01 | Tags: fuck buddy or partner, finding orgasms, basic tenets of casual sex

We all have certain preferences when it comes to having sex with people. Maybe that is how we like to have sex, fast or slow, hard or soft. For some people it is what is needed to turn them on, some people like to be tied up, other people like to be punished, others like none of that and want something extremely vanilla and anything kinky is actually a huge turn off. Some people like it roughm, some people like it soft, most (but not all) people enjoy either being taken/taking someone... what ever it is you like there is a strong argument that one of your life missions is to find that person that balances you. I make no exaggeration here. Your life mission.

First accept that happiness is linked to sex

There are many things that we need in life to make us happy.

Good food
A roof over our head (that preferably we like)
Warmth
The resources to sustain our life (usually money)
A mission (often this will be a combination of a job and something else – but not 100% of the time).
A compatible sexual partner

Look at the list above. Sex is on that list right next to food. It is a basic necessity of a happy life. Yes we can survive without it, but can we be truly happy without that sexual partnership? The answer is no, we cannot.

Second realise that you must actively pursue it

If you want money you have to work for it. If you want a job you have to find it. If you want to achieve anything you have to make it happen for yourself. Why would sex be any different? If you want to have a great sex life, you have top actively pursue it. Recognise that you want it. Then go and get it.

Third – realise that finding your perfect partner is a win win

Spending your time trying to hunt down the perfect sexual partner can feel a little predatory and hunter like. Put this aside with the following unfderstanding. If you find your perfect fuck buddy, your ying to a yang, then they also get to have their perfect fuck. They get to have you. To them you are the dream that they have been looking for all their lives! You not only give yourself the greatest gift, you are giving them the same.

Seek your perfect fuck, and never stop till you find it.

Don’t be weird – be direct

EdBennett — Tue, 20 Oct 2015 10:01:19 +0000

20 Oct 2015 - 11:01 | Tags: hot girls, fuck buddy or partner

This article is aimed more at the men of this world – though it does have some applications to the ladies of this world as well.

When you see a girl that you like, I mean really like, it is hard to suppress the urge to look at her. We all have different tastes, different types of woman that we are interested in. Some people like stick thin girls that they can easily pick up and throw around the bedroom, other people go crazy for large woman with those amazing behinds of theirs. If you like big women, you probably wouldn’t take a second glance at a thin one. The opposite is true for men who like smaller girls. Many of us lie in the middle, or swing between types depending on the person that we meet at any given time.

When we see a girl that we really like, that really fits our type, it is hard to not be naturally drawn to her. To want to look at her more. This can manifest in all sorts of ways, subtle staring, choosing to sit on one train carriage rather than another so that we can continue to check them out, not so subtle staring! The important thing is this, sometimes doing this can come across as creepy, and ultimately gets us nowhere. I have an alternative I would like to offer.

If you really have an instant mangnatism to someone, it is entirely possible that the reverese is true. You are a good looking guy with lots going for you. You may not believe it, but take my word for it, you are. Rather than stare from a corner, go up and talk to her. You may be asking yourself “what possible excuse can I use to go and talk to a hot girl on a train platform that I have just seen? I don’t know her, I know nothing about her, what do I say?”

The answer: Be direct.

Go up to her and be super direct. Rather than having to think of an “excuse” go right up with total honesty. Tell her you saw her and thought that she was super cute / hot / fit what ever you were thinking. Then be really normal and introduce yourself to her with your name and just talk. You will be amazed at the effect this can have.

Having a total stranger make the effort to come and talk to you just because you are good looking is one of the most flattering things that can happen to you. Imagine this happened to you as a man – you would love it right?

So next time you see a girl you like – just go and ne direct with her about it. Any ladies reading this, I advise you to do the same, you’ll be doing both yourself and the person you talk to a massive favour.

How do you know when a fuck buddy has become something more?

EdBennett — Tue, 27 May 2014 09:33:49 +0000

27 May 2014 - 10:33 | Tags: fuck buddy or partner

At face value this is quite a simple question. In practise we all know that it is a little more complicated than that. Having sex the first time with anyone is always exciting, and lust takes over from rational emotion. However there are some tell tell signs which should help you determine whether or not relationship has become more then sex, or if it is just sex.

1. The Morning After
There are massive schools of thought who suggest that in order to maintain a long term casual sex relationship; you must never under any circumstances allow your fuck buddy to stay the night. I disagree with this, as I have had several casual relationships where my sex pal has stayed the night and it’s been fine. It also means we can have sex again in the morning. However the morning after can be a good barometer on how much you like someone. When you wake up next to your FWB, fuck buddy…whatever you want to call it ask yourself a few questions:
a) Do you want them to stay?
b) Do you get a feeling that you wish they would leave?
If you answer yes to a) then the chances are there is probably something more than just sex there.
If you answer yes to b) then the chances are you just enjoy sleeping with them but now you need to get back to the day-to-day.
There is no shame in feeling one way or the other, but it is useful to ask yourself these questions if you’re unsure. They will help.

2. Do you want to see your partner outside the bedroom?
This is a more direct question to ask but can become muddled if you’re already friends with the person you’re having sex with. If you find that you just want to meet up with someone for sex then you are just fuck buddies. If however you enjoy going out with someone and then have sex afterwards, it is possible that the two of you enjoy a friends with benefits status in your relationship. Does this mean there is more there? It depends. I would refer you back to “The Morning After” scenario. Friends are great, but you don’t spend as much time with your friends as you would with a partner. If you enjoy holding your friend in the morning after sex and don’t want them to leave, I would suggest there is a deeper connection then just friends with benefits. However a close girlfriend of mine (who is just a friend) recently described a continuing casual sex relationship she had been having with a guy for nearly a year. I’ll let her describe it.

“You know it’s weird, but I was out with Ramone the other night and I found him really boring to talk to. Eventually I just said, you know what let’s go home and just have sex.”

Listen to what your brain as well as your loins are telling you
At the end of the day, you’ll know deep down if someone is just a fuck buddy or something more. Use the above questions as a guide, but remember to listen to what your own mind is telling you. Be honest with yourself and with your partners.