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Having a fuck buddy is how it was always meant to be

EdBennett — Fri, 28 Aug 2020 17:08:41 +0000

28 Aug 2020 - 18:08 | Tags: finding your inner fuck buddy, why casual sex is important

It is widely accepted that when it comes to having partners, we ‘ought’ to be monogamous. This is something that pervades the whole of society and is an accepted truth. The way that we ‘should’ have relationships is to go out, find someone, court them and no one else, then form a monogamous partnership that lasts for the rest of our lives. We are raised to believe this and we pass that belief on to our kids and reinforce it in the people around us. However, this is simply not how things always have been, no matter how we might wish to believe that it is. In fact, having fuck buddies were really how things were when we were more in touch with our natural selves.

We come from nature and ultimately we are one animal of the animal kingdom. That is not to say we are not the dominant force! Our ability to make tools, to use our intellect to create and invent things to propel us into the forefront as the dominant species is quite incredible. We now fly in metal boxes through the air like birds and can talk to people on the other side of the world as if we are telepaths. The human race is amazing… but we are also all just animals. We came from the animal kingdom and all the instincts and drives that were part of our make up still reside within us. The desire and drive to have sex are one of these residual instincts.

Just as it would have been during cave times, we want to have sex and procreate. We cannot help it, it is simply part of who we are as human creatures. We also want to do so in a way that is most likely to make our offspring successful in the animal kingdom, which is why we are attracted to certain people and we all fight over the prime members of our race. There is a reason that we all lust after supermodels, actors and other high profile people. It is hard-wired into us to want to have sex upwards.

We also are hard-wired to be non-monogamous. Back in the caveman days we would have had sex with more than one person! The ‘leader’ of the pack would have had sex with the most, with things tapering down from there. So when we talk about having a fuck buddy, we are simply talking about doing things in the way that we used to. This is not a new invention or way of living, we all used to do this as the normal!

So if you have ever considered trying a no strings attached relationship and have never done it before, remember this: it was how things always used to be.

Why women want to find a fuck buddy

EdBennett — Tue, 30 Jun 2020 23:42:27 +0000

1 Jul 2020 - 00:42 | Tags: why casual sex is important, casual sex for women

When is comes to sex, we all want to be having it. I am not saying that we all want to be having sex every moment of day, there are other pleasures in life! However, I am saying that it is a key thing that nearly all humans desire. If you are reading this, you are one of those people. The very thing that motivated you to want to read this article tells me that you are one of the billion plus people that love sex! One of the ways that we can get easy and regular access to sex is by finding a fuck buddy. Since the person that you hook up with is looking for the same thing as you, it generally means that you are able to avoid the usual trials and issues involved with a more traditional relationship. The sex itself tends also to be of a higher quality. Since the main reason that you are both there is for the physical communion of shared sex, there is a natural tendency to really focus on making sure that it is good for both you and your fuck buddy, since that is the primary way that your “success” is being measured! It is also different for men and women. Their bodies are fundamentally different which means the foundations start men and women in different places. It also extends to social conditioning and the society that we inhabit. In this article I would like to explore not just why we might want to find a fuck buddy, but specifically, the top two reasons why women what to find fuck buddies.

For adventure and excitement

Whilst a traditional relationship gives stability and comfort, that same stability can quickly become quite boring. Finding a fuck buddy is a fabulous way to bring some excitement to your life. Hooking up with someone purely for sex, knowing you can just fuck and fly, being able to push your sexual boundaries as you explore new adventures in bed… it is no wonder that women want to find a fuck buddy, most men do too!

To have screaming orgasms

This may seem obvious, but it is a huge driver. Women are complicated creatures. Bringing a woman to orgasm takes time, effort and skill. When you have a fuck buddy, you are in a position to be completely honest about what you do and do not like in bed. This sexual honesty can often dramatically improve the sexual experience for women, leading them to a deeper, longer and more satisfying orgasm. A note for any heterosexual men reading this: make your fuck buddy orgasm and they are ten times more likely to come back for seconds!

Sex is the best thing in the world

EdBennett — Tue, 16 Oct 2018 18:57:17 +0000

16 Oct 2018 - 19:57 | Tags: sex is the best, why casual sex is important, how sex can change the world

Some of the greatest pleasures are ones that come from the body. They are a basic need, and they are driven by a fierce desire that comes from the body because they are crucial to survival. Anyone without that drive or instinct has quickly been bred out, and thus people are no longer born without that drive. A great example of this is food. We all need to eat to live. If we do not eat, then ultimately, we die. As humans we love food! We crave it, we will spend vast sums of money on it, we will travel far to get certain foods or book restaurants months in advance just to be able to consume the specific food that is offered. Food is one of the best things in life… but it is not the very best. In this article I am going to argue why sex is the best thing in the world. I am going to argue why this is so based on the unique drive behind our desire for it, and I will finish by urging you to find yourself a fuck buddy (if you don’t already have someone you can hook up with), because to deny yourself access to sex is to deny yourself something that is more central to your overall happiness than food!

Sex is a basic need

Sex is clearly a biologically driven need. You want and desire it in the same way that you do food. This is because procreation is a key survival mechanism of the species, so you are made to want it. This means that sex and the lust that makes you find a fuck buddy can be as strong as hunger to find food itself, or the thirst which drives us to find water. However, what makes sex even better is that it remains a choice.

Unlike food - you can decide

If you are hungry you have to eat. This means that there are times when you will eat something that is adequate or sub-standard because you have to. This is not true for sex! If the only options available to have sex are, ahem, sub-standard, then you don’t have to have it! You have a choice! This is the key distinguishing factor from food and thirst.

Superior because you can have your cake and eat it

So like food where you are driven to hunger, with sex you are driven to lust which makes it a powerful emotion. Unlike food you don’t have to heed it! If you meet a potential fuck buddy and you don’t like them, there is no reason that you have to take them home!

Sex is the best

This is what makes sex the best. All the core driven lust like a core need, but all the choice still remaining to you as to whether you action it or not.

Find a fuck buddy and go for it

So if you don’t have a fuck buddy, go get one! This is as important as food – so go feast!

The only way to get over a man, is to get under a man

EdBennett — Mon, 21 Nov 2016 19:28:44 +0000

21 Nov 2016 - 19:28 | Tags: why casual sex is important, why have sex, sex is healthy

This is one for the all the ladies on this website, if you are guy this in no way precludes you from getting involved and read this – I think that the message here is extremely relevant no matter what your gender is. Since the saying is aimed at women however, I am going to be generally talking to all the girls here.

Different process depending on the situation right? Wrong!

You think that its different every time. That depending on what it was like with that person you need to do different things to sort yourself out. Wrong. It really does not matter – the answer is the same.

How you met – it doesn’t matter. The only way to get over a man is to get under a man.

So you met a guy, maybe it was through the internet in a deliberate search for a man, or maybe he hit on you in the street completely unexpectedly. It is more likey something in between these two points – but it doesn’t matter. If you broke up, the only way to get over that guy, is to get underneath another guy. It makes no difference how you met the person. You might feel if you met through friends you need to find closure through talking to them, or by approaching the people you shared a connection with. The bottom line, the only way to close the door on that is to fuck another guy. Fact.

How good the relationship was – it doesn’t matter. The only way to get over a man is to get under a man.

Maybe your relationship was amazing. He was kind, caring, but also fucked you like an animal in the bedroom. It was unbelievably healthy for you, and your time together was bliss. Now it is gone, you are devastated. Surely recovering from a good relationship like this over a bad relationship is a different process, right? I mean if the relationship was terrible, you are probably happier out of it so you don’t really need to fuck someone else to get over it. Right? Wrong. It doesn’t matter how good or bad the relationship was, you need to get over it and move on. You cannot cheat and skip the step of healing, even if you are “better off” without the person. You still need to move on – and the best way to do that? It is in the title of this article: the best way to get over and man is to get under a man. This about it

Why Casual Sex IS Important

EdBennett — Wed, 22 Jan 2014 09:00:00 +0000

22 Jan 2014 - 09:00 | Tags: why casual sex is important

Society is constantly telling is that sleeping around with different partners is ‘bad’ and that anyone doing it is leading an ‘unhealthy’ lifestyle. People in monogamous relationships often look down on those that prefer multiple partners or people who maintain several open relationships. The truth is though that sex is one of the most primitive and basic human needs. We all want it because our bodies are programmed to want it. To deny this and scoff at those who don’t do it in the prescribed societal manner is idiotic at best and downright dangerous and damaging at worst.

How casual sex can help
People often turn to casual sex when they have come out of a long term monogamous relationship. I know I did and I also know it hasn’t done me any harm in the long run. Rather then doing me the damage that modern society predicts on a daily basis, it actually helped me realise my value again. After I broke up with my last girlfriend I was like many people fresh out of a relationship, in a pretty low state. I didn’t have sex for months. In fact I wasn’t even interested in women for nearly six months. I even went on several dates with women a month after I had split up with my girlfriend only to realise I wasn’t ready yet. All normal and all fine. However several months go by and guess what? I’m craving the company and warmth of another body next to mine in the bedroom.

So I started dating again and oddly enough the first time I slept with a new woman, I was surprised by how good it made me feel. Someone other then my girlfriend was attracted to me and wanted to sleep with me? Big compliment at any point in your life and a huge ego boost and realisation of your true value.

The nub of the truth
Yes it is nice to be in a long term relationship, but only if you’re with a compatible partner sexually and mentally. If you’re not then the sex and your life can be total hell. Casual sex offers a way to reconnect with yourself and with other people at the most basic human level. It can help to remind you of your value and is a whole lot of fun at the same time if done properly. The freedom casual sex grants allows you to free yourself of inhibitions and discover things about yourself that you might not have discovered in a monogamous relationship because you were too afraid to try.

And if you’re looking to get back into a committed monogamous relationship then having casual sex in fact better prepares you to be with the right person in the long term. You’ll know more about what you like and don’t like and be far more comfortable with yourself.

So to all the naysayers of casual sex; grow up and get your fuck on.

Happy fucking!